- Losing weight can have a big effect on your sex drive — but not just for the reasons you think
- Do those extra pounds really make a difference?
- What exactly happens when you lose weight?
- Ultimately, the mind-body connection is a major factor.
- Men: Is Obesity Affecting Your Sex Life?
- 10 Ways Your Weight Can Affect Your Sex Life
- It Can Take Down Your Mojo
- It Can Make You Focus on the Negative
- It Can Make It Harder to “Get It Up”
- It Can Create Intimacy Out of the Bedroom
- It Can Make You Use Your Mind
- It Can Limit Your Positions
- It Can Make Your Hormones Out of Whack
- It Can Take Away the Big “O”
- It Can Make You a Pleaser
- And Just 10 Pounds Can Make a Huge Impact
- How to Avoid Low Sex Drive Dieting
- Why Does Sex Drive Drop On A Diet?
- 7 Ways To Increase Libido on a Diet
Losing weight can have a big effect on your sex drive — but not just for the reasons you think
- Weight loss can lead to an increase in sexual desire for women.
- Men with erectile dysfunction can experience an increase in sexual performance after losing weight.
- But it can also come down to an increased confidence because of a healthy lifestyle.
Your body can go through a lot of changes when you lose weight. The scale is moving down and you may have more energy, feel happier, and even have more confidence. To top it off, your sex drive may have even suddenly kicked into action.
Could a change in your weight have something to do with this newfound sexual desire? INSIDER spoke to Kristen Lilla, certified sex therapist and licensed social worker, to find out if there is in fact a connection between the two.
Do those extra pounds really make a difference?
Certain physical conditions that go along with obesity can affect sex drive, dampening the desires of many of those who are overweight, according to WebMD. For example, Lilla noted that things like high cholesterol and BMI can have an impact.
High cholesterol causes plaque to build up in your blood vessels, which then slows blood flow to your genitals making it more difficult to get aroused, have an orgasm, or obtain an erection. Similarly, a high body mass index (BMI) can also lower testosterone levels, the hormone often known for creating a person’s “sex drive.”
Being overweight may also have an effect on penis size.
“Being overweight decreases penis size due to the skin/fat forming where the base of the penis is,” said Lilla. “So while losing weight doesn’t actually increase penis size, it does allow more of the penis to be visible and be used because it’s not hiding under a pad of skin.”
Feeling more confident can lead to better sex for you and your partner. Henri Meilhac/Unsplash
What exactly happens when you lose weight?
When you consider that more than one-third of Americans are obese, it makes sense that there are a number of studies being done on the correlation between weight and sex drive.
A 2012 Penn State study focusing on infertility found that women who lost weight experienced improved sexual function. Many saw a notable change in sexual desire and arousal.
And people who identify as men can also benefit sexually rom shedding a few pounds. One study claimed that one-third of obese men with erectile dysfunction were able to cure their performance problem by making lifestyle changes and losing weight.
Another study claimed that exercise, combined with healthier eating, may help men avoid low testosterone.
Ultimately, the mind-body connection is a major factor.
Let’s face it, you can only look at yourself in the mirror so many times before the novelty of your new lifestyle wears off. What seems to stand the test of time though, is how you feel about yourself. You know — that internal voice that takes up residence in your head, and the way that you see yourself. If your weight change has impacted that message in a positive way, then you’ll most likely feel better about how you look.
Of course, people of all sizes and shapes can have healthy and exciting sex lives. That’s why how you see yourself is so important. It’s imperative that you are happy with what you see in the mirror for many reasons but also because increased confidence will likely mean better sex for you and your partner. If you’re happy with your body it will show in many aspects of your life; including the bedroom.
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Men: Is Obesity Affecting Your Sex Life?
by Stephen Boyce, MD
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When discussing obesity, it is common to focus on the well-known diseases often brought on by excess weight. Typically we hear about patients affected by severe obesity suffering from diabetes, hypertension/cardiovascular disease, sleep apnea or high cholesterol. Another side effect of obesity that is rarely openly discussed is sexual dysfunction for both men and women, which can originate from emotional distress and hormonal disturbances.
Many men suffering from obesity also suffer from erectile dysfunction (E.D.). According to Ira Sharlip, MD, spokesperson for the American Urological Association, “Fifty-three percent of men between the ages of 40-70 have some degree of erectile dysfunction.” There are many risk factors for erectile dysfunction including:
- Cardiovascular disease
- High blood pressure
- Low testosterone
- Smoking and diabetes, along with a poor diet and sedentary lifestyle
With many conflicting studies, it is unclear whether a high body mass index (BMI) and obesity cause erectile dysfunction or are just tied to the associated risk factors, however, it is clear that obesity is a contributing factor. With significant health and lifestyle changes, erectile dysfunction can be significantly improved.
Simply with increased age alone, there is an associated natural decline in erectile function. If there are other diseases present, there is a greater risk. E.D. and sexual performance are great sources of anxiety and concern for all men. Poorly perceived performance leads to worsening performance and depression for even the most confident of men! Obesity can bring on these diseases and also magnify these psychological concerns.
How does an erection work?
Let’s first take a look at how erectile function normally works. An erection occurs when the blood vessels leading to the penis dilate, causing it to fill with blood. The process is dependent on the lining of the blood vessels (the endothelium) releasing nitric oxide (E.D. medications increase the amount of Nitric Oxide in the endothelial cells). Nitric Oxide causes the smooth muscles to relax and the penis becomes engorged.
Anything that damages the blood vessels can potentially interfere with this process resulting in E.D. So the same things that cause heart disease and stroke, can cause E.D.
Obesity and E.D.
Overweight/obesity can cause E.D. by damaging the blood vessels, decreasing testosterone and causing a state of generalized inflammation in the body. Obesity can cause damage to blood vessels due to the associated hypertension, diabetes mellitus, hypercholesterolemia, hypertriglyceridemia and inflammation.
It is proposed that the increased state of inflammation may cause free radicals in the body that cause oxidative damage to tissues. The harmful effects of hypertension, diabetes and hyperlipidemia are well studied, published and accepted. Men who are affected by obesity may have elevated cholesterol, hypertension and high blood pressure and diabetes, all of which contribute to erectile dysfunction. “If you are affected by obesity, the risk of developing diabetes is two to three times more likely than for someone who is not affected by obesity,” says Elizabeth Selvin, PhD, MPH, assistant professor and epidemiologist at John Hopkins Bloomberg School of Public Health. Additionally, she says, “More than 50 percent of men with diabetes suffer from erectile dysfunction.”
It is well studied and accepted that obesity often leads to diabetes as well as atherosclerosis-related hypertension and cardiovascular disease, which can cause E.D. We do not know exactly why, but obesity appears to damage the inner lining of the vessels (the endothelium) and when this lining is damaged the penis cannot get enough blood flow to produce and sustain an erection. “An erection is basically a cardiovascular event, and if blood flow cannot increase because the blood vessels can’t dilate normally, then there is a decrease in erectile function,” says Robert A Kloner, MD, a cardiologist and professor of medicine at the University of Southern California’s Keck School of Medicine. A fatty diet and lack of exercise that contribute to obesity and cardiovascular disease can cause narrowing and hardening of the arteries (atherosclerosis), which can slow blood flow as well.
Another common risk factor for E.D. is low levels of testosterone, which is also linked to obesity. Appropriate levels of this hormone are necessary to achieve erections and maintain a healthy sex drive. When the patient has a large amount of belly fat, there is a greater affect on the testosterone levels. In males, abdominal fat will convert testosterone to estrogen interfering with proper hormonal balance. Testosterone levels may not be affected quickly and directly by weight-loss, so there may be a need for additional testosterone to be prescribed in the form of a gel, injections or patches.
The Good News
Research tells us that erectile function can be improved by making specific lifestyle changes! If you are affected by obesity, a BMI greater than 30, you are allowing yourself to be at greater risk for diabetes, high blood pressure, hypertension, cardiovascular disease and for men, erectile dysfunction. Eating healthy, exercising and not smoking can absolutely correct E.D. in many cases!
Men who lose weight have improved erectile function and improved sexual experiences along with improved overall health. Becoming more active and implementing exercise daily will reduce your risk and can prevent E.D. Research tells us that losing only 10 percent of body weight throughout a two month period will improve erectile function.
“Nobody said that it would be easy. They just promised it would be worth it!”
Now, I know that losing weight is not an easy thing to do. Many of you have struggled with your weight for your entire life. You may have tried every diet known to man and still suffer from obesity. You have to start where you are and seek help. Reach out to an accredited medically supervised weight-loss program and utilize their multidisciplinary team to create a program designed for you.
Perhaps it is time to consider consulting a physician or a surgeon to go over all your obesity treatment options. There are so many more surgical and non-surgical options available today than ever before that can help you begin your weight-loss journey.
One thing that is for sure, being sexually active and fulfilled is necessary for a happy, healthy life. If you are suffering from erectile dysfunction, seek help from a medical professional. Find out if you have any of the diseases that are associated with causing E.D. and seek treatment. If you are suffering from obesity and E.D., make a decision today to treat your disease of obesity with a plan of action. Get your mojo back! Begin to eat right and commit to move more each day. I challenge you to begin the journey to your New Life!
About the Author:
Stephen Boyce, MD, obtained his Bachelor of Science and Masters of Science from Texas A&M University, College Station, before beginning medical school in Dallas, Texas at the University of Texas Southwestern Medical School where he received his medical degree. Surgical Residency was performed at Parkland Memorial Hospital in Dallas where he completed his general surgery training. With more than 24 years of experience performing bariatric surgeries, Dr. Boyce has completed more than 4,000 bariatric surgical procedures, has special training in advanced laparoscopic surgery and has also completed a Masters Certification in Bariatric Surgery. He started his own practice the New Life Center for Bariatric Surgery in Knoxville, Tenn. in 2002, which shortly after became one of the Nation’s first Centers of Excellence (7th in the Nation) in 2005. His special interest in bariatric nutrition led him to develop Bari Life Bariatric Supplements, specializing in custom multivitamin formulas for the bariatric surgery patient. Additionally, he is an active educator for Ethicon-Endo Surgery and he was the first physician to be awarded the Obesity Action Coalition (OAC), “Outstanding Membership Recruitment by a Physician” Award.
10 Ways Your Weight Can Affect Your Sex Life
For most people, how you feel about your body is a major part of how you feel about having sex. If you feel confident, you’re ready to get it on. If you feel insecure, you just want to hide every part of yourself. But whether you think you’re too fat, too thin, or just right, there are hangups everyone has that contribute to what goes on in the bedroom.
Extra weight (or not weighing enough) can also create a host of problems like hormonal imbalance and even erectile dysfunction. Now, we’re not about to say being overweight means your sex life suffers—but read on as we break down how the number on the scale is impacting your sex life in ways you never even realized it could.
And for your next grocery store trip, stock up on these foods that increase your sex drive!
It Can Take Down Your Mojo
Let’s be clear: If you’re overweight, it doesn’t have to affect your performance in the bedroom. If you feel confident, sexy, and desirable, then you’re guaranteed to translate that between the sheets. But for some, being overweight does correlate to lower levels of energy and motivation. “There can be a self-consciousness or limiting beliefs about ability or desire ,” says Kelley Kitley, LCSW, and owner of Serendipitous Psychotherapy, LLC.
It Can Make You Focus on the Negative
When you’re at a weight that you’re not comfortable at, it can take over your mind—and blind you from focusing on the parts of your body you are confident about. No one hates everything about their body, so put the spotlight on the parts you do like. “Wear an outfit you feel good in, listen to your favorite song, move your body, make sure that you smell good—all of these components can make you feel sexier,” suggests Kitley.
Psst! Steer clear of these foods that worsen anxiety.
It Can Make It Harder to “Get It Up”
Erectile dysfunction is one of the most common chronic conditions that men face and being overweight dramatically increases the chances of an uncooperative, lazy penis. “Believe it or not, men who are just thirty pounds overweight are likely to experience ED by two and a half times more!” says sex coach Tara Radcliffe. “Also, obesity lowers testosterone in men, which is crucial for sexual function. So with that being said, keeping a healthy weight is almost mandatory in order for a man to stay erected.” There’s a common fan-favorite fruit that can help be a natural cure for ED—and is so healthy that eating right and shedding the weight will be a little bit easier.
It Can Create Intimacy Out of the Bedroom
If your partner is at an unhealthy weight, the best thing that you can do is to encourage them to be active, eat healthy, and show your support in a positive way. “If your partner is overweight, he or she is most likely already beating themselves up,” says Dawn Michael, Ph.D., ACS, CSC. ” can cause them to eat more or choose high-fat foods as a comfort.” Getting healthy together can actually create a bond that will likely improve your connection in and out of the bedroom.
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It Can Make You Use Your Mind
If focusing on your body is causing stress, then switch mix things up by talking dirty and stimulating the mind. “Our biggest sex organ in the body is the brain so making the brain feel sexy can spice up the sex. We all have very sexy minds no matter what size our body is,” says Michael. “Use fantasy role play or dress up. Focus on what is exciting rather than what is not.”
It Can Limit Your Positions
There’s no getting around this one. If you’re obese, your physicality can be directly impacted in a variety of ways. “Sexuality is a physical pursuit, so the more limber and physically fit one is, the more likely they are able to pursue its pleasures,” says Antonia Hall author of The Ultimate Guide to a Multi-Orgasmic Life. “This does not preclude one from having a satisfying sex life. However, if one or both partners is obese, many sexual positions can become challenging.”
It Can Make Your Hormones Out of Whack
For men and women, higher levels of body fat mean you’ll have higher levels of a chemical called “Sex Hormone Binding Globulin” or SHBG. It literally binds to the sex hormone testosterone. And when there’s too much testosterone bound to SHBG, there’s not enough available to stimulate desire. Combine that with eating any of these foods that kill your sex drive and you’re severely limited your urges to get frisky.
It Can Take Away the Big “O”
“Being overweight for both men and women will cause decreased blood flow in their genitals because the extra weight causes their blood vessels to narrow—and proper blood flow is crucial in order to reach an orgasm,” says Radcliffe. But being too thin can also have adverse effects on your ability to climax. ” can affect testosterone and libido levels,” Radcliffe continues. “Those sex hormones need to be in balance in order to have any kind of sexual drive and are necessary in order to achieve an orgasm.”
It Can Make You a Pleaser
No matter your size, you need to feel sexy on the inside. That’s where sex appeal comes from, whether your weight is an issue or not. A way to help yourself feel sexier when you’re not where you want to be on the scale? “Learn what pleases your partner and focuses on that,” suggests Michaels. “Being a confident lover is a state of mind, not a pant size.” Amen to that!
And Just 10 Pounds Can Make a Huge Impact
You don’t have to feel daunted or overwhelmed if you have a significant amount of weight to lose. Just losing 10 pounds can improve your sex life because it will free up testosterone that you need to climax and get aroused. But even if you don’t lose weight, just making changes to your diet and adding more fruits and veggies can create more satisfying sexual experiences for yourself. “I’ve noted that very often when patients start to take better care of themselves, they also report a substantial increase in their interest in sex,” says Dr. Martin Binks, Ph.D., a clinical psychologist and director of behavioral health at Duke University’s Diet and Fitness Center in Durham, N.C. “I think participation in a healthy lifestyle really helps, even if you don’t lose the extra pounds.” Don’t you think it’s quite the coincidence that this list of foods that increase your sex drive are all healthy?!
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Losing weight on a high protein or low calorie diet can greatly improve sexual desire and performance according to a new study, which involved 31 brave men!
Will Williams, scientific advisor to the All About Weight organization, said that the clinical study – just published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine – found that sexual function improved significantly and quickly in obese men after they lost weight.
Loosing the excess fat along with regular exercise increase’s testosterone levels and improves self-esteem – result!
Mr. Williams, a former NHS dietitian, helped formulate the various diet plans which are the foundation of All About Weight – the organisation which is helping tens of thousands of people slim down and shape up across Britain. One of the plans, called the D2, is specially designed for type 2 diabetes, resulting in fast and safe weight-loss using prepared healthy Mealpaks and supported by a dedicated consultant and mentors spread across the country.
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How to Avoid Low Sex Drive Dieting
One of the most common issues people fall into while in a fat loss phase is low sex drive dieting.
What is low sex drive dieting? Basically, it is when a person cuts calories super low, does tons of cardio, and basically runs himself into the ground. It inevitably leads to decreased libido and sex drive. I actually hear about this quite often from men in their late teens and early twenties and all the way up to men in their 40’s, 50’s and above. I, myself, have even undergone periods of time in the past where I fell into the trap of low sex drive dieting since I didn’t know any better! Definitely not the best way to live your life as a 20-something year old, especially when you want to be able to enjoy yourself and master the lifestyle component of fitness.
And what’s the point in running around with 6 pack abs if you feel like a neutered pup? Kind of defeats the purpose, doesn’t it?
After all, we’re all driven by sex and the sooner you come to terms with that, the better off you’ll be. If you don’t believe me then perhaps you need a lesson in human evolution and an understanding in our two greatest biological imperatives, survival and replication.
As I mentioned earlier, my past fat loss efforts often left me with a low sex drive due to dieting. Fortunately these experiences are what led me to design the Warrior Shredding Program, my fat loss course that allows you to build muscle, support natural testosterone levels, and increase libido on a diet while leaning down to a low body fat. If you haven’t already picked up that program, definitely do so, the results so far have been ridiculous. Now in this article, I’m going to share some tips that will help to naturally increase libido on a diet and help raise your testosterone levels, even while undergoing a diet.
Why Does Sex Drive Drop On A Diet?
There are multiple reasons why you experience a low sex drive while dieting. But generally speaking, anytime you’re in a negative energy balance (taking in fewer calories than you burn), you enter a catabolic state and testosterone levels drop. In fact, if you look at it from an evolutionary standpoint, it actually makes complete sense that you would have a low sex drive while dieting. In times of famine when food shortages are short, there would be very little sense in reproducing.
So does this mean that you can’t get lean without losing your sex drive?
You definitely can get lean while maintaining a high sex drive! However, if you want to go the crash diet route and eat very little food, then be prepared for a very low sex drive. This is because big energy deficits crash testosterone and sex drive. That being said, I’d argue that leaning down to the 8-12% body fat range (men) is actually great for your testosterone levels and sex drive.
This is because body fat contains aromatase, an enzyme that converts testosterone into estrogen. As a result, having higher body fat levels equals more estrogen floating around and less testosterone. For this reason, maintaining a low body fat with sufficient calorie intake, should allow for higher testosterone levels.
The Tape Measure Test
Here’s a simple test to see how desperately you need to drop body fat. First thing in the morning, take a tape measurer around your waist at bellybutton level. Have relaxed posture, don’t suck in and don’t push out. If your waist is 50% of your height or larger then you should focus on leaning down. This will have a profound effect on improving your health and testosterone. This is because higher body fat levels are inversely proportional to testosterone levels.
Therefore you should diet to drop body fat. In this case, I give you whole – hearted permission to go lower in calories than I typically recommend. As low as 10 calories per pound of goal bodyweight. Once your waist measurement is less than 50% of your height then you should focus on dropping fat slowly, one pound per week. The eventual goal is to get your waist to 45-46% of your height. This is when you’ll look really sharp and from there you can raise your calories to maintenance.
7 Ways To Increase Libido on a Diet
How do you avoid low sex drive dieting? The following tips will help mitigate any down regulation in testosterone and libido from dieting. I should mention, these tips will only really work if you’re dieting properly! You should be eating at an appropriate calorie deficit with an optimal ratio of proteins, fats and carbs.
Additionally, you should be performing frequent high carb refeed days to boost leptin and anabolism as you get leaner. For an in-depth program for getting completely chiseled without obsessing and without destroying your libido, three words, Warrior Shredding Program. Once you have all that dialed in, then the following tips will serve very beneficial.
1. Emphasize High Quality Proteins and Fats
Animal protein should be a staple in your diet. Chicken, beef, salmon, eggs and dairy protein are great at promoting natural testosterone levels and are also high in nutrients vital to health, testosterone production and muscle building. I also recommend consuming a moderate amount of fat from avocado’s, nuts and butter/oil (coconut oil, olive oil, macadamia nut oil) as fats play an integral role in health and testosterone. With that said, don’t go too crazy on the fats and fatty protein sources as they’re also very high in calories.
When you’re eating to reach a low body fat you need to strike a balance. Just because fat and cholesterol is beneficial for health and testosterone, doesn’t mean you should go off into the deep end and eat bacon, eggs and nuts all day long. Take the middle road, it works much better. My strategy is to have a moderate amount of fat with my meals. If I’m eating very lean protein sources like chicken breast then I’ll include more added fats from butter/oil, avocado’s or cheese. If I’m having a fattier protein source like beef or eggs then I’ll limit any additional fats.
2. Eat Moderate Amounts of Starches
People seem to misunderstand carbs entirely. Many people are even under the misguided impression that carbs make you fat and are damaging to health. This couldn’t be further from the truth! Higher carb diets have been shown to be more favourable for testosterone levels. Unfortunately, when dieting, carbs can’t be too high because then you will start to eat into the calorie deficit that you’re trying to create to drop body fat. The point, however, is to avoid low carbohydrate diets which are damaging to testosterone, quality of sleep and training performance. Low carb = low libido or sex drive.
In fact, if you ever do some searching around the paleo forums, you’ll hear about plenty of men complaining about losing their sex drive since switching to a paleo diet. Just Google, “paleo low sex drive.” The same is true if you search in Google, “can’t sleep paleo.” In that case you’ll read story after story of people struggling to sleep at night with a paleo style diet.
It wasn’t until I started consuming moderate amounts of carbs each and every day from potatoes, sweet potatoes, beans, rice and even delicious ice cream and gluten free cereal that I was able to sleep like a baby at night and maintain my image of being a borderline sex addict.
3. Make Time for Ample Amounts of Sleep
It’s important to realize that your body makes much more testosterone during shuteye than when you’re awake. For this reason, longer sleep times are often correlated with higher testosterone levels. Ideally aim for 7+ hours of sleep per night. Less than 7 hours and your testosterone levels may drop, likely causing a decline in sex drive. If for whatever reason you’re incapable of getting an ample amount of sleep then don’t worry, follow the other tips and you should have no trouble raising testosterone to high levels.
4. Soak in the Vitamin D
Vitamin D plays a powerful role in testosterone production. Ideally get 20 minutes of sun exposure a few times per week to naturally maintain high vitamin D levels. If you don’t have access to the sun then it’s probably a good idea to supplement with a good quality Vitamin D3 supplement. Aim for 3000 IU’s per day. I recommend taking vitamin D in the morning because some people may have difficulty sleeping if they take vitamin D at night.
5. Get Your Calcium, Magnesium and Zinc
Calcium, magnesium and zinc all play an important role in testosterone production. If you have a deficiency in any of these minerals then you’re making it harder on yourself to promote healthy levels of testosterone. Keep in mind, if you’re eating plenty of meat and dairy then you won’t need to supplement with calcium or zinc.
Magnesium is one of those minerals that can be tricky to get and for that reason supplementing with 5-10mg of magnesium citrate per kg of bodyweight is probably a good idea and may boost testosterone. Magnesium is also commonly deficient in athletes, especially people who are training while undergoing a diet.
If you’re not consuming much calcium in your diet then supplementing with calcium will also help. Lastly, if you’re not eating meat and want to maintain high testosterone levels then you definitely want a zinc supplement. However, if you’re into fitness and eating protein then you’re zinc levels are probably fine.
6. Cut out the uhm… uhhh… PORN
It’s been well over a year since I completely stopped watching any and all porn. To be honest, it wasn’t very difficult to quit. Ditching porn is far easier than changing your eating habits and dropping body fat. Since letting go of porn, I find myself more and more turned on by real life women. Oh and having real life sex is actually totally better too. I’m not going to talk about this too much, I think it’s better that you do your own research on the subject and make your own decision.
7. Get Outside of Your Head
If you think you have a low sex drive it’s possible that you’re just not fully immersing yourself in the moment. For instance, you’re with a girl, things are heating up and instead of getting turned on and acting through your own masculine intentions, you do the exact opposite. You retreat into your head, you start thinking about everything that could go wrong and you begin to judge yourself and quickly become insecure and sexually uninterested.
In fact, in this day and age, it’s strikingly common for young guys to have trouble getting it up the first time with a girl. The root of the problem is psychological in nature. And the cure is simple. Stop giving a shit….. I know, I know, but you give lots of shits! I get it, you want to impress the girl and be a total tomcat in the sack. Hell, your ego depends on it! But you must understand that this mentality is the absolute root of the problem.
Banging isn’t a performance, it’s an expression of one’s self at it’s most deepest level. Being dependent on a certain outcome, i.e impressing the girl, will poison your ability to enjoy yourself and become immersed in the moment. Ironically, when you stop caring about being really good or impressing the girl and you stop feeling like you’re being judged, well that’s when the sex is incredible!
Final Comments on low sex drive dieting
As you can see, just because you’re cutting doesn’t mean you have to forgo a big portion of your sex life. In actuality, with these tips in place, you may start to have some of the most mind blowing sex ever! And if you’re currently in the midst of a long, drawn out dry spell well then implement these tips and start going out and approaching girls more often. You owe it to yourself and you owe it to the women who you’re currently not having sex with right now.
Oh and if you want to get into incredible shape without letting your training and nutrition take over your life and without killing your sexual desire, well then you should most definitely be following my Warrior Shredding Program!