What does sister mean?

15 reasons my sisters mean the world to me

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Sister, noun (sis·ter) a person who’s been where you’ve been; someone you can call when things aren’t going right. More than just family, a sister is a forever friend.

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On this day when the whole world celebrates women, I celebrate the two most important ones in my life: my sisters, who I call my ‘wings’. We live farther apart than I wish we did, however, we are as close as could be.

I thought it would be so easy to write about them and about our relationship… I couldn’t have been more wrong! Even if I wrote about all the basic stuff that having sisters represents, I still wouldn’t be able to express what my sisters mean to me. But I’ll try anyway, and a little bit more. 😉

Here are 15 reasons my sisters mean the word to me (in no particular order, but all of humungous importance)

1) I can trust them with my life

No matter what you have to tell. It can be the silliest/most embarrassing story, or the deepest thoughts. It’s great to have more than one sister, because you can talk to a different one about different things. Bear in mind, though, that they’ll be telling the other sister about the conversation (unless you tell them not to, but why?), which is OK. Depending on the seriousness of the problem, sometimes you just need someone to break the news in a different way.

2) They know me (= they know when I’m not telling the truth)

You think you can just tell her that everything is fine? Think again. She knows you. She knows your weaknesses, so no matter how many times you tell her that ‘no, you’re not upset/annoyed/sad/p****d off’ etc, they somehow know that’s all bullshit. The good thing is that they will not insist, and will wait until you’re ready to talk. Or… they will nag you until you talk. Which most of the times you’ll be glad that they did. It is also good to remember that your sister(s) will always tell you the truth, no matter what. You may not want to hear it, or it will hurt. She’ll tell you anyway. And if it hurts, you’ll have reason number 9.

3) I have someone to laugh with ~ and at

Childhood/teenage years memories; love stories gone wrong (they’ve helped you get over them, of course); silly inside jokes; sisterly jokes and pranks; adventures you go together; situations they’ve be through that will make you want to tease them forever and a day (and you most likely will).

4) I get the best hugs ever.

In my case, I live abroad, so whenever we meet, the hugs are just amazing! There’s so much love involved in those hugs, that it can make your heart melt, and all the bad things go away.

5) I can mock some of their favourites in music, films, etc

… but I tolerate them. Even when she has “university country music” playing in the car, you won’t mind. What will matter is the adventures the music will be the soundtrack to.

6) They’re part of my crazy, not-so-perfect family

Sometimes you just need to unburden yourself when you’re feeling overwhelmed with family issues. Who, better than a sister, to listen to you without judgment and say: ‘I know what you mean.’ – and really mean it? You also have a built in ally with your parents, and always have someone to hang out with when you’re home on holidays, or at family functions. Plus, only you are allowed to talk and criticize your family, and if an outsider does it… oh, my… they’ve totally messed with the wrong people.

7) Had a huge fight with them? Don’t worry – they’ll still be there at the end of the day

Once I had a big argument with my middle sister – because of a jerk of a boyfriend, ugh! – and we barely spoke for a whole year. That was the most ridiculous thing I’ve ever done, and I still feel terrible about that. I can’t even remember how we made up. Today it feels like it had never happened.

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8) They’ll always offer a solution to my problem(s), even if it’s not the best one

You are so close, and still have such different personalities! Being your sister, of course she’ll do the best she can to help, and she’ll probably shower you with ideas and possible solutions. She’ll want to know exactly what the problem is, and will give you great and/or impossible solutions, and crazy ideas – which you will laugh about together.

9) They’re a constant source of love, encouragement and honesty

They’ll fill your WhatsApp messages with kisses and hearts and upside down smiley faces. She’ll remind you about your blessings when you’re complaining about your life/job/children/partner/body issues. She will cheer for your success, be your number 1 fan, and will be genuinely happy when you reach your goals.

10) I was given another family role: be an auntie!

You’ll have to chance to show how an amazing aunt you can be, and learn how much more you can love your sister (if that’s something possible) by loving her offspring. What’s more, you know your kids will have a kick-ass aunt (if or when you choose to have them).

11) We learn about, advise on, or go through the stages of womanhood together

If you are an older sister, you can pass on your experience and advise on what to expect. If you are a younger sister, you will probably suffer much less than your sister(s), as you’ll have all the knowledge… plus the tricks! 😉 Your sister understands PMS, and will cut you some slack when you bitch about… which takes me to the next reason…

12) I can bitch about anyone with her

You will probably bitch about some people you have in common in your life, which will make it much more fun. You’ll also bitch about your other sister, which is perfectly acceptable. Outsiders, beware: only sisters are allowed to bitch about another sister. Talk badly about, or hurt any of her sisters, and you’ll have her beat the crap out of you. Just saying. (I guess I may include in this reason any female cousins that are also close to them, and of course, their mother.)

13) Our looks have meanings

Sometimes your looks will be part of your inside jokes; at other times they will deliver ‘SOS messages’. Whatever they mean, you are always in sync and ready to come to the rescue.

14) I have the right to tease them mercilessly

… and she’ll do the same. That will make great memories for reasons 3 and 4. This may also include reasons 5 and 7. For outsiders, reason 12 applies.

15) We ‘could’ get matching tattoos together

This hasn’t happened yet, but I still haven’t lost hope. 😉

What are the reasons that make your sisters mean the world to you?

Dani x

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Happy 21st birthday to my beautiful, intelligent and talented sister, Jamie!

As my little sister celebrates her birthday this week (and OH, are we celebrating), I wanted to write something special just for her, here on the blog.

Because you see, Jamie isn’t just my sister…she’s my best friend and one of the most important people in my life. I feel so incredibly lucky to have been blessed with a little sister and in honor of her special day, here are 21 both serious and silly definitions of what it means to be a sister.

A sister is…

1. A built-in best friend. Not only do I have a sister, I have a friend for life. No need to worry about who will be my maid of honor at my wedding or who will be my first child’s godmother; life has thankfully already built that special person into my life, and it’s my little sister. I couldn’t be more grateful.

2. An ally, for life. Whether we’re standing up against our mom telling us our dresses are too short (I swear, mom…that’s how dresses are made these days!) or lamenting a sticky situation no matter the topic, I know Jamie will always have my back and take my side. It’s us against the world.

Styling since the day she was born. Check out those hipster glasses!

3. A personal stylist. Double the closet space and double the amount of shoes. What could be better? Jamie has an amazing fashion sense and lately, I’ve even been letting her dress me (see: Fourth of July outfit) so I definitely reap the benefits of having a stylish sister.

4. A sounding board. If I ever need advice, need to vent or just need to share a story, Jamie is always there to listen, commiserate or celebrate. She’s that one person I know I can always go to for an unbiased opinion. Well, maybe not completely unbiased…she does, after all, take my side quite a lot. But she also provides lots of solid advice and guidance, just like a sister should.

5. An on-demand editor (and blog title genius extraordinaire). When I need a blog post or e-newsletter proofread, the first person I send my work to is my sister. Not only is she extremely intelligent, but she’s super creative and always makes me think of things in new ways. And when I’m at a total loss for a clever blog title, Jamie always comes through with something amazing.

6. A person who understands, encourages and enables my John Mayer obsession. When I learned John Mayer was coming to Philadelphia a few weeks ago, my sister was right there next to me plotting ways to get tickets to get up close and personal. And when we landed tickets to a private concert? Jamie and I rocked out in the third row and shared the most epic of experiences.

A typical Friday night in the Lawlor house.

7. Someone to drink wine with on a Friday night. You know those nights when you feel too lazy to put on clothes and go out? When you have a sister, you can stay home in your pajamas, drink wine and still feel like you had a perfectly social weekend. Be jealous.

8. Someone to send silly Snapchat’s to on the regular. Jamie introduced me to the beauty of the silliest social network ever created, Snapchat, and up until last week she was also my only friend on the social network (#ImTooOldForThis). My favorite thing is communicating with Jamie solely through Snapchat and you’d be surprised at how much you can get across with a funny photo that only lasts 10 seconds.

Girl knows the way to my heart (and belly).

9. A person to share my career passion with. When Jamie started studying communication, I had no idea she would turn out to be just as big a PR geek as I am. From exceeding expectations at three internships so far and serving as PRSSA chapter president, I’m so proud of what she’s accomplished so far and I look forward to seeing where her career takes her when she graduates from college next year.

10. Someone who supports me in life’s biggest moments. When I saw Jamie at the finish line of the Philadelphia Half Marathon this past November (with an everything bagel in tow!), I felt so incredibly loved and supported. The fact that she drove from school in Delaware at the crack of dawn to see me run by for two seconds filled me with joy and completely made the entire 13.1 mile race worth the struggle.

11. Someone to talk to in the middle of the night. Back when Jamie and I shared a bedroom circa the late 1990’s and early 2000’s, we also shared many a middle-of-the-night conversation, me from the top bunk, and her from the bottom. Nothing beat our favorite goodnight send off: “I’m sorry if I did anything bad today, do you forgive me?” “Yes, I forgive you. Do you forgive me?” “Yes. I love you.” “I love you too.” So sweet.

12. A fellow music geek who understands the epic-ness that is Les Miserables. From Lawlor family sing-a-longs to multiple attempts to string Les Mis lyrics together via only emojis to sobbing in the movie theater, no one understands the Les Miserables obsession more than Jamie. That’s because she’s the very reason we all fell in love with the show in the first place, when she played Young Cosette at the age of 11 for our town’s high school production of the famous Broadway musical.

Pre-race photo at the Jingle Bell 5K. This photo later landed in Fitness Magazine!

13. A friend I can force to do races with me. Somehow along my crazy running journey, I wrangled Jamie into running her first 5K and then quite a few more (some of them involving goofy costumes, making her all the more awesome).

14. Someone who isn’t afraid to tell you when you’re being ridiculous. A sister keeps you grounded and isn’t afraid to call you out or tell you when you’re being absolutely crazy. Thanks, Jamie, for keeping my ridiculousness under control.

15. An amazing baker. No one can bake like my sister, Jamie. The girl gets into baking mode every so often and when she does, watch out…the entire house is in danger because literally everything she makes tastes amazing. Case in point: check out this cake she made me for my birthday.

16. A person I can’t go an entire day without talking to at least once. It’s weird enough if Jamie and I don’t have some sort of conversation before 9 a.m. let alone going an entire day without communicating. In fact, I’m not sure it has ever happened (and I hope it never does!).

It really doesn’t get much more adorable than this.

17. Someone to wear matching outfits with. My mom was NOTORIOUS for dressing all the Lawlor kids alike, whether for a special occasion, holiday or random day with no rhyme or reason. Looking back, I laugh hysterically when I see some of our get-up’s.

18. A firecracker. Jamie is passionate…some may call it stubborn, but basically, she knows what she wants and doesn’t let anyone get in her way or tell her no. Oh, and she’s ALWAYS been this way. Exhibit A: photo to the right post-major temper tantrum (but I’m sure she eventually got her way!).

19. The first person you text or call when something good (or bad) happens. My sister is one of the absolute first people I want to talk to when something big happens in my life, no matter if the news is positive or negative. I know she’ll be there to support me either way.

20. Someone who knows all your little quirks and still loves you anyway. I’m sure she could list a dozen of them and I could definitely name a few of hers, but regardless, we embrace all of each other’s unique qualities. That’s the beauty of being a family and that’s what makes our relationship so special and irreplaceable.

21 years ago I was like, “What IS this little thing?” and now I have an incredible best friend.

21. Forever. Simply put, a sister is forever. No matter where we end up in life, whether we’re near or far from each other (though it better be near!) having a sister means having a bond that truly can never be broken.

Happy birthday, Jamie! I hope you have a wonderful day and I can’t wait to celebrate with you for many more years to come.

Do you have a sister or a sibling that you’re extremely close to? Share what the relationship means to you in the comments below.

Life is not a bed of roses. How you make your bed is exactly how you’ll lie on it. In life also, friends come and go. Many leave us heartbroken and many also leave us better than the way they met us but they will always leave at one point or the other. You will always have a girlfriend at one point in your life or a boyfriend that brings so much joy into your life but there is no guarantee that they will always be there for you all the time you will need them. In the journey of life, people will always walk in and out of our lives due to one reason or the other, but sisters are for life. Your sister will always remain your sister no matter what. Sisters are best friends for life, come what may. In this article. we’ll be looking at some of the best sister quotes you can find. Take a look.

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Quotes About Sisters – Sisters Quotes

1. One of the best things about being an adult is the realization that you can share with your sister and still have plenty for yourself. ~Betsy Cohen

2. We know one another’s faults, virtues, catastrophes, mortifications, triumphs, rivalries, desires, and how long we can each hang by our hands to a bar. We have been banded together under pack codes and tribal laws. ~Rose Macaulay

3. Sisters may share the same mother and father but appear to come from different families. ~Author Unknown

4. Sister to sister we will always be, a couple of nuts off the family tree. ~Author Unknown

5. We acquire friends and we make enemies, but our sisters come with the territory. ~Evelyn Loeb

6. Sisters are blossoms in the garden of life. ~Author Unknown

7. Our siblings push buttons that cast us in roles we felt sure we had let go of long ago — the baby, the peacekeeper, the caretaker, the avoider… It doesn’t seem to matter how much time has elapsed or how far we’ve traveled. ~Jane Mersky Leder

8. Our siblings. They resemble us just enough to make all their differences confusing, and no matter what we choose to make of this, we are cast in relation to them our whole lives long. ~Susan Scarf Merrell

9. Sibling relationships — and 80 percent of Americans have at least one — outlast marriages, survive the death of parents, resurface after quarrels that would sink any friendship. They flourish in a thousand incarnations of closeness and distance, warmth, loyalty, and distrust. ~Erica E. Goode

10. You need a strong family because at the end, they will love you and support you unconditionally. Luckily, I have my dad, mom, and sister. ~Esha Gupta

11. Siblings are the people we practice on, the people who teach us about fairness and cooperation and kindness and caring — quite often the hard way. ~Pamela Dugdale

12. Sisters function as safety nets in a chaotic world simply by being there for each other. ~Carol Saline

13. Sweet is the voice of a sister in the season of sorrow, and wise is the counsel of those who love us. ~Benjamin Disraeli

14. When mom and dad don’t understand, a sister always will. ~Author Unknown

15. Elder sisters never can do younger ones justice! ~Charlotte M. Yonge

16. A toast once heard: “To my big sister, who never found her second Easter egg until I’d found my first.” ~Robert Brault

17. A sister is a gift to the heart, a friend to the spirit, a golden thread to the meaning of life. ~Isadora James

18. Sisters function as safety nets in a chaotic world simply by being there for each other. ~Carol Saline

19. Sweet is the voice of a sister in the season of sorrow, and wise is the counsel of those who love us. ~Benjamin Disraeli

20. A sister is both your mirror – and your opposite. ~Elizabeth Fishel

21. Elder sisters never can do younger ones justice! ~Charlotte M. Yonge

22. A toast once heard: “To my big sister, who never found her second Easter egg until I’d found my first.” ~Robert Brault, rbrault.blogspot.com

23. A sister is a gift to the heart, a friend to the spirit, a golden thread to the meaning of life. ~Isadora James

24. My sister taught me everything I really need to know, and she was only in sixth grade at the time. ~Linda Sunshine

25. I, who have no sisters or brothers, look with some degree of innocent envy on those who may be said to be born to friends. ~James Boswell

26. How do people make it through life without a sister? ~Sara Corpening

27. If your sister is in a tearing hurry to go out and cannot catch your eye, she’s wearing your best sweater. ~Pam Brown

28. Sisters are different flowers from the same garden. ~Author Unknown

29. Is solace anywhere more comforting than in the arms of a sister. ~Alice Walker

30. Big sisters are the crab grass in the lawn of life. ~Charles M. Schulz

31. If you don’t understand how a woman could both love her sister dearly and want to wring her neck at the same time, then you were probably an only child. ~Linda Sunshine

32. You can kid the world. But not your sister. ~Charlotte Gray

33. I would like more sisters, that the taking out of one, might not leave such stillness. ~Emily Dickinson

34. Help one another, is part of the religion of sisterhood. ~Louisa May Alcott

35. Sisters never quite forgive each other for what happened when they were five. ~Pam Brown

36. In thee my soul shall own combined the sister and the friend. ~Catherine Killigrew

37. Brothers and sisters are as close as hands and feet. ~Vietnamese Proverb

38. We may look old and wise to the outside world. But to each other, we are still in junior school. ~Charlotte Gray

39. Whatever you do they will love you; even if they don’t love you they are connected to you till you die. You can be boring and tedious with sisters, whereas you have to put on a good face with friends. ~Deborah Moggach

40. You keep your past by having sisters. As you get older, they’re the only ones who don’t get bored if you talk about your memories. ~Deborah Moggach

41. It’s hard to be responsible, adult and sensible all the time. How good it is to have a sister whose heart is as young as your own. ~Pam Brown

42. Of two sisters one is always the watcher, one the dancer. ~Louise Glück

43. Sisterly love is, of all sentiments, the most abstract. Nature does not grant it any functions. ~Ugo Betti

44. To the outside world we all grow old. But not to brothers and sisters. We know each other as we always were. We know each other’s hearts. We share private family jokes. We remember family feuds and secrets, family griefs and joys. We live outside the touch of time. ~Clara Ortega

45. The best thing about having a sister was that I always had a friend. ~Cali Rae Turner

46. An older sister helps one remain half child, half woman. ~Author Unknown

47. An older sister is a friend and defender — a listener, conspirator, a counsellor and a sharer of delights. And sorrows too. ~Pam Brown

48. There is no better friend than a sister. And there is no better sister than you. ~Author Unknown

49. There can be no situation in life in which the conversation of my dear sister will not administer some comfort to me. ~Mary Montagu

50. I know my older sister loves me because she gives me all her old clothes and has to go out and buy new ones. ~Author unknown, attributed to a 4-year-old named Lauren

51. In the cookies of life, sisters are the chocolate chips. ~Author Unknown

52. When sisters stand shoulder to shoulder, who stands a chance against us? ~Pam Brown

53. The mildest, drowsiest sister has been known to turn tiger if her sibling is in trouble. ~Clara Ortega

54. A sister can be seen as someone who is both ourselves and very much not ourselves — a special kind of double. ~Toni Morrison

55. Children of the same family, the same blood, with the same first associations and habits, have some means of enjoyment in their power, which no subsequent connections can supply… ~Jane Austen, Mansfield Park, 1814

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56. What’s the good of news if you haven’t a sister to share it? ~Jenny DeVries

57. Sisters is probably the most competitive relationship within the family, but once the sisters are grown, it becomes the strongest relationship. ~Margaret Mead

58. Bless you, my darling, and remember you are always in the heart — oh tucked so close there is no chance of escape — of your sister. ~Katherine Mansfield

59. A sister smiles when one tells one’s stories — for she knows where the decoration has been added. ~Chris Montaigne

60. More than Santa Claus, your sister knows when you’ve been bad and good. ~Linda Sunshine

Happy Birthday Sister Quotes

61. I am so blessed and thankful to have a sister like you in my life. I celebrate your Birthday! You deserve the best.

62. Wonderful sister, I love you so much and on your special day, I double it up!

63. Family made us sisters, life made us friends. Here’s a great big birthday hug full of love and happy wishes as you celebrate your special day!

64. Looks like you are ready to party! Let’s have a blast tonight! Happy Birthday to my dearest sister!

65. There is only one place where I can keep my every strength, my every weakness, my every secret safe. It’s in my sister’s heart. Happy Birthday to my wonderful Sis!

66. Oh, that everyone could have a sister like you! Wish you a very happy and sweet birthday!

67. Happy Birthday to my fantastic, wonderful, great, super, beautiful sister!

68. Let’s celebrate this special day by promising each other that we’ll always lookout for one another, no matter what. Happy Birthday to you, my dearest sister!

69. It is wonderful having a sister like you. If I have another chance I will choose to you be my sister over and again because no one else can love and care like you do. Happy birthday to you my dearest sister.

70. You are such a great sister who is unstoppable and I am very proud to have you before me. Happy birthday!

71. What a great opportunity to see another year! Surely, I see all things turning around for your good. Happy Birthday!

72. I dream of good health and happiness and I want those dreams to come true for you too. Happy Birthday Sister!

73. Your physical beauty may fade in the years to come but your inner goodness and beauty will always shine through sister. I am so glad to be your twin. Happy Birthday!

74. You have given the word sister an entirely different meaning because of all the patience and the sacrifices you’ve done for me. A brother can only be so lucky that’s why I thank the Lord for giving you to me. Happy Birthday!

75. I don’t know what I have done to deserve a sister like you. Thanks for the encouragement when I am down and the words of wisdom when I am up. Happy Birthday!

76. Childhood can never be happier with a vibrant and adventurous sister like you. It’s a wonder you can sit still on the head table during your special day. Happy Birthday!

77. We did not choose to be sisters but still we clicked and chose to be good friends as well. What a privilege to be sisters and friends as well. Happy Birthday!

78. You’ve been with me through the years and while not every minute was all smiles, you can bet that every minute we spent fighting, bonding and making mom crazy are all worth remembering. Happy Birthday Sister!

79. I have many friends to hang around with but I know not all of them will be with me forever. But you sister, I know , will be forever here with me in heart and soul. Happy Birthday!

80. The heavens above has bestowed on me a very special gift that I will have for life—you! Happy Birthday Sister!

81. I’m not sure what I did right in my past life to deserve a sister like you. Thanks for being there even when I’m grouchy and no fun to be with. Happy Birthday Sister!

82. Not all angels are in heaven because I have you here with me everyday. Thanks for being an angel who bears with me and my moods. Happy Birthday Sister!

83. I saw a falling star and I wished for you to be happy and to have fulfillment in love, career and life. Happy Birthday!

84. I can wish all the riches in the world for you but I know that what would really make you happy are things that money cannot buy. So I wish you all the intangibles that can make your spirit rich. Happy Birthday!

85. A sister like you can be compared to a rainbow because you bring so much color to my life. I wish you a happy birthday and a brighter year ahead sister!

86. I never believed that one person is capable of expressing all these emotions – jealousy, happiness, anger, joy — all at one time. Only you, sister, can have such a colorful life. Happy Birthday!

87. You are the best sister for me. I actually don’t have any choice because you are the only sister I have. Happy Birthday Sister!

88. I thank the Lord for giving me a lovable and huggable sister like you. Your birthday is always a blessing to us, your family. You’ll never know how precious you are to us.

89. Pillow fights are out forte but when it comes to defending each other from the rest of the world then we are the best pair. Happy Birthday to the best sister in the world!

90. We hold the record for having the most fights in a day so I’m wondering why we still end up supporting and loving each other. Is that because we’re sisters? Happy Birthday!

91. I am always so proud and fond of you dear sister no matter how many times you pull my hair or tell me you are far prettier than me. At least I know I am wittier. Happy Birthday!

92. We grew up much like twins and I admit I am having a hard time now that we are living our own lives. Seeing you during your birthday is one of the best gifts for me and for you. Happy Birthday!

93. I can only count the blessings that I wish the Lord would grant you today. Now you can start counting your candles and the gifts that your loved ones have brought for you. Happy Birthday!

94. God must have thought I have done some good things in my past life because I was given a baby sister like you. Happy Birthday Sister!

95. If there is one person I know who will stay with me through thick and thin then it would be you. I am lucky to have a sister like you who can stand my eccentricities. Happy Birthday!

96. Maybe it’s because we are so alike that we can stand each other’s mood swings. Thanks for being around even when I am in a foul mood. Happy Birthday Sister!

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97. You keep my feet on the ground no matter how many achievements I make or how popular I become. Thanks for being always there to tell me that I need not change to belong. Happy Birthday, Sis!

98. I always look back on my childhood whenever I feel down because the moments I spent with you while growing up were so much fun and unforgettable. Happy Birthday, Sister!

99. Thanks for standing by me even when I know I don’t deserve it. We may not be sisters by blood but I know we will always be there for each other no matter what the future brings. Happy Birthday, Soul Sister!

100. I may not always be kind or nice to you but you always were pleasant to me. That’s what a true sister should be. Happy Birthday!

Sister Inlaw Quotes

101. Gosh I love hanging out with my sister-in-law. I love that girl to death!

102. Y’all change your relationship status more than anybody else in the world. How do u expect her to be my sister-in-law if y’all are broken up?

103. Well, tonight turned into a heart to heart with my new sister-in-law after my dad and brother laughed at everything I had to say.

104. Bonding with my sister-in-law tonight, haha my big sis would be jealous.

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105. Just realized that I called my sister-in-law, my sister AND law.

106. Why is everyone congratulating me on my sister-in-law being pregnant? I had nothing to do with it!

107. Sorry, I can’t hangout. My uncle’s cousin’s sister-in-law’s best friend’s insurance agent’s roommate’s pet goldfish died. Maybe next time…

108. I love my sister-in-law. Like this night has just changed how much I really trust & rely on her.

109. You know why the internet is awesome? I don’t have to explain what a frenulum is to my sister-in-law on my own.

110. This show has shown me how to throw a punch. But watching my future sister-in-law go through breast cancer has also shown me how to take one.

111. I started walking at night with my sister-in-law which has been amazing. It really does something for you. It just kind of clears the mind, it just makes you feel better, things start to tighten a little bit.

112. My sister-in-law is a painter, and I’ll say, how long did it take you to paint that painting. She’ll say, It took me maybe three days, but it took me all my life to get the skills to paint that painting.

Funny Sister Quotes

113. My sister is my little star, and I’m excited for her and proud of her. With her, I’m protective, but also I don’t want to be that sister who’s really pushy and thinks they know everything and making her feel like she doesn’t know what she’s doing. I’m trying to be that cool older sister and not the mom, but it’s hard. ~ Gigi Hadid

114. She is your mirror, shining back at you with a world of possibilities. She is your witness, who sees you at your worst and best, and loves you anyway. She is your partner in crime, your midnight companion, someone who knows when you are smiling, even in the dark. She is your teacher, your defense attorney, your personal press agent, even your shrink. Some days, she’s the reason you wish you were an only child. ~ Barbara Alpert

115. I smile because you are my sister, I laugh because there is nothing you can do about it! ~ Anonymous

116. Of two sisters one is always the watcher, one the dancer. ~ Louise Glück

117. Sisters never quite forgive each other for what happened when they were five. ~ Pam Brown

118. My sister has the best sister in the world. ~ Anonymous

119. I am the big sister which makes me the boss! ~ Anonymous

120. Sisters annoy, interfere, criticize. Indulge in monumental sulks, in huffs, in snide remarks. Borrow. Break. Monopolize the bathroom. Are always underfoot. But if catastrophe should strike, sisters are there. Defending you against all comers. ~ Pam Brown

121. More than Santa Claus, your sister knows when you’ve been bad and good. ~ Linda Sunshine

122. If your sister is in a tearing hurry to go out and cannot catch your eye, she’s wearing your best sweater. ~ Pam Brown

123. You can kid the world, but not your sister. ~ Charlotte Gray

124. Having a sister is like having a best friend you can’t get rid of. You know whatever you do, they’ll still be there. ~ Amy Li

125. Whatever it is ….my sister did it! ~ Anonymous

126. The mildest, drowsiest sister has been known to turn tiger if her sibling is in trouble. ~ Clara Ortega

127. The typewriting machine, when played with expression, is no more annoying than the piano when played by a sister or near relation. ~ Oscar Wilde

128. Never let an angry sister comb your hair. ~ Patricia McCann

129. Bless you, my darling, and remember you are always in the heart – oh tucked so close there is no chance of escape – of your sister. ~ Katherine Mansfield

130. My sister asked where Nicaragua was. I said, “Central America.” She said, “Oh so near Kansas?” I see a pole and body glitter in her future. ~ Anonymous

131. A sister will always notice her sister’s first gray hairs with glee. ~ Allison M. Lee

132. Older siblings… The only people who will pick on you for their own entertainment and beat up anyone else who tries. ~ Anonymous

133. If sisters were free to express how they really feel, parents would hear this: “Give me all the attention and all the toys and send Rebecca to live with Grandma.” ~ Linda Sunshine

134. Sorry, sweetie… I’m always going to be smarter and prettier than you! ~ Anonymous

135. Sister to sister we will always be, a couple of nuts off the family tree. ~ Anonymous

136. A sister is both your mirror – and your opposite. ~ Elizabeth Fishel

137. I can’t remember if I’m the good Sister or the evil one. ~ Anonymous

138. My sister made me do it! ~ Anonymous

139. It was nice growing up with someone like you – someone to lean on, someone to count on… someone to tell on! ~ Anonymous

140. We know one another’s faults, virtues, catastrophes, mortifications, triumphs, rivalries, desires, and how long we can each hang by our hands to a bar. We have been banded together under pack codes and tribal laws. ~ Rose Macaulay

141. A perfect sister I am not, but thankful for the one I’ve got.

142. There iz no better friend than a sister. And there is no better sister than you.

144. Bro’s and sis’s are as close as hands and feet.

145. Having a sister is like having a best friend you can’t get rid of. You know whatever you do, they’ll still be there.

146. I would like more sisters, that the taking out of one, might not leave such stillness.

147. A sister iz a little bit of childhood that can never be lost.

148. Sisters share the scent and smell – the feel of a common childhood.

149. Never let an angry sister comb your hair.

150. Big sisters are the crab grass in the lawn of life.

20 Quotes To Thank Your Sister For Having Your Back Through Thick And Thin

Best friends for life.

My sister has always been there for me. Even when we were little and would argue with each other until we were practically blue in the face, she was there for me.

Now that we’ve grown older, our relationship has gotten a lot stronger. And I know, without even the slightest bit of hesitation, that she has my back as I go through all kinds of stuff in life, just like I have hers. It’s not so much an obligation to help my family, but more so that she is one of my best friends — and I would do anything for my best friends.

But even when she holds my hand when I’m sad and tells me it’s going to be okay or laughs with me when I embarrass myself in front of strangers yet again, I don’t know how to thank her.

It’s not that I can’t, or won’t, it’s that I don’t know where to start. Do I thank her for never judging me for being the person I am? Or for always being the positive one, because she knows there are good things to come in my future (even when it doesn’t feel like it at the moment)? And even if I did know where to start, I wouldn’t want my “thank you” to feel underwhelming or impersonal.

If there was one thing I could do for my sister, it would be to show her just how much she’s helped me just by being in my life.

When you think of all the people you’ve been there for, whether it was a sibling or a friend, did you ever realize the impact you made on their lives? Maybe, but probably not. Instead, you probably told them it was no big deal and that you would always be around to have their back.

But when I think about everything my sister has done for me, even if it was just being awake late at night when I needed someone to talk to, I think about the magnitude of even just having her in my life. Without her, I wouldn’t be the person I am today.

And even if we fight (which we most definitely will) or move far away from each other, I hope she knows that I will spend my life having her back too, as a way to thank her for having mine.

Sisters you can count on (no matter what) are a rare breed, so if you have a sister like that in your life, count yourself lucky. And when you’re feeling sappy and sentimental like I am right now, don’t be afraid to call her up or text her and thank her for having your back.

If you don’t have the words to express how you feel, these sister quotes will help you out.

And when you’re all done being sappy, you can go back to calling each other nerds and stealing each other’s clothes. Because that is what sisters are for.

On having her there when you need her.

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    “I may not be able to solve all of your problems, but I promise you won’t have to face them alone.”

    On always having back up.

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      “Being sisters means you always have back up.”

      On cheering for your sister.

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        “I know it has been tough, but I’m still cheering for you (always).”

        On staying together through anything.

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          “There are rare people who will show up at the right time, help you through the hard times and stay into your best times… those are the keepers.” — Nausicaa Twila

          On just having someone around.

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            “Sometimes we need someone to simply be there. Not to fix anything, or to do anything in particular, but just to let us feel that we are cared for and supported.”

            On being an angel.

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              “Sister, you are like my angel, with a love that always glows. You are one of the greatest gifts my heart will ever know.”

              On never letting go.

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                “A person that truly loves you will never let you go, no matter how hard the situation is.”

                On finding your other half.

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                  “To my sister: You are my best friend, my human diary, and my other half. You mean the world to me and I love you.”

                  On having a loyal sister.

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                    “A loyal sister is worth a thousand friends.”

                    On reminding your sister you’re always there.

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                      “When life’s hills become too steep to climb on my own, my sister takes my hand and reminds me that I didn’t have to climb it alone to begin with.”

                      On making things seem less terrible together.

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                        “If one day you feel like crying, call me. I can’t promise to make you laugh, but I’m willing to cry with you.”

                        On having each other always.

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                          “The greatest gift our parents ever gave us was each other.”

                          On being nice to your sister.

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                            “The best advice my mother ever gave me: ‘Be nice to your sister. Your friends will come and go, but you will always have your sister. And I promise that someday-she will be your best friend.”

                            On being there in the good times and the bad.

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                              “You are the person who holds me in my bad times, you are the person who dances with me in my happiness. I can’t recall even a single day when you were absent from my life. I really love you sister.”

                              On going through it all.

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                                “Sisters are like cookies and milk… Whether things are sweet or crummy, they’re better together.”

                                On being each other’s safety net.

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                                  “Sisters function as safety nets in a chaotic world simply by being there for each other.” — Carol Saline

                                  On being everything for your sister.

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                                    “My support, my ally, my entertainment, my audience, my critic, my biggest fan, my best friend… my sister!”

                                    On lifting each other up.

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                                      “Sisters are angels who lift us up when our wings forget how to fly.”

                                      On being there if she asks for help.

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                                        “She stands firmly on her own two feet and I just behind her; should she ever need me.” — J. Iron Word

                                        A having a forever friend.

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                                          “Sister: A person who’s been where you’ve been; someone you can call when things aren’t going right; is more than just family; a sister is a forever friend.”

                                          Ali Blumenthal for Reader’s Digest

                                          Hope Rising used to dread holiday dinners with her family. Her older sister made each meal miserable, with snide comments about nearly everything Rising said or did. After one particularly insult-laden meal, Rising’s father asked her sister to apologize or leave. She left, husband and kids in tow.

                                          That was when Rising decided the relationship was over. It took 14 years and a fatal cancer diagnosis for the sisters to speak again.

                                          Blood enemies

                                          In many families, there comes a time when a decision is made that someone is done. Sometimes childhood dynamics can metastasize into toxic resentment. Sometimes an awareness dawns that you have never liked the person passing the mashed potatoes and you see no reason to keep trekking halfway across the country to see her. Sometimes an aging parent’s needs—or the prospect of an inheritance—fire the burner under simmering dysfunction.

                                          The number of Americans who are completely estranged from a sibling is relatively small—probably less than 5 percent, says Karl Pillemer, a Cornell University professor. Yet only 26 percent of 18- to 65-year-olds in an Oakland University survey reported having a highly supportive sibling relationship; 19 percent had an apathetic relationship, and 16 percent had a hostile one.

                                          When University of Pittsburgh psychologist Daniel Shaw, who studies sibling relationships in children, discussed a paper on his research on radio shows, he was surprised to get many calls from adults eager to talk about the pain of their relationships with their sisters and brothers. “Something happened, and they never forgave each other, so now they were calling in … to talk about how they had decided to forgive or how they hadn’t spoken for 20 or 30 years.”

                                          Some people cover up their estrangement because it’s tricky or embarrassing to explain. Cynthia Donnelly,* a personal trainer in New York City, used to lie. “I’d say, ‘Oh, my brother’s great, blah blah blah.’” In reality, their relationship ended three years ago, after she checked her phone in an airport and found this message from him: “Hey, if you haven’t left yet, I hope your plane crashes.”

                                          Although the total break with her brother has been a relief in some ways, Donnelly grieves their relationship: “It’s shameful to tell people who ask, ‘Why can’t you get along? What’s the big deal?’”

                                          How sibling rivalry turns to strife

                                          As kids, brothers and sisters fight. They get angry for stealing toys or crossing invisible boundaries in the backseat of the car. “The ability to fight with your sibling and resolve those conflicts can be an important developmental achievement,” says University of Illinois psychologist Laurie Kramer. Siblings who never learn to manage these conflicts are most at risk for adult family estrangement, says Katherine Conger, director of the Family Research Group at the University of California, Davis. “You have no incentive to remain in contact. You just want to stay away.”

                                          There are two personality types who appear prone to being estranged by siblings: those who are extremely hostile and those whom Jeanne Safer, a New York City psychotherapist, calls grievance collectors. “These are the ones who say, ‘You never thanked me for the flowers I gave you in 1982.’ That wears very thin on people.”

                                          Sheryl Booth* has encountered both traits. The youngest of six, Booth was the late-in-life child who unseated her sister as the baby of the family. Since then, Booth feels her sister has resented every positive event in her life—vacations, singing and acting performances, even her decision to take Buddhist vows.

                                          The sight of birthday greetings on Booth’s Facebook page sent her sister into a rage. “She put up a rant on my wall asking why people are calling me a friend,” Booth says, “because if only they knew the truth about me and what a horrible person I am to her, they wouldn’t like me.” Booth unfriended her sister.

                                          Ali Blumenthal for Reader’s Digest

                                          Mom did have a favorite

                                          To some extent, evolution is to blame. Siblings are hardwired to engage in rivalry because they compete with one another for one of life’s most critical resources—parental care. “Two hundred years ago, half of all children did not make it out of childhood,” says Frank Sulloway, a professor of psychology at the University of California, Berkeley. “The intensity of sibling competition makes much more sense when you realize that very small differences in parental favoritism could determine whether a child is taken to a doctor or not.”

                                          Two-thirds to three-quarters of mothers have a favorite child, according to Pillemer’s research. When favoritism is obvious or is interpreted as such, siblings are more likely to become estranged.

                                          But many adults shrug off perceived less-favored-child status; others let it fester. The difference is how the siblings feel about their adult lives, says psychologist Joshua Coleman, cochair of the Council on Contemporary Families. Those with successful careers and fulfilling lives are less likely to fixate on the past and even enjoy overcoming their “underdog” reputation.

                                          To break up—or make up?

                                          Completely cutting off a sibling, regardless of how much it may be deserved, has serious ramifications, Safer says. Those who initiate family estrangement often feel deep regret later. “We have our parents for 30 to 50 years, but we have siblings for 50 to 80 years,” she says. “This is the only person who remembers your childhood, and you have nothing to say to them? It’s tragic.”

                                          All the people interviewed for this story say they would reconcile—if their siblings apologized and were willing to start fresh. Hope Rising experienced that, though it took a tragedy. Last year, her sister was found to have terminal cancer. Rising flew to Denver to visit: “When I walked into my parents’ house, she was actually happy to see me.” Her sister apologized for having treated her so poorly. The sisters talk about once a week now. “I’m glad she had a change of heart,” Rising says, “but I’m sorry for the circumstances because she has less than a year to live, and all those years were wasted.”

                                          Christine Parizo had cut off her brother after he said he couldn’t get off work to fly from California to Massachusetts for her daughter’s baptism and she discovered he went to Las Vegas instead. But two years later, Parizo agreed to meet him while she was in California on business. He explained that her daughter’s baptism had been during the final stages of his divorce. “I had no idea what he had been going through,” she says. After that, Parizo’s brother started texting and connecting via Instagram and Facebook. More important, she says, was reclaiming their history. “It’s nice to share memories with someone who has the same perspective.”

                                          This is one reason, Kramer notes, that even siblings in contentious relationships still feel pulled to one another. “Another person knows how your mother gets when she’s packing for a trip or when the car breaks down,” she says. “That shared set of experiences and that shared understanding are very powerful.”

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                                          I [18m] think my sister [19f] might be starting to develop strange feelings for me, I’m not sure if I’m just imagining it or going crazy? How should I handle this?

                                          Sister and I grew up in a foster home, it was really shit to be honest. We never knew our biological parents since were taken away by CPS when we were both young. I don’t know how bad they could have been because our foster parents weren’t that great either.

                                          There were a lot of beatings, foster dad was usually drunk, foster mother didn’t give a shit and was very emotionally and mentally cruel to both of us. I ran away from home quite a few times; I probably wasn’t the perfect kid myself, I got into trouble a lot, with the police sometimes.

                                          My sister’s best friend had these parents who were really nice and they were really kind and compassionate to both of us. Often later when my sister or I would run away, it would be to them, and they’d keep us there till we were calm and then drive us back home.

                                          I feel like our foster parents kind of just thought we’d be an extra pair of hands for labour, to treat as slaves around the house. If there was any affection, I might have missed it. In any case, I digress.

                                          When I turned 18 late last year, my sister and I both started planning to move out. She was working full time already at the same place her best friend worked, and she asked her friend if she could set me up a job there as well, so now we both work at the same place. Its really good, it gives me something to work towards as well as money to call my own, and my sister and I take care of each other when the time calls for it. Her friends parents are always there for emotional support but we’ve never needed any financial support, we’ve got our own place we live together and we are completely independent. As for our foster parents, well we keep in very loose touch, sometimes they call, sometimes we call, but there isn’t much affection there and I feel like they never really cared for us especially in the last few years and were glad to get rid of us. I don’t know what impact we had on their life, but I try not to think ill of them in any way.

                                          My sister and I are really close, we are both really open and emotional with each other, we go to each other whenever we need a shoulder to cry on or any emotional support. Its been like that our whole lives, we basically rely on each other to live.

                                          I’ve noticed my sister has been treating me differently recently, I don’t know honestly how long its gone on for or if I’m just going crazy and imagining it, but I swear somethings up. I feel almost like the way she is treating me sometimes is more like a romantic way rather than a sibling way?

                                          I’ve noticed we hug each other a lot more than we used to, and the hugs are way more close and personal and last longer. I guess that seems innocent enough, or I could just be paranoid. She also smiles at me and blushes around me way more than before, almost like a girl with a crush or something. She kisses me a lot too, way more than she used to, on the cheek, on the forehead, and asks for kisses back. I think she’s just really fond of me and happy to have me around, but I’m not sure if its too much really.

                                          This is the thing that really worried me: I got sick pretty bad with the flu recently and was in bed for like a week. She started leaving work early to check up on me, I told her she didn’t need to but she said she was worried and insisted. She was really caring and always making me warm soup and sitting by me in bed. Sometimes she’d even coddle me just to keep me warm, and whisper to me how much she loves me. I told her she needs to keep her distance otherwise she’ll get sick too, and now that I’m starting to feel better, I’m definitely sure she’s coming down with the flue as well.

                                          My real question is, does this behaviour sound at all odd? I don’t have much experience in relationships with people of any sort, and I don’t think she does that much either. Is she just a really caring sister or does she have misplaced or inappropriate feelings towards me? How should I handle it, should I actually confront her and mention what I’ve noticed, or should I just back away and hope the whole thing blows over? I’m not even sure how I feel about her having those feelings, part of me feels weird, the other part feels very loved and appreciated, I’ve never had anyone love me before or say they love me. Its a strange sensation.

                                          tl;dr: I’m not sure if my sister might be developing some misplaced feelings towards me as her brother, or if I’m just going crazy and imagining things. I’m not even sure how to handle this without completely ruining the only real relationship with anybody I have.

                                          Some well-known fictional sisters. Not all of their relationships are sunshine and roses. (Post continues after gallery).

                                          Modern Family Charmed Frozen Muriel’s Wedding My Sister’s Keeper The OC The Simpsons Little Women Mary Kate and Ashley Olsen The Brady Brunch The Hunger Games The Parent Trap

                                          I have a friend who has been estranged from her sister and I’ve never understood it. A late friend of mine, on his final days, urged me to do everything I could to maintain my relationship with her. “Life is too short,” he told me as one of the last things he ever said.

                                          His voice is in my head every time my sister and I fight.

                                          I’m sorry. I know you meant well my friend, but I think in this, you were wrong.

                                          “Sometimes the most toxic person in your life is a relative, and as much as this is going to hurt my mum and dad and effect the rest of my family, I feel I have no choice but to completely disconnect from her.”

                                          My husband rang me and checked in on me. He’s picked me up off the floor multiple times after episodes with this particular sister. He gets it.

                                          Now, after forty years, I get it too.

                                          Just because we are family, doesn’t me we have to get along. Just because she is my sister, doesn’t me I am obliged to accept her into my life.

                                          Sometimes the most toxic person in your life is a relative, and as much as this is going to hurt my mum and dad and effect the rest of my family, I feel I have no choice but to completely disconnect from her.

                                          I just can’t do it anymore.

                                          I don’t feel guilty or upset like I have done previously when I’ve tried to do this. I woke up the next day feeling lighter, happier and for the first time in many years, free.

                                          No, she’s not the explanation for all the things that have gone wrong in my life. I have some serious problems I am dealing with this year but I have surrounded myself with the right people to help me through it.

                                          I can’t let her throw grenades into it anymore, all the work I do, all the progress I make, is undone by her in an instant, leaving me reeling and wondering what the fuck just happened.

                                          Now, for the first time, I can say that I will never let that happen again because I have decided it will never happen again. Every single person in my inner circle is good for me. Those who are not good for me have no place in my life or my future.

                                          Have you ever had serious problems with a family member and made the difficult decision to remove them from your life?

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                                          A cute little sister is sometimes annoying, but adorable at the same time. She makes you realize your responsibilities and teaches you how to share stuff.

                                          Here are 15 benefits of having a little sister:

                                          Your little sister is your companion in the selfie and your official photographer
                                          She will never get tired in correcting your stupid poses and will always click a perfect profile picture for your social media accounts.

                                          She has an undying faith in you, which helps in making you more responsible
                                          To all the elder brothers, you are a hero for your little sister. You are the only reason she has faith that good boys exist.

                                          To all the elder sisters, your little sister looks up to be like you.

                                          She is your most adorable pet
                                          You never get too tired to pull her cheeks.

                                          She is just too caring, just like your mother!
                                          She is too caring and strict, at times. She sometimes behaves like your mom and helps you in giving up your ego.

                                          They often brag about having you in their lives
                                          They often keep telling their friends about you and are proud to have you in their lives. This sounds stupid at times, but anyways you love it.

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                                          She acts like a guinea pig for all your stupid pranks
                                          You keep pulling her leg all times. You crack jokes like, she was adopted!

                                          It is like an endless sleepover
                                          From stupid gossips to all those girl problems is the reason she knows you in and out. She is ever ready with bread and jam every time you are hungry.

                                          She is your eternal fashion adviser and your perfect in-house stylist
                                          They are ever ready to suggest you about your wardrobe and what will best suit you. She will tell you if your style statement is a disaster.

                                          She will advise you on the best gift for your GF/Bf. She might not like him/her. However, she will help you get the best gift for your bf/gf.

                                          They are always ready for chick flicks
                                          Little sisters are a perfect company for trying all that girly stuff. All the elder brothers have an expert advisor to advise them on what a girl will enjoy.

                                          When she is with you, you will already have an idea of how a daughter is like
                                          Your little sister makes you exercise parenthood at an early age. When you have her, you realize what caring is.

                                          You prepare a rule book for her
                                          You forget that once upon a time, you were young too. In its place, you keep drafting a rule book for her. Deadline when to get back home, the full background check on the guy who she is dating, the ban on miniskirts and a check on her grades, you keep an eye on everything that she is up to.

                                          She is your every time moneylender!
                                          Your pocket money is never sufficient, and you always have a shortage. She is ready to lend her money to you, with a hefty heart.

                                          She is your free advocate!
                                          It never matters if you want her opinion or not, she is ever ready with one. She does not even bother to throw it back to you.

                                          She is the reason an elder brother respects women.
                                          You never want anyone to hurt your cute baby sister. And hence, you will never hurt someone’s little sister!

                                          The way how she shocks you when your baby sister starts making some sense. When you start realizing that she is a grown-up girl. A part of you would never want to have faith in it. The other part would be enjoyable surprised!

                                          10 Ways to Be Closer to Your Siblings

                                          Brian Rea

                                          Everyone expects children to squabble. Remember the DEFCON 1–level tantrum you threw when your younger sister gave Barbie a Grace Jones flattop? But as we grow up, most of us hope to achieve détente or, better yet, a meaningful connection with our sisters and brothers. Unfortunately, that’s not always easy. In researching my second book on family dynamics, I interviewed nearly 100 men and women about how they got along with their siblings and found that most people wanted those relationships to improve—whether they were already pretty close or barely spoke. The trouble was, they didn’t know how to make it happen. Here are ten suggestions on how to forge a more perfect union.
                                          1. Childhood is like Vegas: Let what happened there stay there. Don’t guilt yourself over the mind games you played on your brother, and stop accusing your sister of stealing the sweater you bought in Florence, circa 1992. Make a conscious effort to forgive these childhood misdeeds and they’ll soon be water under the Ponte Vecchio.
                                          2. Make a cameo apperance. Sure you’re going to show up at the obligatory, with a capital O, events: weddings, graduations, and Thanksgiving dinner. That’s part of being a family. But showing up unexpectedly at your brother’s 5K run? Or at the family taco night held by your sister’s Spanish club? Now, that means something.
                                          3. Stop being the family mole. Ever-shifting alliances, surreptitious confabs, stealth reconnaissance—you’d think we were talking about The Bourne Identity and not those other people born to your mother. Sibling relationships are often defined by behind-the-back gossiping, whether that means secretly slamming one sib to the other or listening greedily as your parents decry your brother’s latest over-the-top electronics purchase. As expected, all this duplicitous chatter erodes honesty and makes it nearly impossible for you to be as close-knit with your clan as you would like. So cut it out. And if you’re finding it difficult to tear yourself away from, say, Mom’s gripe-fest, remember that she most likely lets loose about you, too.

                                          4. Mind your manners. Would you ever ask a friend, “Have you brushed your teeth this week?” No? Then don’t speak to your brother like that. You don’t have to be formal with siblings, but a petty comment still rankles, no matter how close you are to them. The brothers and sisters whom I spoke to say digs about weight, grammar usage, and your sib’s choice of friends are especially off-limits.
                                          5. Fight typecasting. Growing up, you may have been pegged by your family with a certain role: the responsible one, the loose cannon, the baby. And no matter how much you blossom as an adult, this role sticks. While many men and women credit happy relationships with their immediate kin to this immutability—the comfort of knowing what’s expected of them—others find it stifling. If you’re in that latter group (and think your sibs may be as well), try this: At the next family dinner, tout the fact that your brother, the brain, climbed Mount Rainier or that your sister, the jock, is writing a book. By acknowledging the way that your siblings have evolved from their childhood roles, you implicitly give everyone the green light to see you differently as well—not just as the mercurial one who once threw a plate of peas at Nana Gladys.
                                          6. B gr8 txt frnds. Occasional hours-long chats are nice, but you’re actually more likely to supercharge your bond by having frequent casual contact, many sibs say. Technology can help. Text messaging from a train platform, commenting on a Facebook update, and pinging on your BlackBerry make it really easy to be the thoughtful sister you are.
                                          7. Quit being jealous of other people’s sibling relationships. Maybe your best friend and her sister routinely send each other homemade cookies. Or your husband and his “Let’s have a group hug!” siblings make the Waltons look like the McCoys. When you witness others sharing tight ties with their brethren, it can be easy to devalue your own relationship—if, say, exchanging birthday cards constitutes meaningful contact between you and your sister. Remember, though, that there are different depths to each bond and that somewhere inside that group hug, someone is usually dropping an elbow.

                                          8. Play nice with your brother’s (not so nice) spouse. By doing so, you’ll send the message that this woman—despite her honking voice and inability to bring so much as Lipton soup dip to the family potluck—deserves a chance. And to your brother this will prove your loyalty and acceptance. If they break up, it will be an even greater sign of your devotion if you don’t tell him, “I was faking it the whole time.” Men don’t like to know about women faking anything, it seems.
                                          9. Get out of the Dodge. Back in the day, a family vacation meant dividing the backseat with masking tape. Now a trip with the sibs means choosing your own destination and, thank God, travel arrangements. Wherever you go, skip the spa (bonding is unlikely when you’re swaddled in banana leaves) and try to eat at least two meals together.
                                          10. Avoid hot-button topics (politics, religious, high-fructose corn syrup). It sounds like common sense, but too many of us don’t follow it and find ourselves at dinner making scorched-earth pronouncements. So if you’re not on the same wavelength as your teapartying brother or, conversely, your Nancy Pelosi–loving sister, it’s smart just to steer clear of mentioning Washington, D.C.

                                          Hello Grief

                                          43 Comments:

  1. Alisha said on April 2, 2010 at 10:18 am …

    What a great way of expressing what we all struggle with….how to answer a question that strangers don’t realize they are asking. Thanks for honestly sharing how strange that situation is every time. Not sure any of us will ever get truly comfortable with answering questions like these, but it’s cool to know I’m not the only one who wrestles with the “do I or don’t I” of it all.

  2. Becca said on April 2, 2010 at 10:28 am …

    Thanks for this story! I always struggle with how to answer this question. Comforting to hear other people do, too.

  3. Rob said on April 2, 2010 at 12:15 pm …

    If nothing else, it is comforting to know that others have trouble with situations like this. Thank you for sharing your ideas.

  4. Rachel said on April 2, 2010 at 2:32 pm …

    This article brought tears to my eyes, and even though I lost my dad and not a sibling, I deal with a lot of the same things. Those little questions like “oh where is your dad? What does he do?” make it hard. We all have to deal with those questions, and even years later, its hard. I’m glad you’re dealing with your grief, and working for CZC.

  5. Brandon said on April 2, 2010 at 3:12 pm …

    Wonderful article. Questions like that have arose about my uncle and my twin brother who did not make it to term. Sharing of positive memories of your brother is a great way I think to make others feel comfortable, great article Sean!

  6. sallyb said on April 3, 2010 at 2:31 pm …

    Thank you for this article.
    Having just lost my dear brother to suicide, I’ve grappled with the significant loss of a sibling and best friend. When someone learns of his loss and asks “was he ill” or “was it sudden” I respond that he committed suicide–an uncomfortable response for others in our society, but important to convey.
    Working with a gifted counselor, who recognizes the significance of sibling loss, I’m working through my grief with her excellent help.
    Thank you for sharing your experience, and how to move on from the painful explanation of his loss to the gift of his life.

  7. Linda said on April 10, 2010 at 1:57 am …

    The answer to that dreaded question? Be honest and be proud you have an opportunity to say-yes, I have been blessed to have a wonderful sibling, parent, child and my memories are cherished even through he/she is no longer with me. There is an amazing piece of poetry, written by I know not whom, but a wonderful description of action and reaction following the loss of a loved one. I will post it on the main wall for all to read, think about, and perhaps help in putting thoughts together. I carry it with me and now 6 years after the death of my 27 yo son from cancer, I continue to read it. Now I am able to smile. I wish for all of you the same in your journey!

  8. George said on April 13, 2010 at 6:24 am …

    My sister died 44 years ago when I was eight, and I still face this dilema when asked about my siblings and I still feel guilty when I don’t mention her. Wow.

  9. Donna Stewart Sharits said on April 13, 2010 at 9:43 pm …

    Here’s what I’ve learned to say, “Yes, I come from a family with five siblings – our youngest brother was killed in an industrial accident several years ago.” I’ve found it’s best to give as much information in one sentence to limit further questions. That’s worked best for me.

    But some people will want more information (either through compassion or curiosity). So I’ve developed one more sentence to say when necessary. “My brother was an iron worker who fell to his death along with 4 other men.”

    Beyond that, I still can barely speak of his death even after all these years. I miss you David!

  10. Bob said on April 22, 2010 at 5:15 pm …

    well done Sean…… perhaps tell folks about the TJM Canoe race that take place every summer in memory of Tim. One of my favorite most memorable days of the year.

  11. Amy said on April 23, 2010 at 12:46 pm …

    The answer to that dreaded question? Be honest and be proud you have an opportunity to say-yes, I have been blessed to have a wonderful sibling, parent, child and my memories are cherished even through he/she is no longer with me. There is an amazing piece of poetry, written by I know not whom, but a wonderful description of action and reaction following the loss of a loved one. I will post it on the main wall for all to read, think about, and perhaps help in putting thoughts together. I carry it with me and now 6 years after the death of my 27 yo son from cancer, I continue to read it. Now I am able to smile. I wish for all of you the same in your journey!

  12. Ann said on April 23, 2010 at 11:53 pm …

    I recently lost my older brother to suicide, and I’d like to thank you for this article. It’s comforting to know that others deal with the same inner conflict, and the same awkwardness that follows the snap decision to tell the truth. I say that it’s a comfort because you are right: until this site, I felt isolated and alone, because I was sharing my grief with people who had never experienced it, and didn’t know how to react (which isn’t really their fault). So once again, thank you for this article.

  13. Katie said on May 2, 2010 at 2:18 pm …

    Thank you Sean!!!!!!!!!!!!! I needed this.

  14. gusmom said on May 14, 2010 at 7:05 pm …

    I nodded along with everything you wrote. I have had a similar dilemma when someone asks my son or I if he is an only child. I know it will get more complicated as he gets older. Our situation is different because his brother died before he was born, but he sees pictures and knows about him so it will be interesting.
    Just wanted to let you know that a lot of people share your thoughts, and you expressed EXACTLY what so many of us have felt. Thank you.

  15. Mariel said on June 7, 2010 at 4:19 pm …

    hi Sean , my name is Mariel salazar i`m a friend of Paola, from Mexico and i lost my father 2 years ago, paola just send me this article you wrote and i like it very much because is exactley how i feel when people ask about my parents, dont know exactly how to escape the awkward moment that inevitably occur..

    I think it takes a lot of courage to do what you do here, helping others, ant telling your story.

    Tks and hope to meet you soon…

  16. Eileen said on June 8, 2010 at 2:13 pm …

    Hi I am glad I read that, so maybe I can understand how my children feel about recently losing their brother. I was told by someone when asked how many children I have to say, I have 7, 6 here and one in heaven…..it is hard to say, it is hard to deal with but we want to keep his spirit alive…

  17. Michelle said on June 8, 2010 at 3:06 pm …

    Having recently lost my son to a freak accident I often wonder how I will answer this very question. Thank you for the suggestions that were given and I am grateful to have found this site hoping to learn as I go through this new part of my life.

  18. Terri Retzke said on July 1, 2010 at 11:27 am …

    Hi Sean. Thank you so much for such poingant and important message. I lost my oldest son 8 years ago when he was 11 and my younget was 5. I have grappled with that question so many times over the years and have always acknowledged my 2 boys – and then dealt with the awkwardness that follows. My youngest son has attended CZC for several years and I sing their praises for saving him from his overwhelming grief as he got older and was trying to process his grief at different stages of maturity. Your article was a hugh “light bulb” moment for me understanding that he deals with the same ongoing question as I do. I am printing your article and will have this conversation with him tonight. Thank you again for talking about such an important topic!

  19. Nancie said on August 3, 2010 at 5:15 pm …

    I really liked reading this and others comments. My brother died almost 3 years and when I am asked how many siblings I give a response depending on who the person is. If it is someone who is just making small talk then I say 2-a brother and sister. If it is someone who I am becoming friends with then I will tell the whole truth that I have a sister and my brother died.

  20. beth herman said on August 4, 2010 at 4:27 pm …

    I have to say that this resonates with me as well. I lost my sister over 30 yrs ago, and it is still something that I struggle with. My sister was in an accident that is hard to hear as well as hard to tell and meeting someone new I almost instinctively say no I’m an only child… It’s almost for their sake more than my own, because they don’t know what they are asking. I also share with them as we get to know each other.

  21. Britt said on August 14, 2010 at 1:48 am …

    THANK-YOU for writing this. Glad I’m not alone with this question. Coming up on almost five years since my sisters been gone and I still don’t know how to answer it.

  22. Arturo said on August 25, 2010 at 3:05 pm …

    My dad had a sister that died in a car crash (my aunt). I know how you feel, but the best thing to do is acknowledge him talk about him in a positive way. People will seldom ask about details of how and why did he die so keep it simple. “yes I have a brother but he passed away a couple years ago” mention something like you did when watching the game and change topics. The more you do it, the more comfortable you will feel about it

  23. Ashley said on September 17, 2010 at 11:21 pm …

    Wow. My brother was murdered 11 years ago and I have never felt I could find anyone to connect to about his death, even though I have another brother (he hid his pain). This question is one I will always dread. It makes me cry to finally find others who know what I’m feeling. Thanks.

  24. Sean Malone said on October 6, 2010 at 9:39 pm …

    It has been a while since I last checked in, but I thank you all for your comments and suggestions. Best of luck to each of you in your journeys 🙂

  25. Lisa Cave said on July 17, 2011 at 5:04 pm …

    After 34 years, I still get caught off guard by that question. Thanks for sharing…

  26. Kristen said on December 24, 2011 at 1:34 am …

    Thanks for this, I’m always caught of guard by this question. I guess it’s just one of those that you’ll never have a real answer to.

  27. Daisy said on June 25, 2012 at 3:00 pm …

    I lost my brother 6 years ago and had a very hard time with it and heavily grieved for years. I, too, constantly struggle with this question (I fine more so in professional settings.)

    Sibling grief is not brought to light enough. I remember trying to seek help for my grief and could only find support groups for parent-child and child-parent loss. This made me feel even more isolated. It also made me feel like my grief wasn’t important enough to need support.

    Thanks for your article on sibling grief.

  28. Mia said on June 25, 2012 at 3:27 pm …

    Thank you for this. I would first like to say that I am very sorry for your loss. I have not experienced the loss of a sibling myself, but just this weekend I was in a group of people where this question came up to a friend of mine who had recently lost two of his siblings. Some of the people in the group knew about this, and so we were able to take some of the pressure off the person who had been asked, by, like you said, relaying some memories, and things like that. It felt like we were helping a little bit.

  29. still wondering said on September 12, 2012 at 9:46 pm …

    I still find myself submerged in grief some days and others days I answer without a beat oh I have two brothers one lives n works blabla and the other passed in about ten years ago. My problem is after 10 years people I grew up with want to express their grief about my brother to me because they are scared to talk about him to my parents. I didn’t want a wedding reception for this reason and I found myself uncomfortable the whole night. Family who came to my brothers funeral did not come for my wedding. The people who did show up wanted to see how my family was dealing. I m sorry but this is not his funeral 10 years ago its our wedding.

  30. antwon said on October 23, 2012 at 4:58 pm …

    that was so righteous i loved it thank you so much

  31. Sue said on May 15, 2013 at 3:07 pm …

    I always say ‘yes but she passed away. I might cry but that doesn’t mean I don’t want to talk about her’. This stops the person thinking that THEY upset you.

  32. Simon said on November 4, 2013 at 11:52 am …

    Thank you for posting this. It’s so nice to know that others have a problem with this question, I thought it was just me.

    My older brother Mark died 14 years ago but I still take the option of saying no to the question when I’m asked it and I hate myself for doing so afterwards. From time to time I then have people asking about what it’s like growing up as an only child so I end up saying as little as possible and pretty much lying to them. In the end the whole thing becomes more uncomfortable (for me) than it would have been if I had just told the truth, Even though I always vow that next time I will talk about Mark it always catches me off guard and I revert to saying no.

    I hope by reading your story and others’ comments I am inspired to talk about Mark the next time I’m asked and respond as the proud brother that I am. I really hope I do. Thanks again for writing your story.

  33. Tegan said on January 30, 2014 at 8:18 pm …

    Thank you for writing this. I thought that I was the only person who struggled to answer this question.

    My condolences. Even though it was a long time ago, I know what it feels like to lose a brother. I am the middle child of three adopted children. I have one older brother and one younger brother. On April 17th, 2010, my older brother had passed away from a brain aneurysm at the age of 14. Not only was this the day of his death but the day I call my “Airplane Day”.

    I went through the same stages as you, from not including my brother in the sibling count, then including him, but not going into much detail about him to avoid mentioning his death. Eventually, I started opening up more to people when they asked about how many siblings I had. Actually, just this afternoon, one of my new friends brought up the subject and told her what had happened. I am now comfortable enough to talk about my brother when asked without feeling awkward or bursting into tears because I know that it can’t be changed and that he would want me to be happy when I talk about him.

    Again, thank you! I really needed to get this off of my chest.

  34. Geena said on June 5, 2014 at 1:28 pm …

    SO hard isn’t it….the question that stops you in your tracks. Can you tell this person? Will they acknowledge how difficult that was for you or sweep it under the carpet so quickly (only because they feel uncomfortable perhaps) that it makes you furious how any one could be so dismissive over something so painful and someone so loved? I never know how to answer, but when I choose not to now, I no longer feel as guilty as at first when I was trialing out the “I have one brother” answer (first, it feels like a total lie because it’s not true… I have always had two and he is still my brother even though he’s no longer “with us”. He’s in our hearts, our memories, everything). this is because I’ve realised two things. It’s precisely because he means so much that the loss is so great and so painful to talk about, I.e you grieve much because you loved much – and you don’t want to relive that with a perfect stranger. Secondly, you may also run the risk that they, in their own awkwardness or dismissiveness, might upset you further by not acknowledging how precious that person was to you – and so it feels like you’ve just thrown pearls to pigs! Precious information about the loved one you have lost and grieve daily which has just been trampled underfoot because they didn’t know how to cope with that kind of information (and let us be kind to those people, they’re not mean, they just don’t have a clue what to say or do or how to enter into that and so they do what we might or maybe have done if the situation were reversed!) It’s no shame waiting until you can trust someone with this knowledge, or as was mentioned (if you are able) mentioning it and adding it with a positive memory – helps the person you’re sharing it with to feel less awkward too as they can react to that better. saying something like “sounds like he/she was a great person / a lot of fun / really caring” and (if appropriate) following with “what else was he/she like?!” can help evoke a more cathartic response.

  35. ersatz said on September 2, 2014 at 10:57 pm …

    For me, this question is especially difficult. I was conceived via IVF, and have two siblings who didn’t survive the process. I don’t know their genders, I don’t have names for them, and I never got to meet them. So when you mention bringing up a positive memory of them (e.g. I had a sister, Ruth, who died when she was six, but I still remember the fun times we had playing with dolls together), I can’t do any of those things. All I can do is say either, “I’m an only child,” which makes me feel incredibly guilty, or, “I’m an only child, but I have two siblings who died before birth.” Can you say that to an almost complete stranger? What happens when they ask, “How did they die/was something wrong with them?” etc, and I have to say, “They died in the IVF process, which only I survived”? Then, I’ve gotten myself into a discussion about whether IVF is morally right or not, which I don’t want to have with a complete stranger, because if they ever said anything to my parents, then it would break their hearts. And I can’t talk to my parents about how I’m feeling, because they don’t believe they “counted” as my siblings. And I can’t talk to my friends, because my closest ones think I’m an only child, and I can’t just say, “Actually, I’m not: let me tell you all about it so I can have a shoulder to cry on.”

    I don’t know if anyone will see this, but please help. I don’t have any answers on this.

  36. Gabriella z. said on September 3, 2014 at 10:11 pm …

    Thank you. Today, I figured out that I had a sister and a brother. My brother past away, when he was 3,a year before I was born. My sister, died at birth, 2 years before I was born.

  37. Quinn said on October 14, 2014 at 7:10 pm …

    I struggle with this all the time. It’s so good to read this and hear other’s stories. It is amazing how many times that question comes up. It’s like everyone I meet asks, and sometimes people who I have already answered ask again. I am the middle of three children. My little brother committed suicide when he was 11. Suicide is so controversial and shocking that I always dread the well meaning but awful follow up question of “oh I’m so sorry, what happened?” Answering means I’m opening myself up to all that pain and potentially hearing people’s hurtful opinions on the subject. But I hate pretending like he didn’t exist, it’s like everyone around me has no idea about this super important part of my life, and I’m lying and betraying him. It’s the same for my parents… “How many kids do you have?” But after 12 years I feel like I’m finally starting to heal a bit, so maybe over the next few years I’ll be able to actually answer and acknowledge him like I want to (without becoming a mess).

  38. meagan f. said on October 23, 2014 at 11:21 pm …

    that story was touching

  39. Juliana said on November 7, 2014 at 9:12 pm …

    I have a brother, two older sisters, a twin sister, and a younger sister. I have a younger brother we don’t talk about much. He died when he was three weeks old; he had underdeveloped lungs. I was six when he died. My mom and dad visit his grave a lot and my mom cries on his birthday and is depressed for about a month. God bless and good luck on your healing journey!

  40. Big Sister said on December 30, 2014 at 8:01 pm …

    I completely understand the gravity of that dreaded question. After ten years, I believe that trying to avoid that question at work has created a distance between me and my coworkers that I cannot bridge. I used to dread lunch room conversations and holidays, because everyone would talk about their families. I did not grow up an only child, but since my sister died at age 21 (I was 24) I have lived most of my adult life as an adult only child. It is very frustrating that my husband’s family never met her and my daughter will never have an aunt on my side. I feel like I have lost so much of my past because I do not have her to recall the memories with me.

    Thank you for putting this dilemma into words. People who have not lost a sibling do not understand.

  41. Cecilie said on January 21, 2015 at 8:50 am …

    Been strugling with the excat same situation for 6 years now dealing with my older brother passing away. Thank you so much, points are spot on and inspiering! Really helped me a lot.

  42. Josie said on March 27, 2015 at 1:57 pm …

    I want to thank you for this article. My sister, my only sibling, was killed riding her bike when a truck hit her, a month and a half ago. I was VERY close to her. I have been struggling with this question. Her death was very public as well, because we live in a small town. I find myself getting mad at people for thinking they have something to say about it. I am sorry that we all must feel this pain. But I want you to know how good it feels to not be alone in this. Thank you 🙂

  43. CPat said on April 19, 2015 at 6:54 pm …

    Sean,

    This is exactly the article I was looking for. Every word that you said is just the way I feel. It’s only been a little over a year that I lost my brother but I don’t know if I will ever be able to answer that question correctly. If someone asks if I have any siblings, I just say I have an older sister and always fail to mention my little brother. I just don’t know how to answer it and what situations to answer in. I am always hesitant. It hurts because I feel guilty about it but I don’t want to put other people in the position where they feel obligated to listen. But believe me, I can talk about my brother for hours and hours, it just hurts explaining how he died, it brings so many bad memories.

    But thanks to your post, I don’t feel alone 🙁

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