How to get my boyfriend to pay attention to me?

We all enjoy a bit of attention, don’t we? It is common to feel taken for granted over time in a relationship. Learn how to make your boyfriend want you more!

Wanting more attention from your boyfriend isn’t about being an attention seeker, being high maintenance, or having high expectations.

When you actively engage in ways to trigger the sexual and romantic interest of your partner, you are actually doing him a favour by helping him to rediscover all the little things about you that made him fall in love in the first place.

It is easy to forget them, take things for granted and let relationships go stale. Think of it as a gift, and watch his appreciation take form.

Here are all the ways to make your boyfriend want you more, make him sit up and pay attention:


#1: Get touchy-feely!

Just touch him! We are talking localised, and we are talking unprovoked.

When you you touch him or brush by an intimate place on his body, especially in public situations, you immediately pull his mind away from what’s going on around you, and his focus will be 100% on you.

How to do it: Reach in his trouser pocket without asking. You might be looking for keys, his phone, or just want to warm up your hand. His attention will immediately be on the fact that your hand is so near his penis.

Team it with a knowing smile or kiss, and you’ve caught him.

Alternatively, slip your hand into his back pocket while you’re walking down the street, to give him a sexy sense of feeling possessed. He’ll also enjoy the erotic sensation of his bum being stroked while he is walking.

Placing your hand on his inner thigh when you sitting on the bus is also a good one, and a little squeeze won’t go amiss!

#2: Adopt an alluring vagueness


Less is always more. When you give a guy everything on a plate, there is no challenge, no mystery.

This applies to your everyday conversation. You don’t have to give him all the nitty gritty details of your day or your night out. That is what your girlfriends are for.

Even if he asks, don’t be tempted to go into detail. Give minimal information and he will make the effort to probe you for more.

That’s when you know you’ve got his full attention, and he is more likely to actually be interested in what you do tell him because he is specifically digging for the info!

The less you tell him about your life, the more he will thinking about you and wondering about what you are doing. Before you know it, you will be all he thinks about.

#3: Encourage attention from other men

This is less about making your man jealous, and more about making him feel good! When I suggest for you to encourage attention from other men, I don’t mean make your own man feel insecure.

Use the opportunity to show him you’re his, and you will make him feel proud. All men have a primal instinct to compete against each other, especially when it comes to women.

If he knows he’s got the woman all the other guys are ogling, his ego will be swelling. Guys always seem to be a lot more clingy and affectionate too when they know there are half a dozen other men showing interest in their woman! Milk it.

#4: Change something radical about yourself


A man is more likely to notice and feel attracted to a change in your appearance if it is obviously different to your usual look.

Change is exciting because it is new and it makes him feel like he has discovered a new facet of your personality.

If you want a change and you want to take advantage of the chance to grab his attention while you’re at it, drastically change your hair colour and you will feel and act like a different person.

He’ll immediately sense the sexy difference in your personality, and the sexy confidence, and be turned on by the sexual implication of dating, let’s say, a redhead!

If you don’t want to go as far as a permanent change then look to your wardrobe and put together a sexy new look. Some noticeably high heels should do the trick if you normally wear flats.

#5: Revive old scents

Scents can have a powerful effect on memory. The familiar smell of leather can transport you straight back to all the fun times you had making out in your first boyfriend’s posh car.

The smell of fish and chips can take you back to dirty weekends away by the coast. Try digging out an old perfume or shampoo you used to use when you and your boyfriend first started dating.

The familiar scent is sure to trigger a few memories and get him reminiscing of your first exciting months together.

Remember: A familiar scent works like a sensory time-machine. Use them when you want some more attention from your man!

#6: Delayed gratification

Make him work for everything he wants. Don’t just give him what he wants when he wants it.

When he has complete and unquestioned access to something, it becomes boring and predictable. Is that what you want your relationship to be? No, of course not, so don’t always be available when it is convenient for him.

Go out of your way to delay. If he wants to see you, make sure you have a few things you need to attend to first, or make the arrangement so that it’s not definite, to keep him on his toes.

#7: Go bra-less

It might seem a bit crazy, especially is you’re top-heavy, but if you can afford to do every once in a while, you will be sure to get his immediate attention!

And by the way, I’m not just talking about taking your bra off in bed, I’m talking about not wearing a bra underneath your clothes during the day, so that your nipples show through when there is a draft, and there is a bit of extra bounce when you strut down the street next him!

Go bra-less when he takes you out for dinner, sit up straight and let those nipples tease him.

#8: Access his heart through his stomach

It is a cliche that works. All men appreciate good grub, but if you want him to sit up and take notice then you have to make cooking for him into a bit of an occasion.

This doesn’t mean a fancy seven-course candle-lit mean though. It means avoiding the kitchen in general so that when you do cook a slap-up meal, it will seem like a special event and your man will think you’re amazing.

Once you appeal to his appetite, he’ll be craving more of that yummy food, and if you are choosy about how often you cook for him, then his cravings will increase dramatically, and his appreciation will be displayed much more prominently… flowers, kisses, great sex… need I say more?

Also, if when you cook great food it leads to great sex, he will begin to associate the two, so that every time he thinks of your great food he will also start to think of how much he wants to ravish you!

When you mention that you might be cooking tonight – he might even start to get a hard-on… (and when he does, well… have some “dessert” for yourself and drive him wild with your naughty mouth — a steak and a killer blowjob or two go a long way)

#9: Absence makes the heart grow fonder

Make a big deal out of planning a short holiday away with the girls. He will begin to miss you before you have even parted!

Then while you are away, keep in touch, but make it brief. Don’t give away too many details about what you have been doing, let his imagination do the talking, and feed it with sexual tit-bits to get his sexual desire for you churning – tell him you miss his kisses and cuddles, that sort of thing.

Soon you will notice that his texts get a little bit soppier because he is missing you. When it is finally time to come home, he will be all over you, because of all the anticipation you have built up.

#10: Laugh, smile and be happy!


Don’t forget to enjoy yourself as much as possible and let it show. The happier you are, and the more you smile and laugh, the more beautiful you are and the more your boyfriend will be drawn to your positive vibes.

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Get a Busy Boyfriend’s Attention If Your Boyfriend is Always Busy with Work or School vs Always Tired vs a Busy Professional Athlete … and 1 more

How to Handle Busy Boyfriend?

This cannot be avoided, especially if your boyfriend has a successful career. It is also just fair if you will allow him just to deal with his job. You should not try to interfere because he won’t appreciate it. There has to be space left in any relationship for one to grow on his own and experience life on his own. It does not have to be about the two of you all the time.

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If he is busy, just give him the space he needs. Do not bother him or act hurt that he does not have time for you. If anything, this is the time that he needs your understanding the most. You can also use this time to deal with your own personal matters.

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Boyfriend has had an operation, and we haven’t met since?

Boyfriend had an operation – serious one at the beginning of Jan. Recovery hasn’t been easy, but he is now back at work and driving again. However, we talk 2 to 3 times a day and text a lot, but he hasn’t suggested meeting up again. We’ve been together 3.5 years.

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Recovery from any operation can be considerably long and challenging. In this circumstance, where he has not tried to see you since the operation, it seems that there might be a little bit more of a challenge for him than you might think. It may be possible he is nervous that you might see him differently because of the operation, or he is nervous you may be “grossed out.” Asking him why he hasn’t wanted to see you can be a good start or trying to involve him in plans once again. Considering how long you have been together, with simple communication, this should be a small obstacle to overcome.

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My boyfriend is ignoring me? What can I do?

My boyfriend is ignoring me, I say I want to end this relationship, he replies No. Please, No, but I say No, that is my last decision.

If that is what you truly feel and you are ready to end the relationship, then you should not be worried about him ignoring you. That is the ideal situation for two people to move on after ending things. So ignore his answer and inform him then that this is your final decision, you will not talk to and see him anymore as it is your choice, and he will not limit your freedom. Do not engage in conversations after that. He may say nonsense about you to your friends. Do not react to that. Just move on and take the step into the next chapter of your life.

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What must I do if my boyfriend is doing this because I’m so involved with him?

We are in a long distance relationship but not that far, the problem is that when I call him, he sometimes doesn’t pick up, or he will say I will call you back, but he won’t return my calls, when we are sometimes chatting, he doesn’t reply but his online. I’m starting to lose interest.

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The best advice I could give you would be to attempt to have a serious conversation about your relationship with him. Find out if you are both on the same page in your relationship, and to see if you both want the same things. Inform him how you feel about him constantly leaving calls unanswered, and not answering your messages when you can see that he is still online. You may also want to tell him that because of this, you are beginning to lose interest. The outcome will either make him re-think his position about how he has been treating you, or it will give you the answers you were looking for. Either way a healthy relationship needs open communication.

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My boyfriend ignores me always and neglects to spend time with me even on texting or call?

He is living far away from my place. So we can’t regularly meet, so we keep in touch with mobile calls and SMS. But he never bothers to text me!! I have to call or text me every time, but he does not bother even to reply me!! After some days, only he answers me and talks without any feelings. I don’t know whether he loves me or not, but I love him truly more and more.

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Unfortunately, this happens sometimes with long distance relationships. You may have to sit back and ask yourself if this is the kind of person you want to be in a relationship with. You may want to talk to him, when it is convenient for the both of you, and try to find out if something is wrong, or if there is a simple miscommunication between you. If you do this, and there still is no change in the relationship, you may have to take measures into your hands and decide whether to leave the relationship or stay.

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I feel my husband’s brother used me, after his use he left me, what will I do?

If you love your husband, you need to work on your relationship with him. A man that would sleep with his brother’s wife does not have a moral compass and he absolutely did use you. Think about that and use that anger to get over him. If he had really loved you he would not have done this to you or his brother.

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I want my boyfriend back in my life. I want to catch his attention again. I want to create that spark again?

Actually the problem is started after his birthday, he changed his room and didn’t tell me about it. After that he started maintaining distance, whenever I ask him about this, he always says that he is tensed because of his job problems, he even didn’t come to meet me. Every time he talks to me, he is like talking forcefully. Please help me!!!! I need him back

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You can’t make someone want to be with you. What you can do is show how much you love him, despite his recent attitude, and hopefully, he will soften towards you again.

Long distance relationship and lack of communication?

Hi. I met a guy 4 months back in a church we both visited. He is in Swaziland and I’m in South Africa. In the beginning, he used to call me twice a day sometimes once. He is a lawyer by profession, so I understand he is busy. He texts every time he gets a chance. But always text me every night. He doesn’t call these days. He once came to South Africa to meet with me. We chose a central place and we met there. He then asked me to do a passport so that I can visit him. I did the passport request and I just got it. He says I should visit when he closes for December holidays so that we can spend quality time together. He always says ” I love and adore you big time, for real.” Should I be worried that he isn’t calling me? If I call he answers and always happy to hear from me. He says work is hectic because they are about to close. But can’t wait to see me. He sends me money all the time to get anything I need. Should I be worried?. I have tried: I have tried not to text to give him his space. And he always is the first to text me. Because it is easy to text in court but not call. I think it was caused by: He got an accident a week before he stopped calling and his office also caught fire. He was always texting and updating me with pictures of the car and the office. And he had to get a new office. So maybe relocating had been hectic

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There is nothing other than he is busy right now relocating and recovering from his accident. He stated to you that he loves hearing from you and wants to see you for the holidays so look forward to that. It is tough when you are in a long distance relationship and you can’t just drive over to speak in person. Relax.

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I don’t know whether he needs me or not. He is asking for time and creates a distance between us. Ignoring my calls and taking hours to reply me. He told me that he is fed up with his job, don’t know what to do, help me

Actually, I am an orphan girl. I have no relationship and my parents are he came to my life and brightened it. He helped me move away from my ex-boyfriend who made me more troubles than love, so this guy was my everything. He feeds me cause I have no job and still I am a student. Now he doesn’t make me feel better about our relationship… What should I do it’s our 3rd year. Please help me, I can’t live without him. He is my strength. I can’t move on with my works without him. Please I am waiting your advises

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Most likely he is feeling stress about his job and taking his frustrations out on your relationship. You have been together for three years so he is emotionally invested in your relationship. Ask him if there is anything you can do to take some pressure off of him. Explain to him that he has supported you in the past and now you want to support him.

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How do I get my needs fulfilled?

My boyfriend is always busy at a very labor intensive job and usually too tired after he gets off. I try to be understanding and work with him but when do I get my needs met? I have a busy life too and always make time for him, when will he makes time for me?. I have tried: Giving him space. Texting him only when he texts me or before he goes to work. I think it was caused by: His new job keeps him very busy.

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Making changes like a new job can be exhausting until one gets into their new routine. Give him a few weeks to get adjusted, and if things have not changed, ask him to make time for you. Sometimes guys do not even notice they are ignoring their women. Everyone has different needs and a relationship means compromising for the good of the relationship. Hopefully, you will figure out what the balance is for you to be happy.

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Does he even consider me as his girlfriend?

My boyfriend is an engineering student. He doesn’t give me time at all. He doesn’t even consider me as someone to spend his time with. We go weeks without talking to each other. During that, he says that he’s too busy and hence I must not text him. At night when I text him, that time too he says that he’s busy. He has time to post kinds of stuff on Facebook and reply to the comments of people but not to talk to me? Does he really still love me. Should I leave him? Will that make him miss me? Or I must just ignore his texts even if he sends any as in going on 30 days no contact? Will that make him realize his mistake? What must I do? Please guide me. I’m so very confused and extremely hurt. I have tried: I’ve tried not be available much. I’ve tried not to bother him and not text him first. If suppose he texted me and I was unable to answer..if I text him back after few days, he says he’s busy… I think it was caused by: Probably I feel that he is too confident that I’ll never leave him. But I’m scared. Last time when we broke up, he approached me first after few months by apologizing. He still keeps mentioning that it was he who had come for me. So I’m scared whether his ego will allow him to come for the second time.

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Be upfront with him and tell him that while you realize he is busy, his refusal to make any time for you is insulting. It sounds like your relationship is off to the side behind other obligations like school for him. While that is understandable, he should not be sitting on Facebook without making any time to also send you a quick message of hello. Some guys just do not know how to divide their time so that they can show some attention to their girlfriend. Before you break up with him again, give him the respect of at least speaking with him about how you feel neglected. If you are unhappy with his responses then perhaps it is time to end the relationship so you can find someone that makes time for you during their day.

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What should I do when my boyfriend behaves like he does not care about me?

He is always complaining about my attitude and he always makes me feel guilty, but I love him so much and he knows that and he does not want to satisfy my urge. He denies my opportunity to see him and also denies me of having sex. I have tried: Have tried apologizing and also doing things that he likes. I think it was caused by: I think he has another girl and he is avoiding me because of her, but I want him back!

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You should move on. He does not want to invest in the relationship with you. Saying that he does not like your personality is another red flag. Even if you try to make changes, he probably is not seeing it because he is judging you still by your past behavior. Some people have a toxic relationship in that they love each other but also hate each other. These are miserable relationships. You owe it to yourself to find someone that embraces your personality and all of that spunk and attitude you have instead of obsessing about trying to get someone back that has emotionally moved on already.

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My boyfriend doesn’t want sex with me anymore. Could it be because of his drinking?

I have been with my boyfriend for approximately 7 years. His drinking has increased during the past few years, and sex is virtually nonexistent. When I have discussed this with him he said to him it is just like doing the washing up, and he gets nothing from it. He has also accused me of me being the reason for him turning to drink. As I care for him so much, I have suggested I don’t see him so often as I would rather he is healthy and unstressed, I do not want to be the cause of his health deteriorating. He said he doesn’t see me that often and didn’t agree to this. His behavior has made me feel unattractive, not a priority in his life, just used for a convenience for other things like staying over, meals and being closer to his local drinking buddies. I would appreciate some advice on this.

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What I do to know about my boyfriend’s Nature? If he ignoring my “Text” & “Calls” “Busy”?”?

I am in new relationship I sometimes feels that on weekend he is not give reply of my text & calls,so I m feels unsecured… & getting angry too,Everyday we meet hence I m unable to identify weather he really loves me or do only flirts to me he always says “I love You I want to marry with you” How can I trust him? we are very closer in the relationship now so it’s quite hard to come out from all these things.. I don’t know how I judge his nature even we are working at the same institute….in same office too.I really care & love with him…. please give some advise to me.Thanks…

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How do I handle my boyfriend if he has to film at 5 for one of his classes?

I wanted to bring my boyfriend to my fencing party but he said he has to film at 5.

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My boyfriend has started ignoring me specially after getting a good position at work and tells me to not to call him until he calls me. What should I do?

I am in a 5 years of relationship. My boyfriend has recently got a promotion at work and tells me that he is busy and does not call me or text me.When I call him he talks very impolitely with me. Most of the time I have called him and found him on break for more than 30 minutes with his colleagues and manager. I feel very detached and alone. He has stopped caring about me and is always good to me when he is in front of me. I am not able to end the relation and I am going through depression. He also committed me to marry me but he shows no interest on that topic. I have been waiting for him since 5 years. Please help me as I am not able to take any decision. I am in a 5 years relation and my boyfriend’s behavior has changed recently since last 5 months. It was not the same when we started dating. He has all of a sudden started acting busy.This kind of example has not been covered in the article. I have tried: I have tried to give him his space. I have tried to understand his work and it’s importance.I tried not to call him until he calls me, but nothing seems to work. The more I understand the more it is getting unbearable. I think it was caused by: I am not exactly sure what is the cause of this problem. I am trying my best to understand the situation.

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I am in a relationship since two years but my guys is not giving me much attention because he is busy with his placements?

I trust my boyfriend, he is very busy since two months. from last week I am talking with a person daily for hours because I needed someone and the person I talk with is a person I like..

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How can I get him to pay more attention he just won’t stick to his word saying he will give me attention he sticks to it for one day then goes back to nothing?

I’ve been in a relationship for about 5 months I’m 19 and he’s 25 and he’s lacking intimacy attention and affection he’s always busy and when I talk to him about it he does something about it then he lacks off again I’ve asked for attention etc about 4 times and I just don’t want to keep asking please if anyone has any good advice it would be so helpful also I do a lot for him and hardly get anything in return shall I stop doing so much for him I don’t want to leave him but if that is the only option then I will but I want to try fix it he is more interested in doing his own thing then in me like PlayStation etc he drinks every night which I wish he would cut down on but just need some advice please help

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How to Get Your Boyfriend’s Attention

I’ll let you in on a little secret that’s actually not that much of a secret: men have short attention spans. Unless they’re glued to the TV playing an epic game on the Xbox, you can’t expect them to pay attention to you for more than a few minutes – unless you’re naked.

The truth is, your boyfriend may need a little help getting his attention off his own life and focusing it on you. After that initial “honeymoon phase” is over, he’ll more than likely revert to paying attention to the things he did before you got together. If you’re looking to bring his eyes back to you for good, here’s all the best ways to get your boyfriend’s attention.

  1. Get Naked!

This is #1 for a reason. One of the surest ways you’ll get your boyfriend’s attention is if you take it from him. And the very best way to do that is to strip down to nothing and just walk right by him. Even if he’s just about to terrorize a small village and beat the game he’s playing, he will follow right after you.

That is, if the two of you are at this comfort level already. The fact is that seeing his girlfriend completely naked will not only surprise him into paying attention to you, but his male instincts will make it almost impossible for him to leave you alone for a minute longer.

  1. Put on Something Special

Now, this can relate to you getting naked, but it doesn’t necessarily have to. You can easily put on something extra special for him that’s not lingerie, too, although lingerie is a fantastic way to go if you’re looking to steal his attention.

You can just put on a super cute sun dress, a tight outfit, or even a sexy, silky, new robe and get his attention just as easily. The trick is to wear something out of the ordinary, something he’ll be surprised to see you in. So if you usually dance around the house in a pair of jeans, throw those in the wash and trade them for a sexy dress instead.

  1. Delve into Some of His Hobbies

If the reason his attention is not on you is because of the hobbies he seems to be obsessed with lately, try to get involved in those. Show him that you can just as easily jump in and be a part of his hobbies.

He’ll not only put his attention in the right direction – on you – but he’ll also be really happy and excited that you’re putting the time and effort into something he’s interested in. It will re-spark his interest and even add a little something special to your relationship as well.

  1. Be Aloof

Sometimes the best way to get your man’s attention is to take yours off of him. Ignore him! Be mysterious. Don’t tell him where you’re going when you’re planning a night out with the girls. Just say you’ll be “out” and will be home later.

He’ll be really intrigued as to where you’re going and will pay extra attention to you before you go and when you get back to find out all that you did when you were just “out”. If you want an added bonus, dress to impress.

  1. Flirt with the Hot Waiter

I find that this works expertly at dinner when my boyfriend is engulfed in his phone the entire time and has no room to pay attention to me. I just make sure to spend a lot of time chatting up the hot waiter and even give him a wink or two – while my boyfriend watches.

It might make him a little jealous, but that also means he has finally put down his phone and is willing to actually look at you instead. Just don’t take it too far as to make him really mad, because that could have adverse effects.

  1. Make a Drastic (Attractive) Physical Change

But don’t tell him about it. Chopping 6 inches off your hair and adding in some highlights would be sure to get his attention. The secret here is to only do it for yourself and not specifically to get his attention.

So if you’ve always wanted bangs, now is the time to make the cut. He’ll obviously notice something that drastic and realize that maybe he should be paying more attention to you and hey, maybe he’ll love the look so much it’ll be enough to keep his attention on you for a long time.

  1. Play Hard to Get

I know, I know. He’s already got you. I’m saying that you shouldn’t just give it up whenever he wants. You shouldn’t give away your attention to him if he’s not giving his to you. So play hard to get!

When he compliments you, say thank you and walk away – just leave the room completely. Make him chase after you to get what he wants and he’ll be handing out that attention like you wouldn’t believe.

  1. Make His Favorite Meal

Sometimes you have to guilt trip your boyfriend in order to get his attention. By hand making his favorite meal, he’ll realize how much time and effort you put in in order to make him feel special and he will definitely show you that he cares.

This doesn’t just apply to food though. You can order him some pizza when you’re not there just so he can enjoy it during the football game with his friend or you could get him two concert tickets to that band you don’t like but know he loves. Little things that show him you care will actually make him pay more attention to you.

  1. Bring out the Old Perfume

They say scent is the most powerful memory holder in the world. So if you remember what perfume you wore on your first date or the first time the two of you got hot in heavy between the sheets, take it out and douse yourself in it.

Then make sure to get really close to him. Make sure he can smell it on you and hope that he actually remembers what it’s from. He should really notice and you’ll have all his attention.

  1. Plan a Trip Away from Him

Absence really does make the heart grow fonder. Maybe the two of you have been spending too much time together lately and that’s why his attention seems to be elsewhere. So plan a trip with your girlfriends and talk about it ALL the time with him.

Go somewhere really fun that will not only make him jealous, but make him miss you before you’re gone as well. When you get back it’ll be like you were gone for months, not just a few days.

Once your boyfriend’s attention is on something else, it can seem hard to get it back on you. Doing some of these tips every now and then will really open his eyes to what he’s been missing out on. Do you have any foolproof methods to get your boyfriend’s attention? Let us know how it went for you below!

I’m going to show you exactly how to keep a guy interested in your relationship.


The best part?

If you follow these tips to a tee, not only will you be happier within yourself, but your man will be totally in love with you, too.

We’ve got a lot to cover, so let’s begin.

1) Love yourself

Cliché? Sure. But if you don’t do it, you can’t expect anyone else to.

We all have a need to love and be loved. Developing our capacity to love ourselves serves as a training ground for loving other people.

If you can’t love yourself, you don’t believe that you are worthy of others’ love. And if you don’t believe you’re worthy of others’ love, you’ll struggle to build a healthy, long-term relationship.

Are you perhaps now thinking that you’re still just dating, and it’s way too soon to be thinking about love?

This isn’t about being in love, it’s about laying the foundations for love a little further down the line.

It’s about making sure that you’re loveable and demonstrating to your guy that you’re worthy of his continuing interest.

Think back to your very first forays into the world of relationships as a teen. Maybe you were nervous and unsure of yourself. You were probably still figuring out your identity and your place in the world.

While some lucky people manage to successfully forge a long-lasting relationship in their early years, most of us just haven’t learned to love ourselves enough at that young age to be able to do it.

As we grow, we learn to love ourselves. Or at least, that’s the theory.

But it can be difficult to do, even for the most confident. We’re socialized to think that loving ourselves is arrogant and unappealing, but in fact, it’s the opposite. Show your man you love and care about yourself, and you’ll be giving him a road-map to loving you.

If you can love yourself successfully, you’ll survive anything, even a long distance relationship.

Top tip:

Loving yourself can be really hard, because, like everyone else, you’re not perfect. Acknowledge that you have faults, and that everyone does.

Work on changing these, but don’t beat yourself about them. Accept yourself and others will too.

(Most women do something that drives men away… without ever realizing it. Discover what it is here).

2) Stay interesting and interested

In those early days of dating, you might have spent time trying to think up new and ever-more interesting things to do together.

When the initial few dates are over and you’re thinking it might be going somewhere, take care not to slip into doing the same-old, same-old every time you meet.

Doing the same things all the time that leads to complacency.

If you do can avoid that complacency trap, this stage is the most exciting part of getting to know someone.

The early dates are over, you’re starting to develop a real connection and be comfortable in each other’s company, but there’s still so much to learn and do together.

In other words: don’t just watch movies and eat pizza every time you see each other. Keep his interest by staying interesting.

Suggest new things to do together. Find places to go neither of you have ever been. Start getting out of your comfort zone together.

Keeping it interesting isn’t just about what you do on dates. It’s about what happens when you stay up late talking about your hopes and dreams.

What have you both always wanted to do? Look for the common ground and find the places you connect and intersect.

Talk about things you love doing, and the things he loves that you want to know more about. If you want to be charming, be interested to be interesting.

If you’ve always wanted to go skiing, and you know he’s been, ask him about that. Ask him about the things you know he’s passionate about, and wait to see his eyes light up when he tells you about them.

Give him the chance to ask you about what you love to do. There’s nothing sexier than passion.

Top tip:

This is a great time to start making a few plans together, however small. You’re getting past the stage of just working date-to-date. It’s time to keep things interesting by giving yourselves something to look forward to.

3) Don’t be nice and you’ll keep a guy interested

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Being nice sounds like a no-brainer, right? But spend too much time trying to be nice and you risk being the opposite.

In those early days where you’re spending a lot of emotional energy getting to know someone, you can end up feeling a bit wrung out and all over the place.

You feel like you’re constantly thinking about how to react and what impression you’re giving.

You’re trying to be nice and make a good impression, but you end up putting him off because you’re overthinking everything and it shows (if you think it doesn’t, you’re wrong).

Stop doing this. By trying to be nice all the time, you’re not being yourself. No-one is constantly nice and undemanding.

Sometimes, everyone is a bit ratty after a hard day of work, or a bit upset about a family argument, or whatever. It’s OK to not be totally OK all of the time.

This doesn’t mean you should be deliberately treating him mean, either. Both being excessively nice and overly mean are game-playing.

Neither of them will help you build those all-important relationship foundations that you should be building right now.

The big problem with being nice is that it means you’re constantly trying to live up to an image of the person you think he wants you to be.

Whether or not that’s who you really are. And that is totally counter-productive, because it means you’re building those foundations on shaky ground. Stop being nice, focus on being real.

Send him a good morning message if you feel it at the time. If not, then don’t do it just to impress him.

Top tip:

Maybe he’s putting up a ‘nice’ front just as much as you are. Guys get nervous too and anxious to make a good impression.

If he never seems down or grumpy in the slightest, you’re not getting all of him yet. Encourage him to relax with you so you can get to know him properly.

4) Cook and eat together

The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach? Quite possibly. It’s definitely true that eating together can be hot.

It’s also a great way to explore your likes and dislikes, to be creative and to make time to focus just on each other.

Food brings people together in all kinds of contexts – dating included.

Cooking for your man is a fantastic way to impress him. Find out what he loves to eat and make something that will really treat his taste-buds.

You’ll keep him interested not only because you’ve made him some delicious food but because you’ve shown him that you’ve taken the time to find something he’ll really love. Then, sit back and wait for him to return the favor.

Cooking together can also be a great way to get to know each other. It’s a chance for you to spend time playing around with food, your likes and dislikes and seeing how well you work together.

Top tip:

If you’re not wannabe chefs, going out to eat is just as much fun as cooking. At this stage of the game, it doesn’t all have to be about extravagance and impressing each other.

This is the time to take him to your favorite backstreet café or noodle bar. Take him to the places you’ve known and loved over the years. He’ll get to know more about you and you’ll both get to eat well in the process.

5) How to keep a guy happy: Laugh together

When you picture your perfect future with your man, what do you see? Chances are, laughter features pretty highly. And there’s a good reason for that.

Shared laughter is an important part of any budding relationship. It’s a vital part of creating memories, helping you create a bond that can stand the test of time.

Being able to laugh together demonstrates to your guy that you have things in common. A shared sense of humor is pretty close to the top of most people’s relationship to-do lists, after all.

Laughter helps you build your foundations. Every long-term relationship will go through hard times at some point.

If this becomes a longstanding thing, when it’s your turn to hit a tough period, you’ll have brilliant memories to look back on of the nights you stayed up until 3am laughing together.

If you find you’re not laughing enough, what can you do? Don’t panic – this doesn’t mean you’re not right for each other.

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It just means that you haven’t got totally into the groove yet. If you’re not laughing much, it might be because you’re still stuck in anxious first-date mode.

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Now is the time to move past that and let yourself go a little. Laughing together means you’re able to let your guard down with each other.

If you’re finding that hard to do, work on your confidence. Being confident means you don’t care that your mascara is running down your face because you’ve been laughing so hard for so long.

Top tip:

If you feel like you’re not laughing together much, just get out and do things together as much as possible. Overcome challenges together. Learn things together. The laughter should follow.

6) Don’t play games

You’ve probably heard, or read, a load of advice on the dating ‘game’. Advice like, don’t text back straight away, chat to other guys to make him jealous, treat him mean to keep him on his toes.

These rules are, their advocates say, designed to keep a man interested. Exactly what you want to do, right?

Yes, but you’re keeping him interested on false pretenses. If you have to resort to pretending you don’t like someone much to get them to like you, you’re building a relationship on very shaky ground.

You might get what you want right now, but you’re not going to keep getting it once the whole house of cards falls down in a few months’ time.

By playing games, you’re not showing him who you really are. You’re not giving him the best of yourself.

Imagine this: perhaps he’d fall in love with the real you if you just gave him the chance to get to know her. But if she’s hidden under all the games, maybe he’ll just not bother and move on. Gaming can be totally counter-productive.

There’s also the fact that he’ll probably know exactly what you’re doing. Most emotionally intelligent adults can guess when they’re being gamed, and most don’t like it.

You probably wouldn’t be impressed if you figured out that he was taking his dating style straight from some book or online forum, so why do it to him?

Top tip: Not playing games doesn’t mean it’s not OK to keep your distance a little. That’s just what emotionally healthy people do. This will keep your man happy.

By resisting any urges you have to jump feet first into a full-on relationship you’re giving it the best chance of success, as you’re letting the relationship take its natural course without the pressure of expectation.

7) Be spontaneous

Spontaneity is a vital part of being able to have fun and enjoy life. Of course, making plans is fun too, but if you feel you can’t ever just decide to wake up in the morning and go and do something completely unplanned, you’re missing out.

Being spontaneous with your new man is a chance to show him what you’re made of. There’s plenty of time later for the habits and routines that inevitably develop in a long-standing partnership.

And there’s nothing wrong with habits and routines, but we all need a break from them. Routine is associated with work and obligation, spontaneity with fun and freedom. Be the person your guy associates with fun.

Being spontaneous doesn’t have to mean that you end up having wild drunken adventures every weekend (though of course, it can if that’s your bag).

It can just mean that you head out for a morning coffee and rather than just going straight home after, you hit the shops for a few hours and then take in a movie.

Or maybe it’ll mean that on Wednesday, you suggest heading away for a night at the weekend. You came up with the idea, so he gets to choose where to go.

Spontaneity means you both get to take an equal role in making plans, as you do it as you go along. Doing this can be a great bonding experience.

Top tip:

If you find it difficult to be spontaneous, try planning spontaneity. Sounds crazy? It doesn’t have to be.

Decide that every Saturday, you’ll meet up and just wander around the city looking for fun things to do. That’s a plan, but it’s a very loose one and will allow you to have all kinds of adventures together.

8) Take the lead sometimes

Lots of women are conditioned to think that they should fall in line and do what he wants to do most of the time.

Even women who are generally pretty strong and independent, with good careers and a great group of girlfriends behind them can end up doing this without even knowing what’s happening.

Girls are brought up to be nice to everyone and put themselves last. But actually, any guy worth his salt doesn’t want a meek and mild girl who’ll always do what he wants and never have an opinion. If that is what he wants, run a mile, he’s not a keeper.

If you’re already a natural lead taker – and lots of women are – great. Keep doing it. If you’re not, then make a choice to be the one who makes the decisions sometimes.

You choose and book the restaurant, rather than waiting for him to suggest something. He’ll love seeing you as the confident, independent woman you are.

This isn’t just about the here-and-now, it’s that foundation-building thing again. Take your turn at taking the lead now, and then if you last the distance, you’ll naturally share the decision making when it really matters.

Things like, choosing where to live or what to call your kids, for example.

Top tip:

If you find it hard to take the lead, look for areas where you can do it better than him. We all have our strengths and weaknesses, right?

So, if every restaurant you go to is terrible, you start picking them. If his taste in movies is awful, you choose. Get this right now, and you’ll be laying the foundations for a proper partnership of give- and-take later on.

(What if you knew the secret to what goes on inside a man’s mind, and what secretly turns him on? Check out my review of my friend Amy’s fantastic new book here).

9) Get to know his friends

Getting to know his friends can be tough, but it’s important to do it. Your guy will want you to get on with his friends.

He’ll value their opinion on you, which makes meeting them a little scary, but if you can win them over, you’ll win lots of points with him.

And it’s not just about him sizing you up. Meeting his friends is a chance for you to find out more about your guy.

If he’s reluctant for you to meet them, maybe he’s hiding something about himself, or his lifestyle.

You can tell a lot about someone from their friends, so if all his friends live at home with their parents and spend their lives playing computer games, maybe he’s not the go-getting personality he’s made himself out to be.

Keep your first meeting casual and informal. Suggest you all head out for some drinks together for a couple of hours. That way, you can get to know each other without too much pressure – and you’ll know that if it’s really terrible, it’ll be easy enough to make your excuses and leave.

Getting to know his friends is a vital part of making your lives work together as a partnership.

If everything goes well, these people will become your friends, and your friends will become his friends.

A good first meeting with his friends can set wheels in motion for years of fun together.

Top tip:

Find out who is very closest friends are. These are the people whose opinion will matter the most to him.

Spend some time chatting just with them, and maybe offer to buy a round of drinks. This isn’t about being fake, but just about showing that you’re interested in them and their conversation.

10) Be seductive

This is the perfect stage for being super-seductive. At this point, your sex life should be getting pretty hot.

You’re past any initial awkwardness, you’re getting to know each other but there’s still a hell of a lot for you to explore. This is a great time to make the most of your lust.

Remember that flirting isn’t just something you do in the first couple of dates. If you want your relationship to work out long-term, keep on flirting.

Remember that all the flirting you did in those heady early dates isn’t going to be enough to carry you through forever.

Flirting in a relationship, however new, isn’t quite the same as flirting in order to try and get someone’s attention.

You’ve got their attention already – flirting at this stage is about keeping them interested and keeping your sex life hotting up.

Flirting is about being playful and confident. You don’t need to be too serious when you flirt. It’s about showing you care about them and want them to find you attractive.

It’s about communicating, building a language of love and seduction between you. It’s about having shared jokes and dirty secrets.

Don’t be afraid to go all out and dress up to the nines for a big night out, or cook a three-course candlelit dinner at home.

Don’t worry about being cheesy (unless you go totally over the top). Most guys will love the attention you’re lavishing on them and will want more, and more.

Top tip:

Flirting and seduction doesn’t have to be complicated. Give them a squeeze on the way past, make a filthy joke or send them a sext. As you get closer, your flirting can get braver. There’s no need to hold back at this stage.

(Men love girls who need a hero. Even if you don’t need a hero, here’s how you can invite one into your life – starting today).

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How To Make Your Man Pay Attention To You – 7 Ways

Look, you want to know how to make your man pay attention to you. I get it…

“A loving relationship is one in which the loved one is free to be himself — to laugh with me, but never at me; to cry with me, but never because of me; to love life, to love himself, to love being loved. Such a relationship is based upon freedom and can never grow in a jealous heart” – LEO BUSCAGLIA

Have you ever bought a new outfit and worn it to an event, only to have no one really notice it? No one comments: “Hey, that’s a nice dress!” or you just don’t get the looks you want?

Or maybe you’ve been dating a guy for a while and you feel like he’s paying attention to everyone else but you.

These disappointments are difficult, especially if you’ve built up a story about it in your head, and now you’re working to get those expectations fulfilled. It’s strange, because you might even feel like the world kind of … owes you this recognition, yeah?

Look, getting ignored sucks…

I feel pretty…

But we are ignored by almost everyone all the time, so why should we care at all if we’re not getting noticed?

Well, when it comes to people we value, we want to feel valued back.

We want them to recognize our value. And nothing makes you feel valued like having the person you adore give you his attention.

Carlos Cavallo, Dating and Attraction Adviser

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So right now I want to take a few minutes to show you how you can get a man to really NOTICE you…

But first – as I like to do – I’m going to give you a few cautionary words to help you avoid the big mistakes –

MISTAKE 1 – You won’t get him to notice you by using a “gun”

I’ve been in a few relationships where the woman was – unfortunately – a bit too insecure. And then she proceeded to make it my fault she wasn’t getting the attention she needed.

Of course, she didn’t really need attention, she needed to find out why she was always feeling so insecure.

So I was the one that ended up being blamed. She’d try to force me – at emotional gunpoint – to notice her, but that only made me resentful and unhappy. So I left.

Don’t make that mistake. You won’t get his attention by force.

MISTAKE 2 – You won’t get him to notice you by trying to impress him…

What you need to do is LET HIM IMPRESS YOU…

Too many women are eager to start sharing the other people in their life with him before letting him feel like he’s really got your attention.

Have him audition and show you what he’s got…

Once you let a guy think you’re impressed by him, you just lean back and let him step back up to the plate and start earning your attention.

You’d be surprised how effective this is, especially because guys need to know they’re desired, too.

Okay, now let’s dig into the 7 tips to get his attention:

Get Him To Pay Attention To You – Tip 1: Beam The Positive…

Men are instinctively drawn to bubbly, fun people. Especially women…

In fact, a lot of women resent this kind of attitude in a woman, thinking that it demonstrates a kind of dull mind. “Why does he like that bimbo?” she thinks.

Well, it’s not the bimbo part of her he finds alluring… It’s the relaxed, fun-loving part. It’s the care-free part.

Be the light that everyone “grows” toward.

Alan Watts, the great philosopher, said that there are two kinds of people: Prickly and Gooey.

  • Prickly people are logical and critical and skeptical…
  • Gooey people are emotional and soft and gullible…

We need a bit of both in us, but the fun side will come out with your Gooey side more than the Prickly.

Get Him To Notice You – Tip 2: Let Your Body Sing…

Men are very attracted to women who exude their personality through their body.

When you are relaxed and free in your body, you will come across with a level of confidence and attractiveness that your man will HAVE to pay attention to you.

Work on letting your body express itself more naturally. If you feel restrained or tight in your expression, go take some dance classes – or even Yoga.

It will help…

Get Him To See You – Tip 3: Don’t Be A ‘Ho…

Women are very critical of other women who beg for attention too hard. Men, too.

In fact, guys have a term for this kind of woman: Attention Whore. It’s not pretty, but it sums the situation up well.

But for all the right reasons…

You know this kind of woman, right? She’s the girl who laughs a little too loud at his jokes – maybe does that silly snort thing when she laughs to dumb herself down a bit.

She’s the kind of girl that other women roll their eyes at, because you kinda remember being a teenager once, right?

But sadly, some women never grow up.

You don’t want to look like you’re begging for him to see you. If you have to do that, you’re only lowering your value in his eyes.

Make Your Man Notice You – Tip 4: Show Him The Spark…

A lot of women think that men are looking for a woman of lesser intelligence. Mostly because “everyone knows” that guys are threatened by smart women.

Uh, that’s bullsh*t.

And I’m hoping you know it is already, but you might not. All the stereotypes of men make us look like we’re scared and intimidated by any woman that challenges us.

This is a complete falsehood.

When you feel them, let them fly…

There are women that we find intimidating – just as you do. Let’s face it, we’ve all met someone we felt was out of our league.

But the messy truth is that if he’s the kind of guy you want – and the kind of guy you’d marry – he won’t back down.

If you dumb yourself down first, you’ll never know what kind of man you could have had.

How To Make Him Notice You – Tip 5: Get a Little Aggro…

This one falls in line with the last tip, in that you want to hit him with a little of your energy.

Demure and shy is nice, but a man will really take notice of a woman who dares to go out on a limb a bit and get aggressive with him. A woman that puts herself out there.

You’re not trying to be a boisterous, life-of-the-party type – so you don’t have to change your personality at all. You just have to be willing to put your foot down and MAKE HIM notice you.

Take the reigns.

Maybe push him up against the wall and kiss him – and then tell him you’re not going to sleep with him tonight, with a smile. Then go inside and wait about 10 minutes for his texting to start. (and maybe a bit of begging, too…)

If you try to be too “nice” early on (or even later on) you risk not leaving him with your face floating in his thoughts.

A man needs to have that emotional image in his brain to tell him who to pay attention to. It tells him WHICH woman he’s OBSESSED with…

Yeah, I know I said not to be an attention ‘ho, but this is subtly very different. It’s daring for a woman, who might not want to “stand out” – but it’s critical that you do.

Get Him To Notice You – Tip 6: Diva Up…

It’s commonly held that divas are not popular in any social circle. But the beauty of being a diva for your man is that it’s only temporary.

Because – every so often – you deserve to be treated like a star.

And if you don’t demand it every once in a while, your man might assume you don’t have the self-esteem to stand up for yourself… to make yourself a priority.

A strong, confident woman is a timeless beauty…

Plus, you want to give a man a glimpse of your “knockout” self – the woman who can look and dress the part of a real woman.

You’d be surprised how few women are really willing to be feminine in this age of gender normalization.

Remember, Feminine does not equate to “high maintenance” – nor does it equate to ‘politically incorrect.’

And let’s be brutally honest here:

Men don’t stay with women that can’t make them feel like men.

And the only way to do that is to Diva yourself up every once in a while to remind him of how this whole man-woman thing works.

Oh, and while you’re at it – go nuts in bed with him. Put on a fantastic night of crazy-wild-monkey-love with him to really wake him up out of his coma. Maybe even – gasp – dominate him in the bedroom.

Do that to remind him of the reward he gets if he steps up to devote himself to you. He has to know there’s a reward for committing to YOU.

Make Your Man Pay Attention To You – Tip 7: Pay His Dues…

Look, I’ll tell you up front that if you’re trying to get a man to notice you and pay attention to you –

…AND you’re not doing anything to notice him – you’re going to have a rough time getting that attention back in return.

Sometimes we get in these deadlock loops with our partners:

  • We want their attention, but they’re not giving it…
  • So we hold back on giving them attention and love…
  • And they feel this and pull back even more…
  • And the cycle goes on…

Pay your dues of love to him, without expectation of return. And if you find that he has none to give, you move on to a relationship where he does have a full tank to return to you.

But don’t hold love hostage.

Set your heart free.

There’s a great saying that I want to share with you:

“What love we’ve given we will have forever. What love we fail to give is lost for all eternity.” – LEO BUSCAGLIA

It’s tempting to hold our own love hostage and not give it away when we feel like we’re being shortchanged by our partner. But you can’t let yourself become a “love miser.”

Love is free… it costs nothing to give it away. You have an endless supply of it, yet we constantly hold back from giving it away.

When did love become a transaction where we had to get what we give?

The irony of love is that the more you give, the more you get. The less you give, the hungrier you go to bed at night.

Don’t go to your grave having wished you’d loved a little more…

And if you want to know the secrets to getting a man to unlock his love for you, to notice you, and to commit to you forever – you should watch this presentation on Complete Commitment…

Find out what it takes to get him to commit his heart to you once and for all…


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In the beginning of relationship, everything run smoothly and you also feel like you and your boyfriend are the one that own the world. Drowning in huge amount of happiness, you somehow forget that relationship could turn out to not as easy as you think at the moment.

Argue or disagree or whatever it is are common things you would find in a relationship. It starts with little problems such as insignificant as decided where to hang out next and in many case that little problems could accumulate then leads the relationship into breakups. That is why if you want a long-time relationship then you need more effort to maintain it. (Read: Ways to Maintain a long distance relationship with your boyfriend)

Here are how to let your boyfriend know you need more attention

On these days, you’ve been feeling uncomfortable with his less affectionate towards you. Remember, all those simple things are matter in your relationship so you better work it out before it gets unsolvable. Here are what you can do to let your boyfriend know that you are craving for his attention. (Read: Good Ways to Get a Guy’s Attention)

1. Give Him More Attention

Relationship is a two way street and both sides considers as equal. You couldn’t expect to only receive affection from your love ones. You want your boyfriend to give you attention? Go then and give him more first.

2. Plan a Date

It is been a long time since you both have a romantic dinner. Set a date and show him that you miss these kind of moments because he didn’t give you proper attention lately.

3. Compliment His Affection

When your boyfriend give you attentions, you should compliment him sometimes. This way you could show him that his affection is important for you and you want him not to stop giving more. He can also feel appreciated.

4. Get a Bit Clingy

Being a clingy girlfriend is not that good neither that bad yet it is an effective way to show your boyfriend that you need more attention from him. With an enough portion of clingy act, you could let your boyfriend know that you ask him to give you more attention.

5. Flirt

You certainly didn’t doing it again since the first day you both were dating. But these little things are matter now if you are craving more his attention. Try to be cute and remind him why he is falling in love with you. This is can help you How to Flirt Without Coming On Too Strong.

6. Don’t Doubt Your Feeling

You must be in doubt now about what you feel at the moment. You want to let your boyfriend know that you need more attention but the other side you don’t want to show him about this insecurity because its kind of embarrassing. Don’t be afraid! Need more affection from your lover is not a wrong thing so don’t holding back and take an act so your boyfriend know it.

7. Ask For Help

One of how to let your boyfriend know you need more attention is asking your boyfriend help. You can simply ask him to accompany you to library or help you with cooking. You got your attention you need and moreover you can spend time a fun time with him!

8. Give Him Time

Your boyfriend might be an introvert (read: Ways on How to Get Close to Introverts) one or the type that have difficult time to express his love. Just give him quite some time to get used to it so you would get the attentions you need.

9. Send Him Cute Sticker on WhatsApp

Use some sticker that describe what you feel while send message. It can contains your intention which is his attention in a cute way. Check also How to Talk to Crush on WhatsApp for The First Time.

10. Express Your Joy

You love when he give you attention, then show that you are happy with it. Let him know that you glad with his affection and need more.

11. Remain Silent

This is a tricky thing to do and depends on your boyfriend type. If he is a considerate person then this is worth to try. All you need to do is just keep silent with no single words to say while you are with him. If it succeed, he would ask you why you are doing that and give you more attention.

11. Smile at Him

It is such a simplest and easiest thing to do on how to let your boyfriend know you need more attention. With a single smile you can make him wonder or even make him falling over you again and then give the attention you need.

Signs that Somewhat Your Boyfriend Know You Need More Attention

After you did how to let your boyfriend know you need more attention, there would be signs that you need to look up. Here are what you need to know and should not miss about your boyfriend act which indicate he would give you more attention now.

1. Send You Gifts

Your boyfriend somehow realizes that he did not spend many of his time with you these past few days. He give you chocolates and a flower bouquet to compromise or send you a little gift to your house.

2. Ask to Hang Out More

He ask you to lunch more. Not only that, he invite you to a movie and many fun stuff to do. This is the way he wants to make up the time he didn’t spend well with you and he realized that you need more affection.

3. Say Sorry

Deep inside he knows that he didn’t give you attention properly lately. He explained what he is up to and that is why he doesn’t have that much time for you.

4. Be Like the First Time You Know Him

The way you express that you need more attention from you boyfriend move his heart. You start to see and feel he treats you with a lot of affection like all the day full of love in the beginning of your relationship.

5. Always Be There For You

This is the kind like he is literally always up to help you with everything.

6. A Lot of Love Through Text

He knows that he couldn’t be with you in person but he still wants you to get the attention you need so he do it through text. Check also Sweetest Things to Text Your Boyfriend.

More Tips If You Want to Attract Your Boyfriend into Giving You More Attention

Here are more tips if you want to know how to let your boyfriend know you need more attention.

1. Be Understanding

Before you learn how to let your boyfriend know you need more attention, make sure whatever you do won’t disturb or annoy him. You need to be more understanding too with your boyfriend especially when he is busy with school or work. It is better to let him take his time and finish all his stuffs.

2. Be More Independent

Ask for more attention from your boyfriend is not wrong, but you need to concern the condition or everything that is going on. Instead of whining to him to be more affectionate, clear up your own matters, find your own fun things to do, and become more independent. This actually could impress your boyfriend and he’d love you even more. (Read: Capricorn Woman Personality and Traits in Love)

3. Discuss the Problem

You can just simply discuss this with your boyfriend. Tell him that you need more attention. Pretty sure he would understand and with that being said you could get what you want with less effort.

4. Give Before Take

Always remember to always give your boyfriend more attention first if you want him to do the same.

5. Never Force It

If you think your boyfriend didn’t give you enough affection, it is fine to ask him directly that you want more. However, don’t force things because you need to keep your dignity and keep classy as a woman.

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Let’s start with the somewhat classy ways for a man to become head over heels for you. When you learn how to make a man obsessed with you, then you’re golden.

It’s not easy to grab the attention of a man and keep it for all the right reasons. Of course, there’s the classy route and the not-so-classy one. We are going to closely follow the expert relationship tips and stay on the right side of the fence, for now anyway!

There will be times when you really put a lot of effort into getting a guy to go crazy over you and you get totally ignored. That just sucks!

FACT – There are so many distractions in our high-tech world today that making sure one particular guy is paying attention to just you is anything but easy.

Lucky for you, men are easy peasy when you think about it. Sure, they may have a variety of complex qualities but when it comes to qualities or traits men find attractive in women, it’s just about unified across the board.

This isn’t about the physical stuff, but the valued qualities that tend to make relationships last, you know, the substance.

With these strategies, you are bound to get their attention and from there it’s up to you to take the bull by the horns and make it happen when you’re ready.

How To Make A Man Obsessed With You

Here are a few telltale proven tactics to help you capture the undivided attention of the man on your radar and make him want more.

Strategy One – Just Be You Please

Now I don’t need you rolling your eyes over this one and thinking it’s cheesy because it certainly isn’t. Acting is tough and do you really want to have to act the rest of your life just to try and impress a man, try to give him what you think he wants to see and hear you?

I think not!

The best thing hands down you can do when you are trying to get a man is to just be yourself head to toe. This means the good, bad, and the downright ugly. Well, you might want to hold off on the ugly stuff for now but you know what I mean.

When you are happy with yourself, you are naturally going to attract the men that really do want the girl that you are.

Truth – Inner beauty trumps all else.

Strategy Two – Let Your Confidence Shine Through

This is another one I’m sure you’ve heard before but it’s important that you take it seriously. Confidence in the right amount is totally sexy. An excellent way to make men go crazy over you.

When you show your confidence, you’re shouting out to the world that you are secure set to positively take on the world. What better quality is there than that?

Insecurities be gone because confidence will get you what you want.

Strategy Three – Be Respectful And Loving Of Yourself

When you can’t respect yourself, you are telling all the men out there that you are not worthy of a second glance.

Is that really what you want?

Respect is an attractive trait and when you show this to guys, they are going to want to pay attention to you and only you. Give it a shot because you’ve got nothing to lose and everything to gain.

Strategy Four – Stand Strong With Your Beliefs And Standards

A man likes a woman that knows what she wants, to a degree anyway. There is overdoing in anything and everything if you aren’t careful.

If the sweet gentleman you are with wants to take you to bed after your first meet and you don’t want that, just tell him for crying out loud!

If he wants to take you out for Chinese and you prefer Thai, open your mouth and tell him so please.

When you don’t, all you’re doing is creating miscommunication and this is going to get you nowhere fast.

Also, when you aren’t afraid to tell him what you want, you are also showing him you are confident and secure in yourself and that’s just plain sexy no matter what angle you look at.

Strategy Five – Make Sure You Are Generous And Kind

You can never make a second good first impression no matter how hard you try. Even if you start off on the wrong foot and try and start again, you can never erase those first seconds you met.

This means you need to pay attention and make sure you are open and kind and approachable right off the hop. Have your smile on and use your manners.

If you screw up, say you’re sorry and don’t be afraid to admit when you mucked up, you are human right?

Do this and the guys will be putty in your hands, seriously.

Strategy Six – Let Him Know What You Want And Prefer

This doesn’t mean you get to play the bossy card because that will get you kicked to the curb fast. What it does mean is that you need to show him within reason that you are okay being in charge.

That you can step up to the plate and handle things with confidence when the need arises.

Yes, men are naturally the ones that want to provide and remove all fear and worry, but there are times they need a break. When you show them you can give them this break, you are tapping into their heart and they are going to go crazy over you.

Just think about this one for a minute or two and apply.

Strategy Seven – Pay Attention To Yourself

What this means is you need to put a little effort into your appearance if you want to attract men. This does NOT mean you need to wear a ton of makeup or look like a model. But it does mean you should have proper hygiene, dress nicely and at least try and do your hair.

Exercising and healthy eating is also essential to showing a man you deserve him.

Smelling nice doesn’t hurt either. Have some fun trying out a few new perfume scents to see which one drives him wild. Maybe you will discover the “Axe” for women in the process?

Give him something to be proud of.

Strategy Eight – Don’t Be Pushy

If you really want a man to be obsessed with you, it’s important that you don’t put too much effort into getting him to notice you. Sometimes for whatever reason, it’s just not going to work and you need to walk away and say to yourself, “Next!”

Try not to put him up on a pedestal but don’t forget to lift him up too. This is a bit of a balancing act because you don’t want to lay it on too thick with an overdose of compliments. On the other hand, you want to pump him up a little.

Make him feel important in moderation and he will have literally no choice but to notice you for all the right reasons.

Strategy Nine – Keep Your Door Open

The only way you are going to get a man hook, line and sinker, is to open up to him and let him in. This doesn’t mean you have to spill your guts but you do need to let him get to know you from the inside out.

Talk about the now, the stuff that matters to you and you are on the right track for certain.

Let him know your goals, hopes and dreams and opinions on things that are important to you and hopefully him as well.

Now lets look at a few pointers that are a little less angelic when you’re focus is to make a man crazy over you.

Strategy Ten – Find That Word That Makes Him Nuts And Keep Whispering It

Experts report pet names will trigger a man to feel for you but if you want to push him over the edge, you just need to say his name.

There is just something electrifying when he hears his name from your mouth. This is according to body language experts worldwide.

Cosmopolitan experts agree that men need to hear their name in order to trigger the urge for competition and that means they are going to go for you fast and swiftly – Get ready!

Strategy Eleven – Reach Deep For The Keys

There’s just something about this “innocent-yet-not” gesture that’s going to drive him crazy. When you reach into his pocket to grab his keys, you are using the power of the unexpected touch to get the juices flowing.

When you do this, you’re stimulating the nerves and the anticipation of your touch creates a subconscious physical connection.

It’s the little things that truly matter.

What does this mean?

You should always have your eyes open for moments where you can “accidentally” touch him or brush up against him. Touchy-feely with the clothes on is a fantastic thing.

Strategy Twelve – He Doesn’t Want To Be In The Loop

Men are peculiar creatures and men really don’t want to know all the details of your life and they definitely don’t want to get caught up in the drama.

This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t share with him because you should but leave some of the nasty workplace drama out of the conversation please.

Psychologically speaking, guys really don’t have the capacity to handle loads of details and that’s why they will rarely ,if ever ,give you a play-by-play of their life.

Best Move – Keep the small talk to yourself and save the important or “bigger” stuff to share.

Go to the end of the story in other words and your’e going to give him valid reason to go after you.

Strategy Thirteen – Rewind Time With A Vivid Sensory Flashback

Depending on how far you are in your “relationship,” it’s important to speak vividly about anything physical between the two of you.

What does this do?

Well, it puts you front and center in his brain because men buy with their eyes first, never forget that.

Strategy Fourteen- Be Mysterious

Men explore by nature and when you act somewhat mysterious, he will naturally be drawn to you. Don’t be afraid to be vague with your conversation at times and a little evasive when he is pushing for the details.

Letting a guys mind wander and wonder a little is a great tool to push him into your light to stay.

Strategy Fifteen – Investigate The Competition

Lust really is fantastic and if you really want to make him crazy over you, make sure he sees other men checking you out.

There’s no doubt a man will step up to the plate when he sees another man interested in his girl. So make sure you are always looking your best and don’t be afraid to lock eyes for a minute when you feel another man checking you over.

If a guy catches sight of this, he is only going to want you more.

Flash a flirty smile and you are going to get men hot over you on the spot.

Strategy Sixteen – Learn To Be A Teaser

Men are often programmed by their smaller head. And when you delay satisfying him, you are only going to increase his desire for you. Send him sexy hot text messages and perhaps even unveil what you might like to do to him when given the opportunity.

Of course this depends on how well you know the guy and where you are in your relationship.

Final Words

When you are looking at how to make a man obsessed with you, it’s multi-factorial in the least. Take advantage of this expert information and don’t be afraid to follow your guy and his cues. Read between the lines and don’t let your emotions trump logic.

Show him you are confident in you and that you aren’t desperate and the rest will fall into place.

Time for you to take action and make him crazy over you. Best of luck!

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Sure, a woman likes to get noticed by a man. It’s always flattering to have the cute guy in the room start talking you up about your solid drink choice or your killer negotiating skills with the doorman. But it’s not flattering when a guy comes up to a girl and makes her feel uncomfortable with weird one-liners and aggressive attitude. Women don’t want to be hassled when out and about with friends – or especially when out alone. While some guys get it right with their attention-grabbing conversation starters, there are others that aren’t so lucky. There are some things guys do that irritate the hell out of us and have us hightailing it far away from them. Here are 12 annoying things guys do to get a girl’s attention.


12 Does The “Psst” Call

Ladies, you know exactly what this is. You’re walking down the street and hear a guy say “psst” under his breath in order to gain your attention. He has nothing better to say or more intelligent to come up with so all he has is a random noise spewing from his lips. Not cute. And then when you don’t turn around to see who this marvelous human being is, he gets mad at you. That’s when he finally finds his words, nabbing your attention with names you wouldn’t even call your worst nemesis.

11 Gawking From His Car

How uncomfortable is it when a guy drives by you and stares out his window? Like really stares you. The car slows down to a crawl as he creeps by ogling your body like it’s the first female form he’s ever seen. It’s super uncomfortable and just plain freaky. No woman likes to feel that much on display especially when we are minding our own business pumping gas or going for a run. If you guys are going to look, can’t you be less conspicuous about it? Why not look in the rear view mirror like us girls do when we see something nice to check out?


10 Walking Up To You And Saying You’re Hot

While guys think this is a compliment, it’s anything but flattering thanks to the way it was executed. When a guy walks up to you randomly and interrupts your conversation to say how hot you are, it’s uncomfortable. Yes, women want to feel hot, and sure, we like to get noticed but having a complete stranger come up to us like that and blurt it out isn’t what we’re looking for. If you want to come up to us and make a lasting impression, say something a little less predictable, like maybe, “Hey, what’s up?”

9 Hooking Up With Another Girl

This goes for the dude a girl already knows and is actively trying to get her attention so she’ll finally say yes to a date. But unfortunately for him, that doesn’t happen. And since he doesn’t get the reaction he’s looking for from the girl, he tries another approach: hooking up with another girl in hopes to make the one he’s actually into jealous. Gross. If the girl isn’t into a guy when he asks her for drinks the first three times, she most certainly won’t be interested after learning he banged a girl they both work with.


8 Texting At Inappropriate Times

Unless you both are friends with benefits and agree on unpredictable, late-night booty calls, a man shouldn’t be texting you in the middle of the night. We don’t look forward to getting woken up at 3am because you wanted to say, “hi,” nor do we think it’s cute to find a text from you when we wake up saying you couldn’t sleep. So what? Is that our problem? Look, it’s flattering you’re thinking of us at such random times of the day, but don’t ruin our sleep because you are wide awake thinking about ravishing us.

7 Pretending Not To Be A Douche Bag

This one is always fun. You meet a guy and he tries to play it off like he’s a total catch, a complete gentlemen. He’s saying all the right things he thinks you want to hear – “I’m looking for my soulmate,” “I hate all these s!u++y girls in here” – but he’s anything but a nice guy. All he’s doing is trying to show you this side he thinks you want just so you’ll agree to go home with him – where he’ll end up throwing you out after the deed is done. Any guy who tells you he’s not into hooking up or he’s not like the rest of the guys who are only out for one thing, is exactly like the guy he’s pretending not to be.


6 Gives Bad Pick Up Lines

Pick up lines are the worst. None of them are good, and none actually work. Really, we’re an angel that fell from heaven? Oh please. Stop while you’re ahead, guy. Lame pick up lines are not sexy and require only one way for a girl to respond: laugh and walk away. When a guy asks you where a certain bar is when the sign is right in front of him lit up like a Christmas tree, you have to wonder just how stupid he thinks you are. Too bad for him, you’re not. Later loser.

5 Grows Loud And Obnoxious

Seriously guys, no girl actually likes the loud and obnoxious dude. It’s just not attractive. A man who is offensive is not someone a girl wants to date or even go home with. So when you are trying to get a girl’s attention by talking really loud to your friends over the bad techno music or bang your hand on the bar to get your next round, it’s not going to make our panties come off any faster – it will only make us want to strap a belt on them to ensure they’ll never come off again.


4 Talks About How Much Money He Has

Yeah, women like money. Who doesn’t? And dating a smart, successful man who has made something of himself is totally awesome. But when a man is so vain and so into money that it’s always the topic of discussion – “you should see my new yacht,” “you’d love my condo on the beach” – it’s just annoying. More points start to drop when the guy never actually worked to get all his money, but was only born with a massive trust fund. Nothing less sexy than a man who doesn’t understand the value of a dollar.

3 Licks His Lips While Staring At You

Unless you’re LL Cool J, you don’t get to lick your lips while staring a woman down. It’s pretty awkward and doesn’t make a girl feel the least bit sexy. Instead, the guy looks like a fool and the girl, well, she feels sort of violated. Who is this weirdo licking his lips? And why does he think he has the right to be so blatant about staring at you like that? Guys, if you’re interested in a girl, don’t spook her by acting like a weirdo – or like you’re something you’re not, like a major hip-hop artist – because that whole routine ain’t working.


2 Starts A Fight With Someone

This sort of goes along the same lines as with being loud and obnoxious. A woman doesn’t want a guy being offensive, so getting in a fight with someone is a major no-no. Sure, it will gain a guy some attention from the girl – and everyone else in the bar – but it’s not the good kind of attention he’s seeking. The girl is going to laugh at what an idiot the guy is and end up leaving with the nice, quiet guy that kept his hands by his side and his mouth from running.

1 Talking About Your Butt Behind You

Here’s the thing, we love having our man compliment our bodies – especially our butts we work so hard at barre class for! But that’s our guys. Not some random dude on the street. When a guy starts making suggestive remarks about a girl’s ass while she walks by, it’s anything but favorable. The woman instantly feels like she’s on display and can get super uncomfortable. What’s worse is that most men know this and continue to do it just for their own amusement. Too bad those guys are usually going home alone.

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It’s too bad we can’t read minds when it comes to crushes! And asking someone directly if they have their eye on you is a bit aggressive.

The solution?

You can learn through trial and error and by paying close attention how to figure out if someone wants to be romantically involved with you or not.

Here are a few expert examples of sociological and scientific reasoning whether or not a guy has a crush on you.

Signs He Has A Secret Crush On You

Ginormous Smile

This one requires close attention to notice but if the boy in front of you is all smiles, I’m talking the bright ones from ear to ear, then he certainly might really like you.

Many people will smile unconsciously and aren’t really aware of it because they like someone. If he’s smiling and you are noticing it, then it’s worth a second glance.

Straight Up Eye Contact

If this boy is making more eye contact that normal, he may be indicating he has a crush on you. Usually, the eyes will naturally wander around the room but if it feels like he can’t take his eyes off you, then he just might be crushing over you.

Studies show when it comes to intimacy ,there are many different levels and in order to develop further intimacy, you need to pay attention.

What does that mean?

You need to pay closer attention and that includes more eye contact.

Mr. Fidget Appears

When a guy is nervously fidgeting or playing with his hair, this usually means he has a crush on you. Most of this is totally unconscious, he just doesn’t know he’s doing it.

When he is doing physical things, it’s his way of showing you he wants a romantic interaction with you. To what degree remains to be seen.


When a man is constantly touching a woman, this normally means that has a crush on her. Physically he does whatever he can to touch you.

If a boy is always resting his hands on you, on your thighs or back or legs, this is a clear-cut signal he’s crushing on you. If he’s a hugger, you’ve got a winner.

This is just his way of showing you that he wants more, but he may not quite be ready to step it up a notch or two to the next level.

Gets Close To You

When a man crowds your personal space this is an important indicator that he has a secret crush on you. In other words, your space is his space and he thrives on getting closer because he wants that special connection with you.

If he stands too close to you or sits unnaturally close, this uncovers his secret desire to get closer to you.

Attraction and emotional closeness is a part of a crush and any romantic relationship.

Leg Crossing

This one isn’t just for girls! If a guy is criss-crossing his legs, this is an unconscious sign that he’s attracted to you. A little weird I know but worth looking for.

Stumbling With Words

When a guy likes a girl, there are probably going to be some nerves involved. He may have a hard time talking to you without jumbling his words, because he’s so nervous.

That’s a good thing as long as he can get passed this, because some men are so anxious they just can’t ever get comfortable around a girl. Extreme I know but you do need to take that into consideration.

Makes Time For You

This guy makes sure you know he’s stepping outside his normal routine to see you. He makes an effort to spend any extra time he can with you.

He Wants Your Opinion

He values your thoughts and opinions; maybe a little too much. If he happens to get a new hairstyle or is wearing a new shirt he always wants to know what you think. It’s important to him.

Wants To Pay For Things

He always steps up to the plate and insists on paying for things. This guy wants to pay for dinner, the movie, the drinks, he is just happy to take care of it, no questions asked.

Long Conversations

A guy that has a crush on you is going to be the one that texts you first. And when the conversation is ending, he will make sure it continues on as long as possible. This one will be pretty obvious.

Compliments You A Lot

This special man that has the hots for you is over the top with the compliments. It doesn’t matter whether it’s your personality or appearance, because this man that has a crush on you always has something super nice to say.

Remembers Every Detail

A man with a secret crush remembers everything you say. Doesn’t matter if it’s totally irrelevant or super important. When a man likes a woman, he is going to make it his priority to know as much as he can about you and part of that is remembering the small things.

Pay attention to this subtle but in your face tip that he likes you.

Wants To Hang Out With You Every Chance He Gets

This guy is going to hint as much as he can that he simply wants to hang out with you. And if he has the balls, he might actually ask you to go one on one with him on a regular basis.

Wants To Be There For You

When a man has a serious crush on a girl, he is going to come running no matter what. Even if you just need a shoulder to cry on at 2 am, a man with a crush will do it with a smile. He just wants to be there for you and that’s got to count for something right?

Lets You Know He Is Available

This guy with a crush is always commenting on how he’s single and available. He will always talk to you about how he can’t believe you haven’t got a man when you are so awesome.

Little Things Matter To Him

What this means is he will notice when you make any changes to your appearance. Whether it’s your hair or clothing, or any other feature, this guy is going to show you that he is paying attention and you matter.

His Friends Know All About You

Even the people you haven’t met, they’re going to know your name if a guy really does like you.

He’s Got Extremely Nervous Body Language

When a man is liking a girl, he is going to unconsciously show you this with his body language. This boy is always fidgeting with his clothing or brushing his hair out of his face.

Pay attention and see it for what it’s worth.

Likes Your Selfies

He’s the first one to like your selfies, with no exceptions. When a guy just likes your selfies, no matter what, that really does say everything.

He Just Loves Locking Eyes With You

I know we’ve touched on this a little but it needs a little more. If a man is holding his gaze with you as much as can, besides the moment he’s checking out your lips, he’s definitely got a crush on you.

Doesn’t Talk About Other Girls

A guy that has a secret crush on you is never going to ever mention another girl, no way. Even when you bring up another girl specially that’s cute and interested, he’ll just brush it off.

Wow, what a gem.

Gets Jealous

If you happen to “accidentally” mention another man, he will immediately get jealous. Even when the man is just a friend, it’s going to spark some interest with a man that has a secret crush on you, end of story.

Focuses Only On You

When the two of you are out with a group of people, it’s you that he comes to. There are oodles of other people he could talk to ,but he seems to be focused on you and only you.

He’s Always Looking To Impress You

This man that is hot for you will try and show off for you. He’s always looking to impress you. Sometimes it’s cheesy and other times it isn’t. If he’s doing this, he is definitely worth your time.

Chivalry Just Never Dies

If this guy pulls out your chair, gives you his jacket and does everything he can to make you feel special, he’s crushing on you.

Real gentleman does this for the ladies.

You Always Get His Look

You are the one that gets his look. That simple look says straight up he is looking to be much more than friends.

He ALWAYS Remembers Exactly What You Say

If he has a real crush on you, he is going to make it his job to remember everything you say and do. When a man is interested in you, he is going to listen and want to know all the little things in your brain – End of story.

This Man Will Initiate Conversation

When a boy likes a girl, he is going to be the one that starts the conversation and wants to keep it going . Sure, it’s tough to initiate conversation when you are nervous about a girl. But you need to understand if a man is doing this, there is a reason.

Just something for you to ponder.

This Man Is A Subtweeter

No doubt social media is the way of our world. So if you and your crush are active on social media and he is retweeting your tweets or following your every social media online move, he definitely thinks you are special.

Just beware of this one.

He Just Doesn’t Look At His Phone

This is a big one. We seem to be controlled by our phones these days and when a man takes a stand and leaves his phone alone when he’s with you, that means zillions.

This Man Considers All Your Needs In Minute Ways

So maybe you broke your chain lock on your place. But when this guy shows up with a solution, that means everything. As silly as it seems when a man has a crush on you, he is going to make sure you know he is there when you need.

Think about this one for a minute.

He Is Always Offering To Drive

This one is so super sweet. When a man wants to be more than just a friend, he will go beyond the call of duty to make sure you know he will do whatever it takes to impress you. He’s going to want to drive you wherever and whenever you like.

Stalking You On Social Media

Accidentally stalking you via social media isn’t such a bad thing but when you bust him for it, you need to hear what he has to say.

He might have been out with a few buddies and had a few too many. Be cautious and understanding please. If a guy is nicely stalking you online, that is not a bad thing.

He Will Open Up To You

No doubt, it takes major guts to step up to the plate and let a girl know you like her. It’s tough and seriously scary if the girl you like doesn’t like you back.

Too bad it comes down to that.

Bottom line…If a man is opening up to you and spilling his guts to you on any level, he deserves your attention. Listen to what he has to say and go from there. It’s the right thing to do.

When you are looking for the signs and signals that he has a secret crush on you, it’s important you are aware of anything and everyone .

There are body signals and unconscious signs, along with habitual deliberate and learned pointers.

Look at the big picture, follow your gut, and you will strike gold.

Believe it and it WILL happen.

Enjoy the ride.

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How Men Flirt: 21 Ways Guys Flirt With Women That You Might Not Know

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Are men flirting with you without you even realizing it? How do men flirt? Here’s 21 giveaway signs that women often miss for when a guy is trying to get your attention and impress you.

Is there any feeling more intoxicating than when you’re flirting with a man and he actively flirts back? It’s one of the best parts of being a single woman. Whether it’s across the table on a first date or with the mysterious guy next to you at the bar, flirting is just fun.

Where it gets less enjoyable and more stressful is when you can’t tell if the guy is reciprocating. Most guys are not particularly coy about their feelings, so this doesn’t end up being a common problem.

MORE: Is He Flirting With Me? How to Know For Sure

For those men who are a little on the shy side, or just more reserved about their intentions, it can take a smidge of investigative work.

If you’re feeling up to the task, check out our list of 21 ways that men flirt.

Take The Quiz: Does He Like You?

How often does he call and text? (Question 1 of 15)

1. He can’t stop smiling.

When you’re around someone you like, you tend to be unable to hold back your smile. Maybe it’s because you’re laughing at a joke that wouldn’t have been quite so funny had it been anyone else saying it. Maybe there’s something so charming about them that even though your face hurts from grinning, you just can’t stop.

In this area, guys are no different. Being around someone you like makes you smile. We can all tell the difference between a genuine and a forced, polite smile. If the guy you’re into is unable to stop beaming at you, there’s something about you that’s making him feel that way.

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2. Eye contact.

For something that requires zero physical touch, eye contact can be insanely intimate. Even someone hanging onto your gaze for just a few seconds longer than what would be normal is enough to surprise you.

If you’re into someone, extended eye contact can send a powerful jolt through you. It’s a popular option for guys who are a little on the quiet side but still want to show their interest. Without saying a single word, they can convey their curiosity about you. Bonus points if his eyes travel from your eyes to your lips and back again … In this situation, we all know where his mind is wandering.

3. He licks his lips.

This body language cue can stem from a few reasons. If he’s feeling flustered, he might lick his lips because his mouth is dry. It can be a nervous tick for some people, done subconsciously when they’re jittery.

But lip-licking can also, of course, be suggestive. Biting, licking, or generally playing with your lips can be a discriminating yet evocative way to signal your interest in the person you’re looking at.

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4. He leans in close.

In addition to showing that he’s listening to you, leaning in close is a way to express intimacy. We all have a personal space bubble, and we always catch it when that perimeter is infringed upon. You don’t want an unwelcome stranger stepping into that boundary, but when the guy you’re into does it, you take welcome notice.

It may be a subtle difference in the distance between you, but don’t take it for granted. It takes some nerve to close the gap between the two of you, and he’s doing it for a reason.

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5. He mirrors you.

It’s a natural human instinct to mirror the movements of the person you like. If you’re picturing a mime copying your exact movements, think more indirect. It’s not all about posture. Do you ever notice that you pick up certain words that your close friend uses all the time? It may not be something you’d normally say, yet you find yourself easily reaching for it during a conversation.

We mimic the people close to us, especially the ones we want to impress. Observe if the guy you’re flirting with takes cues from you. He might simply adjust his expression in accordance with yours, or even alter his level of enthusiasm in a topic. He may mirror your body language- crossing his arms when you cross yours, leaning in when you lean in, as well as your tone of voice.

6. He touches you.

There’s a way a man can gently make contact with you that is a pleasant indicator of his interest. It’s not overbearing and it’s not accidental, but rather it’s somewhere in between. It might be a brush of your fingers when you walk side-by-side. Maybe he playfully punches your arm in a conversation.

However he chooses to make contact, you can be certain that he’ll be studying you for a reaction. Make sure you respond in a way that lets him know how you’re feeling about him, whether that’s leaning in or pulling back.

7. He’s nervous around you.

Try as we might, it’s a real challenge to be our coolest selves around the person we like. If there’s ever a time you’re going to fumble with your keys or forget what to do with your hands, it’s when that person is standing next to you.

If a guy seems fidgety and anxious around you, there’s a good chance he cares a great deal about what you think of him. This is especially true if the guy is normally relaxed but appears on edge when you’re nearby.

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8. He checks you out.

Okay, so there’s a smooth and a not-so-slick way of checking a woman out. When it’s done poorly, it elicits an icky feeling. At the same time, a guy giving you an impressed up-and-down look can make you feel pleasantly lightheaded.

It’s usually not hard to pick up on it when a guy is appreciating your look. Maybe his eyes linger on your necklace or he compliments your dress. A gentlemanly acknowledgment of how good you look on a particular night is definitely a sign he’s paying attention.

9. He makes an effort in his appearance.

While the idea that a man “peacocks” (dresses flashy to gain attention) around women he likes may be a bit extreme, it’s got an element of truth to it. Just like you doll up when you’re going to be around your crush, guys make an effort when they’re going to be around someone they like.

It’s not always as obvious when a man is dressing to impress, but you’ll still see the signs if you look closely. Whether it be in an ironed shirt or well-styled hair, there are always giveaways when a guy has put in some prep time.

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10. He acts differently when you’re around.

If you’re flirting with that cute guy across the bar, you may not be able to use this particular sign to figure out his intentions. But if you’re around a guy enough, you’ll pick up on whether or not he turns it up when you’re around.

A naturally quiet guy might suddenly become more loud and exclamatory when you’re around. If he’s nervous around you, the opposite might be true. It could be a very small change, such as his posture straightening and his attention focusing when you walk closer. Whatever the change is, acting differently around you means something significant.

11. He blushes.

Blushing doesn’t require much explanation or interpretation. This involuntary bodily function can be maddening if you’re trying to “be cool,” but it’s a great way for someone to get an idea of your feelings towards them.

While some people are naturally more prone to rosy cheeks than others, it’s usually when you’re around your crush that you turn the most undesired shade of red. Even though this may be frustrating for the person experiencing it, it’s quite charming to be on the receiving end of. A guy who flushes in your presence is a guy who has strong feelings about you.

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12. He pays attention when you speak.

How frustrating is it when you start telling a story and the person you’re speaking with starts scrolling through their phone? We live in a world of short attention spans, but the guy who wants to get to know you will not do this.

When a guy is into you, every word you say is worth noting. Instead of glancing around or checking his phone, he’ll attentively listen to you speak. He’ll likely tilt his head or nod. When you finish, he’ll have something other than “mhm” or “yeah” to contribute to the conversation.

13. He does the “eyebrow flash.”

By no means an obvious sign, the eyebrow flash is one you really have to be paying attention to in order to notice. We tend to reflexively raise our eyebrows when we’re interested in a person or what they’re saying.

It’s almost like by slightly widening our eyes, we can get a better grasp on a person or their words. It’s subconscious rather than purposeful, but it’s still a handy cue you can observe if you’re watching for it.

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14. He teases you.

You probably have tons of inside jokes with your best friend. Playing around with someone indicates intimacy. You can’t poke fun at someone you aren’t close to (unless you’re trying to be a tool!). By teasing a person, you establish a stronger bond.

Teasing someone is one of the easiest ways to start expanding a relationship. A guy might lightly mock you for the silliest thing, and it’s just a sign of him trying to grow closer. If you’re receptive to it, he’ll feel more comfortable pursuing things further.

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15. He’s always around.

It’s not a coincidence if your favorite coffee shop suddenly becomes his morning go-to. Do you notice that when you hit “RSVP” to an event online, he’s always in attendance as well?

A guy who always turns up in the same place as you is a guy making an effort. This also applies to actual physical proximity at events. As you mingle throughout a party, do you find he’s always in your peripheral vision? He’s keeping you within his sights because you’re on his mind.

16. He turns into an alpha male.

We’ve all seen a guy abruptly bristle into an “alpha male” type of posture when he wants to convey a particular message. There’s usually some straightening of the spine and a slightly puffed up chest. He might put his hands on his hips or innocuously flex his muscles in just the right way for you to see. This particular phenomenon can also affect his voice, which becomes deeper.

This entertaining cue is most likely to occur if there are other guys around who he could view as competition for your affection.

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17. He laughs at everything you say.

This is in no way a slight on your comedic timing, which we’re sure is spectacular. No matter how funny you are, the person who likes you is always going to find you about 10x as humorous as the person who doesn’t.

You’ve probably experienced this yourself. Do you find yourself giggling at even the mildest joke that your crush offers? We can’t help eating up everything that person says. Remember this tendency when you notice a guy grinning and chuckling at everything you say.

18. He tries to make you laugh.

In the same vein, we are instinctively drawn to people who are funny. Who doesn’t want to spend the majority of their day upbeat and laughing about something? Guys know that a sense of humor rates highly on a girl’s “boyfriend wish list.”

Don’t be surprised if a guy pays attention to your positive reaction to a bit and then brings up something similar repeatedly. In addition to trying to make you smile, this helps to establish inside jokes.

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19. He remembers the little things.

Remembering the small details about a person’s life takes sincere effort. We all have enough going on that we don’t go around making this effort with others unless we genuinely care about the person.

This could manifest itself in a variety of discrete but thoughtful ways. If you mention an upcoming event to him, such as your aunt’s birthday, he’ll ask you how it went the next time he sees you. He could also pay attention to your favorite drink order and have it ready for you the next time you meet. When a guy shows you that he’s filed away details about you, he’s showing his hand.

20. He’d rather talk to you than his friends.

When you’re out in a group, does he single you out as the one he wants to talk to? Choosing to chat with you instead of his buddies is a clear sign he’s interested in you.

This is especially meaningful if he has to navigate you away from your friends in order to have a conversation. Doing so takes guts, and a guy isn’t going to risk embarrassment for someone he’s only lukewarm about.

21. He makes you giddy.

As usual, the way a guy makes you feel is the number one thing you should be paying attention to. Have you ever had a brief interaction with a man that was so infused with unspoken flirtation that you couldn’t stop smiling when you walked away? You might be driving in your car an hour later and suddenly giggle at the mere thought of it. Is it warm in here or is it just you? The way a man makes you feel is your best indicator as to his intentions with you.

Respectively, if you find yourself confused and unhappy, stop wasting energy trying to figure a guy out. The right man will not leave you hanging. If he seems to get a kick out of keeping you guessing, he’s definitely not worth your time.

I hope this article helped clarify the telltale ways men flirt. If he is flirting with you, that’s great! It means he probably likes you and wants to take it further than flirtation. If you want a relationship with him, then there is more you need to know. Do you know what really inspires a man to commit? Do you know what it takes for him to see you as girlfriend material, as a woman who is a cut above all the rest? If not, you need to read this next: The #1 Things Men Desire in a Woman

How often does he call and text? (Question 1 of 15)

In summary…

Biggest Ways Men Flirt:

  1. He can’t stop smiling.
  2. Eye contact.
  3. He licks his lips.
  4. He leans in close.
  5. He mirrors you.
  6. He touches you.
  7. He’s nervous around you.
  8. He checks you out.
  9. He makes an effort in his appearance.
  10. He acts differently when you’re around.
  11. He blushes.
  12. He pays attention when you speak.
  13. He does the “eyebrow flash.”
  14. He teases you.
  15. He’s always around.
  16. He turns into an alpha male.
  17. He laughs at everything you say.
  18. He tries to make you laugh.
  19. He remembers the little things.
  20. He’d rather talk to you than his friends.
  21. He makes you giddy.

How to Keep Him Guessing? – Here is How to Keep Him Guessing & Keep Him Attracted to You

The thing a woman likes the most is to have her man continuously enamored and intrigued with her. No woman likes it when her man begins to take her for granted. Looking for some clues as to how to keep your man guessing? Take a look at these tips that will help you keep your man interested in you.

Keep the mystery
When you began dating your man, there was a lot of mystery involved because he did not know you really well. He had to hope and wonder if you were free to date him and he did not know all of your acquaintances and friends. Now he has had to stop guessing. Try to recapture some of the mystery. Surprise him with impromptu and spontaneous gestures and invitations.

Don’t get too used to one another
If you get too used to one another too fast, he can get easily bored and take you for granted. While women would like to get comfortable and secure in a relationship, men like a little mystery and competition. Give him what he wants and stop doing things that YOU want to do for a change.

Stimulate his senses
Give a man something to get excited about and he is all yours. Buy some sexy lingerie and leave it strewn across the bed. This is bound to recapture the excitement of the past. Doing little things like this to please him will keep him guessing as to what’s next!

Show your man that you are versatile
Don’t get into a rut and become predictable and boring. Let your man see a new side to you every week! Be the type of person that is sure to captivate him even after all this time. Prove to him that he made the best choice when he chose you!

Be appreciative in unique ways
If you want to tell your man that you appreciate him making so many changes to suit your needs and desires, then do it in different ways that will make him thrilled and on the look out for them. Don’t let on as to how you are going to thank him so that he is kept guessing, but do it with all your heart.

Become a super chef for him
They don’t say “a way to a man’s heart is through his stomach”, for nothing. Please him by learning to cook his favorite dishes and throw in some delicious exotic dishes as well! He will really appreciate it and will be always wondering as to what you have in store for him when he comes home. If you can’t cook you can always order it from outside!

Get a life!
No man likes to think that his woman is a stay-at-home clingy and totally dependent on him. Join a club, gym or do some volunteer work. He will be pleasantly surprised and even proud of you. Moreover he will be curious and be kept guessing about your activities. However don’t make him jealous!

Maintain Your Mystery – Keep Him Guessing… and Interested

To recapture that feeling of newness, all you have to do is be new again. Sounds hard? It’s not.

#1 – Get rid of the “arsenal of underwear.” Movies make fun of this because men everywhere can relate. Such a simple thing, but so many women neglect to do this. Holy underwear, worn-out bras, stuff he’s seen a million times. Do you have your comfortable cottons that you wear all day? Fine. But there’s no reason you can’t come home and slip into some sexy lace and satin or whatever it is he likes at the end of the day, and surprise him.

Let him see the empty Victoria’s Secret bag laying out on the bed or the couch. Let him ask what you got. Smile and wink. “You’ll see.”

#2 – New recipes. They say the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach for a reason. It’s because it’s true. There is a whole psychology you can attach to his desire to “come home and eat.” It should kick in for him in late afternoon, wondering what you have for dinner. Obviously this tip isn’t for everyone, as not all women cook for their men every night. But you can adapt this to a little dessert, a very cool breakfast, or a lunch that you pack for a picnic, or a surprise for him at work.

No time to cook? Fine. You know he likes carmel, you can swing by a candy shop or bakery, especially one he doesn’t know about, and pick him up a treat. Or stop at a bar and get some crazy Buffalo Wings to go. Maybe you’ve just got a cuddle-on-the-couch and rent-a-movie date. Something as simple and fun as stopping at a really good Mexican restaurant and picking up an order of Tortilla Chips, Salsa, and Guacamole will surprise him in exactly that special way.

And don’t become predictable. Next movie night, make a chocolate fondue. Next, try a peanut platter, or a little sushi sampler, or some fancy cheese and crackers. Or something else different. Maybe even if you don’t cook, you could pick one night a week and say you’ll handle dinner. Stop at a different restaurant and get something to go, something he’ll really like.

#3 – Go out. Do stuff. Take a Yoga or Tae Kwon Do class. Start a cooking club – invite your girlfriends to get together once a week or once a month, where you can take turns being the person to bring the appetizer, and share the recipe. When I lived in Jersey I was in a cocktail club like that, and more recently I was in a “Gray’s Group” where we got together under the guise of watching Grey’s Anatomy so we could drink wine and chat.

Whether you and your sister are going to a poetry reading in a book store, or you and your officemates are going to happy hour, or you and your friends are just going shopping at Macys, there’s a certain mystery to the idea that you have your own life.

To sum it up, get a life.

In general, guys don’t like clingy. They don’t like being responsible for your every minute. You can do anything – volunteer at the Humane Society to walk a dog once a week. Go to a gym, even if it’s Curves, even if it’s just once a week. Sounds simple and silly, but it works. You have something new to talk about, you have your own stuff going on. He’ll ask. He’ll listen.

This is in no way supposed to make him jealous. The advice I’m giving is about adding mystery and newness to yourself. It’s not about taking comfort and trust from him.

#4 – Stop being predictable. Just think about it, and throw a curve ball at him when you can.

Tell him – Date night, Friday night. Tell him – I’m taking YOU out. You’re gonna love this.

Then surprise him with a trip to the track, or concert tickets, or let him arrive home to find candlelight and you in a negligee.

A very happy guy wrote to me about a year ago to ask some advice on popping the question. When he was telling me about how awesome his lady is, one of the things he told me really stood out. He said, every Sunday after dinner, they would go shopping. Sometimes Shoprite, sometimes Sam’s Club, sometimes Walmart. They both had hectic schedules, they were on a budget, and this is something they did together to get whatever was needed for the apartment. One week after he pulled 4 double shifts, he was just freaking exhausted. But he knew Sunday after dinner is shopping. He said he went into the bathroom to splash water on his face and get ready to go. When he came out… Surprise! She set up the couch with his bed pillow, a bag of Dorritos, a bucket filled with ice and a 6 pack of his beer, and the remote. She told him she already called her mother who was going to go shopping with her instead. She said, “Surprise! You deserve a night off!” and left him for a few hours while she and her mom shopped for dog food, and stopped for a cappuccino.

This could fall under the heading of – just doing nice things for each other. But the thing that really stood out for me was how many times he used the word “surprise.” He said, Sunday night is shopping night. He said, and I quote: “She’s always surprising me. I can’t wait to see what’s coming next.”

Smart girl, that one.

It’s great to have a schedule, and dependable time to spend together. But it’s also really good to throw a curve ball at him once in a while. If you aren’t predictable, you regain a little bit of your mystery. And that’s a good thing.

A surprise doesn’t have to be expensive. A little mystery can be as much as a wink and a “you’ll see.” Avoiding the rut is easy if you just give it a thought and a little effort. He’ll love it.

How to Text a Guy to Keep Him Interested (Steal These 17+ Examples!)

So you want to know how to text a guy to keep him interested?

Gone are the days when you would only talk on the phone to a guy you were dating. Now, texting has become the norm both when getting to know someone new as well as once that relationship develops.

This is both a good and bad thing. On the one hand, you have time to think about what you want to say to the guy you’re interested in…

On the other hand, it’s all too easy to misunderstand his text or worry if you don’t hear back in a timely manner.

Interestingly, a recent study shows that if you have similar texting habits, you’re more likely to be satisfied in your relationship. So if you’re a first-thing-in-the-morning texter or someone who writes novel-length texts and he is too, you’re likely to hit it off!

Texting and Online Dating

One area that is especially important for texting is online dating. Most dating apps and sites include a messaging component that is essentially texting. This is how you initially discover whether you like one another or not, so if you’re dabbling in the world of dating online, you’ll want to take notes on how to text a guy to keep him interested.

From the first introductory text to the one that gets you off of the app and texting directly to one another, knowing the ins and outs of texting can be hugely beneficial.

How to Text a Guy to Keep Him Interested

Now that you’ve admitted there’s no getting away from texting as you navigate the big, exciting world of dating, let’s look at a few tips that will help you learn how to text a guy to keep him interested.

1. Never, Ever Text Just ‘Hi!’

I don’t know when we started getting so lazy, but the ‘hi’ text is by far the laziest possible option when it comes to texting. Sure, you’re just trying to prod him to see if he’s around and wants to text, but there are so many more creative ways to get his attention.

Instead, give him a reason to respond. Here are a few examples.

Hey good lookin’. How’s your morning going?

Hola cutie. Been thinking of you all morning…

What each of these examples does is a) lets him know you’re thinking about him and b) give him something to respond to. The entire point of texting is to engage in conversation, so keep your goal in mind. Are you looking to make plans with him for tonight? Just catch up on your day? Have a more heartfelt conversation? Keep that goal in mind when you initiate a conversation.

2. Show Him You Have a Life

I know it seems silly that men would like it when you’re unavailable, but don’t underestimate the power of the chase. Make yourself too available, and you might turn him off. But show him that you’re a busy lady with lots going on, and he’ll want you even more.

If you want to learn how to text a guy to keep him interested, let him know you’re not always available. If you’re headed out with friends, respond to his text but let him know you’re walking out the door and that you’ll check in later.

First of all, this is just courteous because (and you know I’m right) when you send a text and someone doesn’t respond for hours, you start to get nervous. This way, you’re acknowledging his text but also letting him gently know you’re not available.

You can also text him about what you’re up to. Send him a photo of the fish you just caught or the band you’re watching. This makes him feel more connected to you while also showing him that you’re not sitting around waiting for him to text.

Here are some examples:

Good to hear from you! I’m actually walking out the door to meet friends for happy hour. Can I get back to you tonight?

Just saw the most amazing jazz band at the restaurant I’m at. You’d love them!

3. Ask Him Questions

Show interest in him by asking him questions.

You know you love it when the guy you’re dating asks you questions about your life and interests, so why wouldn’t you reciprocate? Asking questions about his job, his family, his hobbies, or his day is an excellent strategy in how to text a guy to keep him interested. By showing your own interest in his life, he is reassured that you dig him, and he’ll respond in kind.

Hey, how did that big meeting go today? I was crossing my fingers for you!

Your sister’s coming to town tomorrow, right? What do you have planned?

4. Don’t Always Respond Immediately

Okay, you know I don’t advocate playing games in dating, but this isn’t really a game. It’s more of a strategy that will help you down the road. What happens if you text him back within seconds now, but a few weeks or months from now you lose interest and drag out the time between responses? He’ll pick up on that immediately.

Also, again, is the chase factor. If you respond too quickly, he’ll feel like you’re always available, and that will take the challenge away.

Another good rule of thumb is to pay attention to how quickly (or slowly) he is to respond to your texts. If he takes all day, you certainly don’t need to reply to him within seconds. But if he’s fast to respond, you can do the same.

I don’t have an example for this tip on how to text a guy to keep him interested. Just wait twice as long as you want to before you respond. Or put your phone across the room so you actually don’t hear that he’s texted you!

5. Use Emojis Without Going Overboard

Just as texting has evolved over the past years, so has the use of emojis. It’s not just teenagers using them. Emojis can better express the intention behind your words, which is important because it’s all too easy to misinterpret a text.

But pay attention to how often you use those emojis (and gifs are great, too). If this guy never sends a single emoji, you don’t want to come off as juvenile by peppering your texts with them. Match his cadence.

For this example, let’s look at how an emoji can better illustrate meaning behind a text.

Without emoji: Who said anything about me missing you?

With emoji: Who said anything about me missing you? 😉

Without emoji: I haven’t seen you all week!

With emoji: I haven’t seen you all week! 😢

6. Let Him Initiate (Sometimes)

Be patient and wait for him to send the first text!

I know you’re super excited about this new guy, lady, but don’t be overeager by always initiating the text conversation. Let him come to you.

Then give him reinforcement. Let’s say he texts every morning to wish you a happy day. This pleases you immensely. Let him know how much you like his morning texts, and he’ll keep up the good work.

That being said, don’t make your texting completely one-sided. For every few texts he sends first, initiate one. This shows him that you like him and aren’t afraid to give a little.

Learning how to text a guy to keep him interested means you’ll need to pay attention to patterns and tempos. Be observant and you’ll soon see that he texts you at the same time(ish) every day. Surprise him by beating him to it some days.

7. Have a Purpose with Each Text Convo

I touched on this at the start of this article on how to text a guy to keep him interested. Having a purpose or goal for each text conversation will ensure it flows.

Do you want to make plans for the weekend? Get to know him on a deeper level? Just check in to let him know you’re thinking of him? Have that purpose in mind when you text so you can keep the conversation on track. Plus, this keeps you from wasting his time, since you have no idea what he’s in the middle of when he receives your text.

Hey honey! Just confirming our plans for tomorrow night to meet at the park.

Hiya! I read this great article about mythology that reminded me of our convo on the subject the other day. What are your thoughts on…

8. Wait Til He Responds Before Texting Again

Here’s an excellent tip on how to text a guy to keep him interested. If you send one text, do not text him again until you hear from him.

I know in the early days of dating you may be filled with insecurity, and him taking hours to respond to you may make you worry that he’s ghosted or is no longer interested. But take a deep breath and have a little patience.

Realize that you don’t know what’s going on with him. He could be out with friends. Asleep. His phone could be dead. Silence is not a death sentence. And bombarding him with text after text when he’s unavailable is a huge turnoff.

9. Don’t Txt Lk a Teen


We all want shortcuts in life, but please don’t make abbreviating your texts one of them. You are not a teenager. Don’t text like one.

It takes milliseconds to fully spell out a word versus abbreviate it. And there’s always voice to text if you’re lazy or have fat thumbs! So avoid these:

  • CUL8R
  • UR
  • LMK
  • IKR

Now, I’m not saying you can’t occasionally throw out an LOL, but realize that you might give off the impression of being juvenile if you go overboard.

10. Be Witty

One of the best ways to build a bond with a man you’re dating is through witty banter. It balances the heavier conversations (“what do you do? what are you looking for? have you ever been married?”), and laughter is a great connector.

In psychological studies, researchers found that men like women to be funny, especially at the start of a relationship. It indicates to them flirtatiousness and receptivity.

So throw some witty lines out there via text.

You think you can beat me in the 5K tomorrow? You better pack a lunch!

Show me yours and I’ll show you mine…

I was talking about tattoos, perv! What did you think I meant? 😉

11. Know When to Take it Off Text

The fact is: texting isn’t always the best communication channel for the situation. Phone calls (or better: face-to-face) allows the conversation to flow faster and better, so if your texts are getting lengthy or the subject is heavy (his grandmother is dying), suggest you change the channel.

Katherine Hertlein, a psychologist at the University of Nevada, Las Vegas, says it’s important to determine the best channel for the conversation. She says that asynchronous methods (like texting) are better for problem-solving because they give you more time to digest the information you’ve gotten and think about how you want to reply.

Synchronous methods, like a phone call or video chat, can be more engaging for more serious conversations.

I can talk faster than I can type. Wanna continue this conversation on the phone?

12. Occasionally Send a Photo

Sending a selfie now and then puts you top of mind!

Communication isn’t just verbal or written. You can also communicate with a photo now and then, sent via text or Snapchat. It’s okay to send a cute selfie occasionally, but please, ladies, don’t overdo it! Sending too many selfies to him can come off as conceited or self-involved.

Instead, mix it up. Send a photo of something you think he’d laugh at or a snapshot of what you’re doing right now.

Ask for them back. If he’s hiking today, ask for a pic of the summit. Having him share photos is a great way to keep him engaged and can take the conversation to a new level.

My soufflé turned out great! Just call me Julia Child!

Such a beautiful day. Wish you were here!

13. Ask About His Day

You like it when your guy asks how your day is going, right? So doesn’t it stand to reason that he’d like the same thing?

Asking about his day is a great conversation starter. If he’s having a great day, you can share about yours. If he’s having a bad day, you can be the shoulder for him to cry on (or at least vent at). Pay attention to his response and ask more questions.

Just don’t start each conversation like this every day. That can get boring and monotonous. Remember, you want to keep things fresh and interesting, not repetitive!

You: Hey doll! How is your day going?

Him: Grr. Not great. I have a nail in my tire. Just got air in it and now need to take it to the tire shop.

You: Oh no! That sucks. Do you need a ride there? We could get coffee while you wait.

14. Keep Them Short and Sweet

Texts are not emails. They are designed to be brief. If you’re getting long-winded in your text to him, consider switching to a phone call or Facetime.

Keeping texts short also creates the opportunity for back-and-forth conversation. If you do have a lot to say, break it up in several lines to give him a chance to read and respond.

That being said, don’t make every text you send three words long. Respond in full sentences…just don’t create a wall of text!

15. Get Sexy (When You’re Ready)

Don’t be shy! Send a sexy text his way.

Sexting isn’t for everyone, and it’s certainly not required as part of your lesson on how to text a guy to keep him interested. Still, there are other ways you can flirt or be a little sexy without sending a nude photo or saying something crude (unless you’re into that. If so, full steam ahead!).

That being said, if you do want to get your flirt on, don’t jump into sexy texts too soon. Wait until you know the guy a bit and intimacy has come up as a subject (either through conversation or action). If you haven’t yet had sex but are thinking about it, texting can create a sense of anticipation that will make him crazy (in a good way).

Just went a little shopping crazy at Victorias Secret.. 😈

If you’re already having sex, a steamy text can give him reassurance that you enjoyed it and looking forward to next time.

Couldn’t sleep last night. I kept replaying Sunday evening over and over and over! 🔥🔥

Never send sexy texts if they make you uncomfortable. The right man won’t require them or send them to you if you’re not into it.

16. Don’t Complain

I know that the more time you spend with a man, the more comfortable you get with him. That means you’ll open up more and more, and in general, that’s a great thing. However, this doesn’t mean you should use it as an opportunity to vent or complain.

The occasional “boy, it’s hot out!” is no big deal, but don’t bitch about your boss, your kids, your life. There’s a fine line between talking to someone about what’s bothering you and simply complaining. Know the difference. If something’s really eating you and you want to talk about it, save it for a phone conversation or an in-person meeting. Otherwise, you’ll come off as a Negative Nelly, and that’s not sexy.


Texting can be a fantastic platform for getting to know a guy you’re dating. But pay attention to his behavior rather than putting all your focus on how to text him to keep him interested. Is he initiating a lot of your conversations? Does he reply quickly? Are his answers terse or more in-depth? Does he ask you questions?

But don’t just analyze his texts. Is he also making an effort to see you in person? If he’s not, you have what amounts to a pen pal. If you’re texting and texting with no plans in sight, be a Sexy Confident lady and ask him out. If he makes excuses, this guy has no intention of meeting you. He’s in it to get his ego stoked by your amazing texts.

Work on making your texts flirty and appealing, but don’t rely on them solely to hold up your relationship. The longer you date, the more phone calls and meetups you should have.

How do you keep a man interested via text? Share your tips in the comments below!

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