Cheek to cheek hug

You would all agree with me that people use different types of hugs. In that way, they express their emotions about others. People did it a long time ago and it won’t change in the future either. And if you ask me, hugging is something that brings people together and makes them feel good. It also has some positive effects on people’s health.

It can reduce your anxiety and make you feel like you belong to someone. It can also reduce your stress hormone and in that way let you sleep better. Want to know the best part? Scientists found out that couples that hug more in their relationships end up the happiest. Also, in most cases, they have less marital problems.

Now, you all have been doing this for a long time and you know that there are different kinds of hugs. So, how you will know what they really mean? Is there a way to know what it means when someone gives you a tight hug or when someone hugs you sloppily?

If you didn’t know what each type of hug means, worry no more, because I am here to help you understand them better. I will talk about different kinds of hugs and their meanings right now.

It will be easier for you to understand what it means when a person gives you a hug. So let’s start!


1. The tight hug

From all the common types of hugs, this is my favorite one. I love when someone hugs me with all their power. You can get that type of hug only from someone who loves you. When someone hugs me like this, they evoke my bright side and I simply feel amazing. I spend so much time hugging others like this and I enjoy every second of it. It is also called a squeeze hug because you are squeezing the person in front of you.

It feels like it is the last time they will see you. They want to show you that they love you so much and that they will miss you once you are gone. If your partner gives you this kind of a hug, it is a subtle sign that he likes you. It means that he is into you, but is scared to admit it, so he uses this type of hug to show you how much he cares about you and how much he misses you. If you ever had this type of squeeze, you know what it feels like and I hope that you will have many hugs like this in the future.

2. The side hug

This hug is the most relaxed one. It is also called the buddy hug. This is how close friends hug each other. People often hug like this when they are in a good mood or when they hug their friends and acquaintances. It is not as romantic as the tight hug, but it is sweet. You can often see this kind of hug when people pose for a photo. If they hug each other, the photo will be cute and lovely.

So, if a man has hugged you in this way, it doesn’t necessarily mean that he is into you. It is a sign that he sees you as a friend and you will have to go the extra mile to get his attention for something more. And until that happens, just enjoy the buddy hug and be happy. You sure have reasons for that!

3. The bear hug

The bear hug means wrapping your arms around another person. In that way, you are showing them that you want to protect them. It is the same when your mom or your dad hug you and you feel so cozy and protected in their arms. Now, you must recall that this can be a very strong hug, right? Guys like girls that hug like this. When they do that, they feel some kind of emotional attraction towards them.

Also, this hug is quite popular in sports. Rugby players hug their opponents from the back and in that way immobilize them. Now, they can do whatever they want because their opponents can’t move. Even when you use it in that way, a bear hug is more popular in love relationships.

4. The long hug

If you have ever had a hug like this, I am sure that you felt protected and great. This is the hug people give you when they want to tell you that they miss you and that they feel protected in your arms. It is also characteristic of a long-term relationship and for close friends. It is a pretty intimate hug and reserved for those who have strong feelings for each other.

In this way, they may want to tell you that they need help, that their day was bad or they feel down for no reason. If you get this hug, make sure that you help that person. If you get this kind of a hug from your partner, it means that he really loves you and that he is happy to have you.

If he also includes some eye contact in this hug, you can be positive that his love is deep. If you pay attention to his body language, you will see that he doesn’t hug all people in the same way. He thinks that you are his best friend and the one he can lean on when life gets tough. But one thing is for sure: No matter who gives you a hug like this, if you get it, you can consider yourself a lucky person!

5. The back hug

People often feel comfortable when they get a back hug. It makes you feel so good to be hugged, even if you don’t actually see the person that is hugging you. But you know that no matter who hugs you, that person has some deep feelings for you and that he or she missed you when you were gone.

This hug means your partner is totally relaxed with you and, in this way, he just wants to show you how much he loves you and how important you are to him. It is also called a naughty hug because you can’t see the person behind you and you don’t know who the hugger is at first.

But if a man hugs you this way and kisses your hair in the middle of the back hug, you can be sure that he is head over heels in love with you and that it is just a matter of time before he will put a ring on it.

6. The straddle hug

This is the characteristic hug for people in love. It is very intimate, done in private, and a sign of sexual tension. You can’t hug all people in this way because it is only reserved for those special ones. Mostly girls give this kind of a hug to guys and in that way, they make themselves totally exposed.

You need to trust someone a lot to give them this kind of a hug, so think twice before you actually do it. This hug reveals a lot of lust from the person that receives it and shows that you and your partner have a very good physical connection.

7. The London Bridge hug

This is quite a specific sort of hug because both parties touch each other with the upper part of their bodies only, while the lower parts of their bodies are far away. It is what is called the polite hug. It is a little bit cold – politicians and diplomats are often seen hugging like this.

If someone hugs you in this way, you should know that they don’t love you so much and that they don’t want to form any deeper bond with you. They just want to be acquaintances and don’t have the need to get to know you better.

You might be wondering why people hug in this way in the first place, right? Well, they do so not to act uptight, but they don’t show their real emotions to the person they are hugging. Admit it, the London Bridge hug is not your cup of tea, right?

8. The eye-to-eye hug

This is one of the most common types of hugs and is reserved for those that are in love. It is also called an intimate hug. I am not saying that you can’t hug your friends or parents in this way, but most people hug their loved ones in this way the most. It is a romantic hug and people in love like to express their love in this way.

When people look in each other’s eyes and when they spend so much time like that, they can see into each other’s souls and feel the love that is between them. If your loved one hugs you while making strong eye contact during a slow dance, you can consider yourself lucky because it is a sign that he is truly, madly, and deeply in love with you. Nothing can shake your relationship because both of you are so devoted to it.

9. The pickpocket hug

This is the kind of a hug you can give to your partner only. It means hugging them in a way where you will put your hands in their back pockets. It is also called a sort of a naughty hug because your hands are practically on someone’s ass. They can do that to you at the same time and if they do it, it means that they feel super comfortable with you.

They don’t have a problem doing it when the two of you are alone or when you are with your friends. If your man hugs you in this way, you can be positive that he loves you deeply. He feels good in his own skin when he is with you and this is his way of showing all his love and affection. If you are the one that can give this kind of a hug to your partner, congratulations – you two are a true match.

10. Quick hug

Most people say that they don’t like to get this kind of a hug because the people that are hugging them are not interested in developing any deeper bond with them. But that is so far from the real truth. You must have been in a situation when you wanted to hug your best friend, for example, but you were late for work or school, so you just gave them a quick hug.

Giving this particular hug doesn’t mean that you are not interested in the person (why would you hug them in the first place?), but only that you don’t have time for a long hug yet you still want to show them your love and affection. Now you can rest assured because even a quick hug is a hug!

11. The hug with resting heads on each other

Did you ever get that sort of hug from your man when he would rest his head gently on yours? If you did, you know how amazing that was. It felt like you are the most beloved woman of them all and that he has eyes only for you.

This hug is extremely comfortable and cozy and it shows that you have deep feelings for each other. It can also tell you that the two of you are a perfect match and that he wouldn’t be able to imagine his life without you. If this isn’t a romantic hug, I don’t know what is.

12. The hug with twirling you around

If you girls have ever been in love with a man who gave you this kind of a hug, I am sure that you will remember him for the rest of your lives. By giving this kind of a hug to you, a man shows that he enjoys spending time with you and he is not afraid to show you his playful side.

It means that he loves to see you smile and giggle, so he will continue to do this until you say it is enough. The best thing is when it happens all of a sudden. For me personally, this is one of the most fun hugs to get, so count yourself lucky if you have someone to hug you like this.

13. The hug around the waist

This version of hug suits people that are in relationships and it shows a lot of love and affection. It can be a strong hug or a more casual one, depending on the occasion. It is also a sign that a person feels comfortable and that they enjoy every second spent with you.

Also, some people consider this sort of hug as a sign of lust. You can recognize this if there is something more involved with this hug, like neck kissing or cheek kissing. Also, if he has some eye contact while hugging you like this, you can bet that he is madly in love with you. It can happen both in a long-term relationship and in a short-term one.

If you just pay attention to his body language, you will know what he really feels. When boys are trying to find out how to seduce a girl, they use this certain hug. They don’t feel awkward because they are not close to you but yet they feel that there is something more than just a friendship between the two of you.

14. The ragdoll hug

This kind of hug happens between two people where one of them doesn’t care about another one. If you receive this kind of a hug, it is a sign of one-sided relationship. No matter how much one person tries to make the relationship work, it is all in vain because the other one doesn’t give a damn.

It is the same for love and friendship relationships because, for both of them, this kind of hug is not something a person looks forward to. It is a polite hug so that the other party won’t feel bad about you not giving them any extra attention.

15. Sloppy hug

This kind of a hug might be long, but that doesn’t mean anything because it is sloppy. You hug people like that when you don’t care about them so much, but you do it because it is polite or because everyone else is hugging them.

It doesn’t show any love or affection and it looks like you’re just doing it for no reason. Believe it or not, people do give this hug from time to time.

16. Slow dance hug

This hug is characteristic of weddings where couples are so close to each other. If they move apart, they still leave their hands on each other. It is because they feel comfortable in that position and they want to stay like that.

It is romantic and sweet, and couples who dance like this feel incredible chemistry and connection. If you and your partner have this hug, you can bet that there is something really big going on between you.

When you dance with your loved one in this way, you will highlight your bright side. Others will see how happy and satisfied you are and you will simply melt in your partner’s arms.

17. The catcher hug

This hug is characteristic for couples who have strong feelings for each other. If you have ever had this hug, then you know what I am talking about. It looks something like this: You see your man standing there all charming and sweet, so you decide to run and hug him.

When you approach him, you can’t control yourself and you jump into his arms while wrapping your legs around his waist. This hug is very intimate so you can’t hug just anyone like this.

But if you decide to hug your man like this, he will definitely be over the moon. In fact, he will be the one who will insist on this hug every time you two meet. And who can blame him, since this hug is so sweet!

18. Flirty hug

This hug is for those who love to live on the edge. If you give a flirty hug, you don’t reveal your intentions about a man clearly, but the way you lean in to hug him and your body position tell it all. When you hug a man like this, it means that you want something more with him.

It means you are attracted to him and you are using your body to show him how much you like him. Also, every woman giving a hug like this prays to God that the guy realizes how much she is interested in him. If you have ever given this hug to someone, you know what I am talking about. Also, you know that this hug sparks a lot of chemistry within, so watch out who you are going to hug like this!

19. Self hug

When you start thinking about hugs, you totally forget that there is a self-hug, right? You think about hugging someone or someone hugging you, but what you don’t know is that this certain hug can calm you and help you relax. It is good when you need a hug but there is nobody around to hug you.

In that case, you can always reward yourself with this hug and you will feel better right away. Even if it is not something that we practice often, it doesn’t matter that it is less valuable. In fact, it is the best hug ever you can get!

20. The cuddle hug

This hug is for those in love. It is full of hugs, kisses, and cuddling. In that way, both partners want to let know each other how much they care. When you hug someone like this, you don’t just give them a normal hug. This is much more than that and the other side will feel special because of the incredible chemistry.

It is a hug that you give only to a person who means a lot to you and whom you love so much. Also, just because this hug is only for a special person in your life, it is rare, but once you get it, you feel so safe and protected. Who would say that hugs can affect people like this, right?

In conclusion, I just want to say that no matter what hug you get, you should just embrace it. It is a way others show us their love and affection. Maybe you sometimes can’t find the right words to comfort someone, but with just one hug, you can tell so much more.

When you hug another person, they can feel your good energy and you can feel theirs. If you are down, you will feel better the moment they lay their hands on you. Also, if you are happy, you will be even happier when they hug you.

Trust me, hugs are like therapy. You just need to know which way you should hug someone. Please remember that there are hugs that you can share with your friends and acquaintances, but there are some hugs that you can share only with your partner. So, make sure that you don’t mix them!

One more thing: Whatever you do, always remain positive and hug like there is no tomorrow. That is the only right way of giving your love to others!


LOS ANGELES (AP) — Steve Wyard thought he knew what sexual harassment looked like: a put-out-or-lose-your-job overture. Now he’s not so sure.

“Have we gotten to the point now where men can’t say, ‘That’s a nice dress’ or ‘Did you do something with your hair?’” says the veteran sales associate for a Los Angeles company. “The potential problem is you can’t even feel safe saying, ‘Good morning’ anymore.”

The sexual misconduct allegations that have brought down powerful men in Hollywood, media, politics and business are sending a shiver through the workplace. Men are wondering if it’s still OK to hug a female colleague or ask about her weekend. And some are asking themselves if they ever, perhaps even inadvertently, crossed the line.

If Garrison Keillor, the gentle-natured former host of public radio’s “A Prairie Home Companion,” can be fired for accidentally (he said) placing his hand on a woman’s bare back, could they get in trouble for something similar?

CEO Tom Turner of Bitsight Technologies, a cybersecurity company in Cambridge, Massachusetts, that held a training session for its 270 employees on sexual harassment last month, worries about the effect the national furor will have on the workplace.

Turner says his business takes pride in being a place where people enjoy being around each other. The company’s website features photos of employees taking part in ski trips and parties.

“With what all is going on in the media, there could be a tendency to go so far that you actually lose what is special about your company,” he says.

Wyard, who is retiring at the end of the month after 35 years with a company that supplies industrial washers and dryers, says he can’t recall anyone bringing a sexual harassment complaint during his time there.

He chalks that up in part to the family atmosphere he says exists at a business that has employed many of the same people for decades, including fathers and daughters who work together. It’s fostered a culture among its 70 employees, he says, “where you just treat everybody the way you’d want them to treat your sister.”

But he says his wife, the CEO at a health maintenance organization, got a complaint from a woman just last month who believed a fellow employee was getting too personal. “It turned out the guy thought he was just saying, ‘What did you do over the weekend?’” Wyard recalls his wife telling him.

John Frith, who worked for years as a spokesman for California government agencies and a California congressman before becoming a consultant, says he was always careful to keep even an innocuous inquiry about someone’s weekend plans to himself — particularly if he was talking to a woman he supervised.

Looking back, he says, he believes his most egregious transgression was ordering a female intern to fetch him a cup of coffee. He says he wouldn’t do it now.

“She glared at me like I was just the worst person in the world,” he recalls. “I would like to apologize to her now, but after these many, many years I can’t remember her name.”

While some public figures such as Hollywood power broker Harvey Weinstein have been accused of rape, others like Keillor and former President George H.W. Bush are said to have put their hands where they didn’t belong.

It’s those cases that have everyday guys sweating as they wonder whether they might have leaned in a little too close for that hug. Or if they should have kept that oral sex joke to themselves, or just between them and their male friends.

“What I see in terms of my male friends now is an, ‘Oh, my gosh, I hope I didn’t.’ There’s a sense of shame,” says independent filmmaker Laura Lee Bahr.

She says she has been reassuring male friends that giving her a friendly hug when they greet her isn’t harassment. It’s the flat-out propositions and the unwanted grabbing of body parts that need to stop, she says.

“So for me, I wish it was the people who really need to take a look at themselves who would take a look at themselves,” she adds.

University of Southern California sociologist Carolann Peterson says men do need to recognize that a sudden arm around the shoulder or a pat on the butt isn’t the innocuous gesture some might have thought it was, and it can make women uncomfortable, even if they don’t say so at the time.

“Sometimes we as women have a tendency of playing what I call nice,” she says. “We don’t want to offend anybody so we don’t say anything.”

But those days are ending, Peterson adds, noting the recent allegations against so many high-profile men have emboldened students in her USC classes to discuss their own experiences.

“We need to speak up when we’re uncomfortable,” she says. “And we need men to be a little more sensitive in what they do.”

Egypt university expels female student for hugging male friend

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Cairo (AFP)

Egypt’s Al-Azhar university on Sunday said it had expelled a female student after she appeared in a video hugging a male colleague, accusing her of undermining the school’s reputation.

The video, which went viral earlier this month, showed a young man carrying a bouquet of flowers kneeling before a young woman and then hugging her in what appeared to be a marriage proposal.

The video was apparently not filmed at Al-Azhar — a branch of Egypt’s highest Sunni Muslim authority — but at another establishment, Mansoura University in the country’s north.

Nevertheless the disciplinary council of the Al-Azhar University campus in Mansoura on Saturday “decided to expel the young girl definitively”, university spokesman Ahmed Zarie told AFP.

He said the video had caused a “public outcry” and that the university’s decision to expel her was because she had presented a “bad image” of Al-Azhar University, which strictly segregates the genders.

He said hugging between unmarried men and women violates “the values and principles of society”.

The woman, however, can appeal the expulsion decision, Zarie said.

The young man who appeared in the video could also face sanctions, a spokesman for Mansoura University said, adding that the school’s disciplinary council will meet on Monday to decide his “punishment”.

Egypt, a predominantly Muslim country, is a largely conservative society.

Last year, prosecutors detained a female singer for four days for “incitement to debauchery” after an online video clip which included sensual oriental dances and suggestive gestures went viral.

And in 2017 another female pop singer was sentenced to two years in prison on similar charges, also over a video deemed provocative. Her sentence was reduced to a year on appeal.

? 2019 AFP


Techniques > Using Body Language > Hugging

Reasons to hug | The process of hugging | Types of hug | See also

Hugging is a common interaction between people where bodies are brought into close contact with one another.

Reasons to hug

Hugging is used for a number of reasons. And sometimes for no apparent reason (although there is almost always an underlying purpose).


Hugging as a form of greeting is usually highly ritualized, with prescribed action and timings. These vary significantly with culture and can include variations such as:

  • Initial throwing hands wide, with eye contact and friendly facial expressions that signal the impending hug.
  • One- or two-handed hug.
  • Back-slapping or rubbing (typically two or three times).
  • Squeezing and lifting as expressions of delight.
  • Words of greeting spoken at the same time.
  • Cheek kissing or touching (one, two or three times, on alternating sides).
  • Holding, patting and eye contact whilst disengaging.

Hugs may be used both in meeting and leaving, with different rules for how each is executed.


Hugs are sometimes given to comfort a distressed other person, such as when a parent hugs a crying child or when a friend hugs another who is upset over a social matter.

Comfort hugs are often longer and may continue until the other person has calmed down. The signal for disengagement may well come from the other person, typically by loosening their grip or pulling slightly away.


Hugs may be used to develop trust and create an emotional and identity-forming bond with the other person. In coming close together you effectively ‘become one’, joining identities for a few moments.


Hugging is often used between friends (who by definition already have a stable bond). Touching signals trust and reaffirms the bond. If you can hug a person without worrying about whether they will mind and without conscious concern as to whether this will upset them, you are likely to be showing affection.

Like greeting hugs, affection hugs are often done in a prescribed format, with a single quick squeeze and a cheek press.

Some people, often women, use affectionate hugs quite frequently. A sad fact is that spontaneous hugging seems to be in the decline in societies where fears of abuse and litigation override the simple pleasures of an affectionate hug.


Hugging is a key part of any romantic relationship and a first hug, often given as a sign of simple affection, is a step away from a first kiss, which significantly deepens the romance.

Hugging in romantic relationships is often far more frequent and of much longer duration than affection hugs. The hug is more likely to involve full-body touching and may, in the appropriate setting, lead to further actions such as kissing, caressing and so on.

Hand positioning on the back is an important romantic signal. The lower the hand, the greater the romantic intent. A longer duration of hug also indicates greater passion.


When a man puts his arm around his female partner when there are other people about, it may be a signal to others that ‘she is mine — hands off’. This may be partly protective and can have elements of jealous guarding his ‘property’. A woman may also put her arms around her man when other women might seek his company.


When out in the street, a man may put his arm around his partner as a signal to her and to others that he is giving her shelter and will be prepared to fight for her safety.


A hug may also be used as an act of domination. Invading body space and taking charge of the other person’s body can easily be an overt act of power, showing how the hugger does not have to ask permission and can invade at will.

This can cause confusion where it is not necessarily clear whether the hug is an act of affection or domination. Typically other signs and relationship details will help clarify this question.

The domination hug may well be quickly initiated, giving the ‘victim’ less time to escape. It is also likely to include a stronger squeeze, indicating the power of the hugger. The disengagement may also be slower as the hugger hangs on, maybe even just to an arm, to show they are in control right to the very end.

The process of hugging

Hugging, although a simple act, has a distinct set of steps.


As people approach, one person or both people indicate the impending hug, typically with one or two arms thrown wide. Eye contact is established and the face will show smiling and pleasure.

There may be a pause as the hugger waits for a reciprocal signal that indicates that the hug will be accepted. The two people then approach (one or both moving forward) towards the embrace.

There may be other pre-cursors to the embrace, such as hand-clasping and arm grabbing. The approach may also be very brief with one person rushing in and grabbing the other.


The embrace, the main part of the hug, may be one-or two-armed. It may be from the front, the side or at a slight angle. The extent of the body touching may vary from the polite head touch (leaning forward for this) to the full-body hug.

The embrace typically lasts only a second or two and, to be successful, should lead to feelings of comfort and happiness. Distress will happen only in such circumstances as misunderstanding and domination.


Within and around the embrace there may be a variety of other actions and interactions, such as back-slapping, back-rubbing, arm-squeezing, hand-holding, cheek-touching, cheek-kissing, head-holding, spoken words and so on.


A point comes when the huggers have to let go and back off. This may be determined by ritual timing, which can be amazingly well understood to the point where it is not clear who initiates the disengagement. At other times, one person starts to pull away, the other senses this and releases their clasp.

Hanging on for longer can happen in various circumstances. Often, the second person will hold for a moment or two longer to signal ‘I really do like you’. Sometimes they will cling, unwilling to lose the intensity of the comfort or affection. This can be embarrassing and the releaser will often condescend to hug for longer, although they may also simply push away harder. An extended cling may also be a power move, asserting that the second person is in charge and will release when they are good and ready.

Disengagement often has additional interactions that signify a ritual unwillingness to relinquish the closeness, for example by short grips of the arm, stroking rather than just letting go, finger-tip clasps and facial expressions of further affection.

Types of hug

There are many types of hug that are used. Here is a list of many of these.

Name Description Meaning
A-frame hug (or triangle or teepee hug) Leaning forward a long way, touching at top (forming triangle shape). Quick hug and push away. Little or no eye contact. Formal greeting, often uncomfortable for both people.
Air hug Open arms slightly to indicate beginnings of hug. Maybe hug oneself. One or both people may do this. Greeting at a distance where real hug is difficult or could be embarrassing.
Bear hug Full body touch, tight clasp. Possibly with growly noises or belly laughter. One person often stronger. Strong and open affection from extraverted character. Risk of discomfort. Can be an act of domination.
Back pat Brief hug, often upper-body only, with patting of shoulders or back. Possibly no eye contact. Back pats are friendly but may be indicator of limited affection. In a longer hug, a back pat signals a desire to end the hug.

No eye contact says ‘I’m being polite but don’t really care.’

Back rub Longer and close than back pat, with rubbing of the back either up and down or in a circular movement two or three times. More familiar and affectionate than back patting. Rubbing is closer to caressing and emulates a parent rubbing a baby to ‘burp’ them. When not done immediately may be a request to end hug.
Body hug Standard hug, with both people vertical and most of the body touching. Warm embrace, not for too long. Smooth and uninterrupted disengagement. Standard greeting of friends. Shows relaxation and comfort with the other person. May be many variations on this.
Bomb The hugger runs up to the other person and leaps wildly onto them, possibly bearing them to the ground. There may well be multiple huggers for one person hugged. Often congratulatory or celebratory, as when a sports team member scores points.
Butt grab Full body hug with hands grabbing the other person’s bottom, squeezing it or pulling them in. Kissing may also be involved. Hands may go straight to the bottom or may slide down to it from back. Romantic, with strong sexual overtones. May be unwanted act of domination.
Cheek touch Leaning forward, very light shoulder clasp, touch cheeks, possibly with kissing noise. Polite greeting, respecting the other person’s body and space.
Clinger One person holds on for too long. The other tries to pull away but often ends up having to give in and return the longer hug. Need for extended comfort. May be signal of desire for closer romance. May also be act of dominance.
Comforter Hugger holding tight or maybe just gently. Hugged person may well be holding tightly. Comforted person rests head on shoulder or breast. Comforting person leans head on head of other person, patting or stroking them. Administering of comfort to distressed other person. May be between friends, partners or parent-child.
Crusher Overly tight bear hug. Often held for slightly more than normal hug. May be accidental ‘don’t know my strength’ but likely dominant show of power.
Cuddle Full-body with heads touching and firm clasp. May include caressing and comforting words or ‘mmm’ sounds. Longer duration. Very similar to the comforter hug and often with this purpose, although may also be romantic or of benefit to both people.
Dancefloor hold On the dancefloor, one person puts arms around the other’s neck, who puts arms around the waist. They move slowly in time to the music.

Often the woman puts arms around the neck and may rest her head on the man’s chest or shoulder.

Simulation of intimate embrace, even if it is ‘just dancing’. May be a precursor to more romantic events later.
Entwining Usually lying or sitting down, the whole bodies including legs are entangled together. Highly sexual. Making two bodies ‘as one’. May be used before, during and after intercourse.
Family hug Long and firm embrace. Often between parents (or grandparents) and children (even when they are adult). Heads touching. Display of family affection. May be for comfort, greeting or on departure.
Forced kiss One person tries to kiss (and maybe succeeds) whilst the other pulls away or only allows a quick peck. Poorly-judged attempt at romance or otherwise dislike of kiss by other person.
Full-on kiss Mutual and extended lip kiss. Successful romantic move (by both).
Group hug People stand in circle with arms around the backs of persons either side. Heads often down and touching in the middle of the circle. Celebration by group of people. May be ritual confirmation of togetherness.
Hand hug Looks like shaking hands but other person’s hand is grasped with two hands rather than one. Often used by politicians. May well say ‘I would like to hug you but I am too polite.’

Person with hand on top may be signalling dominance.

Head envelope The other person’s head is enveloped by the arms and pulled into chest. Hugger may well be taller. Protective and comforting. May be a a part of the comforter hug.
Lap hug A lateral twister that leads to one person lying in the lap of the other. Romantic. Classic sofa action.
Lateral one-arm hug People standing or sitting side-by-side. One person puts one arm around the others and gives them a quick hug. Quick and safe sign of approval or affection. If extended may be a comforter.
Romantic if in setting such as movie seats.
Lateral twister People standing or sitting side-by-side twist towards one another and do as best a frontal body hug as possible. Hugging when constrained by seats. Maybe when lateral one-arm hug leads to more.
Leap and lift One person (usually the woman) leaps into the air towards the other person and clings onto them, possibly wrapping legs around them. Other person lifts them up, possibly stepping back to absorb the impact. May continue into spin hug. Excited and open greeting, with significant trust and affection.
Leg wrap During close hug, one leg is wrapped around the back of the other person’s legs. Typically done during long hug with caressing and kissing. Indication of desired and actual intimacy.
Look at you Head of other person held between two hands for short eye contact and possibly a few words. May be done before or after (or even without) body hug. Eye contact creates closer contact and words may be significant. Can be light admonishment of a child before a forgiving hug.
Lover hug Slow approach with touching, sliding into embrace with extended stroking and caressing. Romantic and caring. Who knows where it may end up?
Man hug Quick grab, touching upper body only. Patting back a couple of times. Often avoiding eye contact. Quick release and step back with brief smile.

Similar in some ways to shoulder touch.

Greeting between straight male friends. Friendship but clearly nothing romantic.
Neck grab One person throws arms around the neck of the other person and pulls them in, with heads touching closely. Often a sign of affection. May also be seeking comfort. Can be dominant.
Open man hug Fuller body than standard man hug, with more extended hugging. Maybe with cheek hug and head-on-shoulder. Direct affection. May be gay or just liberated.
Pity pat hug In a romantic situation, one person pats the other quickly a couple of times on the upper back. This signals ‘I don’t want any romance.’ A higher pat shows less interest and quick pats indicate a desire to disengage.
Reverse hug One person approaches the other from behind and puts arms around waist with full-body touch and possibly leans head on shoulder. Hugged person puts hands over hugging hands and possibly leans back with head against huggers head. Relaxed affection between trusting partners.
Rocker Standard body hug with rocking from side to side, often with smiling and laughter. Expression of fun-loving personality. Similar to twister hug.
Sandwich hug One person is hugged by and between two others. The huggers’ arms may reach around one another. Typically parents hugging a child. Show of affection, comfort or celebration.
Self hug Wrapping arms around one’s own body. Maybe top arm clasping other arm. Possibly some twisting or rocking. Self-comforting. May signal ‘I would like to hug you’ or ‘I want you to hug me’.
Shoulder drape One arm casually over shoulder of adjacent person. That person may have arm around hugger’s back or waist (especially if the other person is shorter). Long duration. Not so much a hug as an expression of closeness (and possibly jealous possession).
Shoulder grab Approach as if to hug but only get as far as grabbing shoulders. Likely to have continued eye contact and arm patting. Often used by men who see hugging as too familiar. May be tactic by one person to prevent a full hug.
Shoulder touch Hands clasped in handshake followed by pull together, hands still holding and brief touching of shoulders or chests. May be accompanied by ‘ayyy’ sounds. Very often done by men as ‘safe’ and not-too-intimate greeting.
Spin hug One person (usually the man) puts arm under the other person arms, lifts them and spins them around. Open affection. Shows closeness and trust. May indicate possession.
Spoon hug When lying down with other person (typically in bed) and they are facing the other way, pressing part of all of body behind them (like two spoons fitting together) and put one arm around them. Like a horizontal reverse hug. Often sustained and may occur as unconscious connection during sleep.
Twister Body hug with oscillating rotation about a vertical axis. Similar to the rocker hug. Shows stronger affection.
Unequal height hug The shorter person puts arms around the waist and possibly rests head on chest. The taller person wraps arms around upper body and maybe rests head on shorter person’s head. Typically taller man and shorter woman in romantic embrace.
Upper-body hug Similar to body hug but only touching in the upper body. May be quite quick. Avoiding touching genitalia. Often between man-woman with no romantic connection or between two men.

Hugging is a very human thing with many variations. The above table is only an indicator and there may be different meanings and styles to the hugs.

Hugging can be between people of various sexual preferences and with various intents. The article above generally considers heterosexual men and women. The principles described can of course also apply to homosexual and other preferential contexts.

See also

Hug Somebody, Touching, Haptic communication, Identity

Pooja Parikh Traveled Across The World For The HS Diagnosis That Changed Her Life Forever

Last night I had a dream about my ex-boyfriend where we were using computers side by side. Toward the tail end of our relationship, which saw us cohabitating for some six years, all we ever did was use computers; relegated by yawning space to separate rooms in our little apartment, yards apart. We IMed rather than raise our voices, the din of the television swelling into the painful distance between us.

It was unlike us. It was unlike me. We met when young, at a time when both of us had waited through the numb-tunnel of our high school years as strange ones, lonesome ones, for someone we could love. When we met we hugged and kissed constantly with the singular needfulness of the deprived. Like we had been waiting all our lives just for someone we could hug and kiss without ever needing permission, and like having found it supplanted all other needs, like compatible personalities or life goals or tastes or anything. Having found it sustained us alone until we became old enough to understand it was not enough.

The laws of perspective apply to memory. Things seem different when you look at them from a distance. Come to think of it, I wasn’t deprived of intimacy as a teenager or as a child; children don’t think about whether certain things are okay, and that includes touch, holding hands. I had my first kiss at the age of six in a cement tunnel on my first grade playground. A little boy named Demetrius French asked ‘how about it,’ and I said ‘okay,’ and it was messy and strange and curious. Memory of holding hands, sticky palm to palm, with classmates whenever instructed to ‘buddy up.’

Girls had sleepovers, thoughtlessly. I wasn’t excluded. We never considered the privacy of one another’s bodies. We just were there and it was nothing to analyze; at one girl’s birthday-sleepover when I was eleven or twelve I had the remains of a sinus infection and we ate Doritos, and I blew my nose what felt like endlessly into a handkerchief that turned Nacho-Cheesier orange progressively. We laughed. Nobody kept their distance from me. We lay on our backs and compared toes.

Only when you grow older do you begin to analyze, to intellectualize, the potential innuendo of the ways you touch other people or allow them to touch you. You no longer have the freedom of thoughtless embraces, because you don’t want to give ‘the wrong idea’ to some unspecified ‘him’ or ‘her.’ You become paranoid about communication, maybe because you are now a single adult and you came from the sanctum of an uninhibited mutual home where consumptive touch was like eating and breathing and now you don’t really know how to touch anyone else.

Your cheek touches another girl’s when you hug and you wonder why she pulls away. You think about it for way longer than the gesture actually took. Some people kiss your cheek when they greet you, some don’t, some make like they’re going to kiss both cheeks and you’re startled and do a strange, weaving dance, clasped stiffly at arm’s length until you consent awkwardly to whatever it is they want. The weird smudges of half-kisses, gestures that aren’t real kisses, scratch and burn and linger on your face at parties where everyone smells like alcohol. You watch other people’s hands to determine the relationship between them. Your heart sinks when someone you’re looking at puts their hand on someone else’s knee just so. You learn to watch your hands.

You watch morning television body language experts who inform you that a woman’s knees point at the man she wants. You learn to watch your knees. You point your knees at the man you want or you touch him until you get even older and you learn about ‘how to play,’ how you ought not to be eager, how you should not be ‘demonstrative’ toward the man you want, and then you should endeavor to keep your distance so you don’t ‘let on’ or appear ‘too eager.’

You live in a city where personal space is illusory. You ride the subway and find yourself pushed into the cradle of a strange person’s arm, their soft body, you both must consent to this because there isn’t any room, and the packed, superheated train hurtles forward full of everyone’s breath and body, and everyone is resigned to it, and you are small and crushed and once the silence sets in and the train rattles off into dark tunnels it dawns on you: you are aware of being glad for the shameless physical proximity of other humans.

When you go to bed with others you will both drink a lot, when you like someone and they like you you’ll both drink a lot, because it makes it easier to surmount the tendency to analyze what and whom you are touching and why, you will be childishly unhesitant, no one will think about what anything means, not even when you fall asleep with your leg draped over someone else’s in that beloved tangle that indicates possession, fondness. No one will think about what anything means until later and then everything has to be negotiated twice over. It will never come naturally again.

Not like when you were in love. You will be visited by dear friends from earlier in life and they still smell the same, their hair or their skin or something intangible about them, and you remember the time you thought nothing of everybody getting naked to take melodramatic teenage graveyard photos and now, these days, you notice this: the way you say “I’m sorry” when your knee brushes one of theirs, like you had injured them by touching them, like you had violated your obligation to keep yourself to yourself without touching.

The worst is when you realize you’ve forgotten. In high school you had a friend who kissed a lot, a girl with long-long dyed dark hair and safety pins in her clothes who didn’t care that everyone thought she was strange. You were trying to be normal because you needed so much to be loved. So you winced with all of her embraces and her showy kisses and her over-demonstrations and hid, with your body, the silly lyrics and messages she wrote on your locker in lipstick, the way she did with everyone she liked. You were one of the people she liked, and you winced when she hugged and kissed you in public, all the while a little alarm sounding in your head that said isn’t this what you wanted.

You are now that wincing contradiction all the time. You suffer through embraces. The little alarm punctuates all of your stiff interactions, tries to remind you that you weren’t always like this. You try to put your head in someone’s lap because you used to love that and because they seem to want you to, but it feels weird, the stiff too-warm shape of their thigh, too intimate, you are forcing it, you wait an appropriate amount of time before you lift your head. So that they know it’s not their fault, so that you’re not sending yet another unintentional signal with your body language. It’s your fault. You’re the one who broke inside, somehow. You don’t want to touch anyone.

You don’t miss that ex-boyfriend. What you miss is how you tangled ankles and feet when falling asleep, had a way you knew to tuck knees within knees, habitually, without thought or discussion, how long that took, and then how long it’s been, and how you think you forgot, and what if you can never just be touched again?

The concept of ‘personal space’ spreading its immutable locus, the concept of analytical thought behind every physical gesture – are they just unfortunate consequences of growing older, or do you dry up inside, wick away from warmth like a singed hair from a candleflame, if you have been confused, harmed, for too many years? You don’t want to think about it. You wish you could stop thinking about it.

image – Oscar E.

7 Basic Rules for Hugging

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It certainly feels good to hug someone you love, and based on research on the health benefits of touch (Gallace & Spence, 2010), it should also provide a boost to your immune system. Hugging, of course, takes place in many situations, from greetings and goodbyes to funeral condolences and congratulations to college grads.

We certainly hug a lot. But who decides when it’s appropriate or not? Have you ever reached over to hug a non-relative, casual acquaintance, or colleague only to feel that you overstepped the boundaries as you saw them pull away? In an atmosphere where many people receive training on how to avoid sexual harassment, would you like to hug someone but fear it will spark a complaint about you?

Clearly, we could use some guidelines to help us determine when to hug and when to shake hands, or whether to avoid any touching whatsoever. These seven empirically-based rules will help you avoid the embarrassment, or worse, from a poorly-timed or unwelcome hug.

  1. Try to gauge the other person’s signals.
    Some people automatically hug without giving it a second thought. If you’re an over-hugger, you need to pause before you lunge to test out the other person’s body language. If he or she is standing straight as a board and shows no signs of bending toward you, either let the other person initiate the hug, or if you must touch, hold out your hand.
  2. Decide who might like to hug, but would find your hug to be offensive.
    In a study of attitudes toward touch among cross-sex friendships, Miller et al. (2014) found that women who were not in a heterosexual relationship tended not to want to be hugged by men. You might seem to be trying to make a move on a person you’re considering hugging if she’s unattached. Age may also play a factor …
  3. Figure out the best way to hug.
    A team of European researchers headed by Isac Sehlstedt (2016) found that older adults gave higher ratings to touch than did younger adults. They responded more affirmatively to such questions as “I am easily bothered if someone I do not know hugs me.” However, they did not seem to be more likely to initiate hugs, based on their response to the statement, “I usually seek physical contact with other people.” Older adults particularly seemed to like what’s called “CT touch” that is slow and gentle—some refer to CT as social/affective touch. It is most likely what you will feel when someone gives you a warm and gentle hug. If you’re going to hug someone, then, the chances are someone older will better receive your hug than someone younger, and it should be gentle (i.e., not a “bear hug”). However, don’t assume that just because someone is an older adult that they will welcome the hug, as cultural and other social factors might make that hug seem ill-timed.
  4. Look at what other people are doing in the situation.
    A graduation hug may be one that’s repeated 50 times by everyone going through the ceremony. Or you might be in the receiving line at a wedding reception, funeral, or other highly-charged emotional events. If you’re the first person going through the line, then follow the first rule above. But if you’re in the middle of the pack, you should have plenty of data to help you know the right way to behave.
  5. Be careful when hugging someone at work.
    Given the growing concern about sexual harassment cases, it’s wise to stay away from hugging as a way to show you care about your colleagues. For the most part, you should err on the side of not hugging, even if you think it would be welcomed by someone you believe you know reasonably well. It’s best to leave hugging for special occasions such as when someone leaves the company or retires, but again, only if it seems acceptable in the context of your workplace.
  6. Know when a “safe haven” hug is called for.
    A hug may help someone who’s emotionally hurting, in which case it is much like the hug a parent would give a small child. The term “safe haven” refers to the ability of a hug to make someone feel cared for and understood. This hug may be longer and is best to offer to someone you know reasonably well.
  7. Be prepared to reciprocate a hug offered to you.
    Perhaps you’re not a huggy type, but others around you are. If you don’t hug back, you’ll be perceived as unfriendly and standoffish. If you’re truly bothered by hugging, are afraid of catching someone else’s germs, or the other person is sweaty or a little smelly, figure out a nice way to edge out of it. As they move in toward you, turn your body to the side, extend your hand for a shake or stiffen up a bit and try to avoid contact. If this happens repeatedly, you might say, “As you might have noticed, I’m not much of a hugger.” They may appreciate that bit of honesty as much as an actual reciprocated hug.

Physical affection between people who care about each other is certainly a desirable and pleasant experience. With an appropriate degree of hugging, you’ll be able to find fulfilling and reasonable ways to keep strong the bonds of intimacy and friendship.

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Copyright Susan Krauss Whitbourne 2016.

Hugs are not always just hugs. They can have a deeper meaning. They can lead into a kiss or express mourning or empathy. They can be to say hello or goodbye.

But, what are the characteristics or signs you are getting a romantic hug vs a friendly hug? How do you know that girl or guy is really into you or is just giving you the ‘deeper life hug’? Find out below.

Romantic hug vs friendly hug

Friendly Hug. A friendly hug will often be light in touch. It avoids being too severe or tight. Most hugs involve pressing your bodies together, but when friendly it is about the act of the hug, not the closeness.

Romantic Hug. When a hug is romantic in quality, it lingers. Rather than a quick hug you may give to a friend before sitting down to lunch, this hug lasts.

Friendly Hug. A friendly hug may include a pat on the back or even a few pats. Think about a hug between two college roommate who haven’t seen each other in a few years. This hug reignites friendship or even is congratulatory.

Romantic Hug. A romantic hug includes a lot of closeness and touching. This hug would include not a pat on the back, but a rub. This may also be a lower touch than would be appropriate for a platonic friendship. Faces are also pressed into the other’s shoulder in a romantic hug.

Friendly Hug. In most friendly hugs, the arms are crossed. This means your left arm may go beneath their armpit, but your right arm goes above and vice versa. There is something universally platonic about this form of hug.

Romantic Hug. Even though during the hug you probably cannot see the other person’s face, eye contact either before or after can insinuate romance. Often times eye contact can start a romantic hug, and then once the hug is released or partially released eye contact turns the hug into a kiss.

Friendly Hug. A side hug is almost always friendly. When a friend pulls you in with one arm from the side it is a sign of affection, but not usually romance. Think group photos or even family photos of everyone wrapping their arms around each other’s shoulders.

Romantic Hug. Sharing a caress within a hug makes it romantic. It can also be a sign of comfort for someone who is upset, but that usually involves a gentle rubbing of the head or arm. When this caress is made on the lower back or chest, it is likely romantic in nature.

Friendly Hug. With a friendly hug, it is common for your shoulders to be touching or even your faces. But, you keep your waists and hips apart. These do not touch in most friendly hugs.

These areas of the body are more intimate and personal. Therefore, someone hugging you and pressing the full of their body against you may be looking for a romantic hug.

Romantic Hug. A romantic hug can involve one’s arms around another’s. This means the person being hugged has less control and is grabbed in a way. The person doing the hugging squeezes the other and often times the smaller person is beneath the other’s arms.

This shows a difference in power which can be not just romantic but also intimidating or seductive.

Friendly Hug. A friendly hug is always consensual. If one person initiates the hug the other person agrees to it. A friendly hug has a respect that romantic hugs can lack in the event of abuse of power in a relationship.

Romantic Hug. Romantic hugs avoid the upper back, shoulders, and arms. These are places we hug friends. In a romantic embrace, we reach around the face and neck if we are shorter and the waist and lower back if we are taller or the same height.

Now you know…

How to tell the difference between a Romantic Hug and a Deeper life Hug.

Hugs are not always just hugs. They can have a deeper meaning. They can lead into a kiss or express mourning or empathy. They can be to say hello or goodbye.

But, what are the characteristics or signs you are getting a romantic hug vs a friendly hug? How do you know that girl or guy is really into you or is just giving you the ‘deeper life hug’? Find out below.

Friendly Hug. A friendly hug will often be light in touch. It avoids being too severe or tight. Most hugs involve pressing your bodies together, but when friendly it is about the act of the hug, not the closeness.

Romantic Hug. When a hug is romantic in quality, it lingers. Rather than a quick hug you may give to a friend before sitting down to lunch, this hug lasts.

Friendly Hug. A friendly hug may include a pat on the back or even a few pats. Think about a hug between two college roommate who haven’t seen each other in a few years. This hug reignites friendship or even is congratulatory.

Romantic Hug. A romantic hug includes a lot of closeness and touching. This hug would include not a pat on the back, but a rub. This may also be a lower touch than would be appropriate for a platonic friendship. Faces are also pressed into the other’s shoulder in a romantic hug.

Friendly Hug. In most friendly hugs, the arms are crossed. This means your left arm may go beneath their armpit, but your right arm goes above and vice versa. There is something universally platonic about this form of hug.

Romantic Hug. Even though during the hug you probably cannot see the other person’s face, eye contact either before or after can insinuate romance. Often times eye contact can start a romantic hug, and then once the hug is released or partially released eye contact turns the hug into a kiss.

Friendly Hug. A side hug is almost always friendly. When a friend pulls you in with one arm from the side it is a sign of affection, but not usually romance. Think group photos or even family photos of everyone wrapping their arms around each other’s shoulders.

Romantic Hug. Sharing a caress within a hug makes it romantic. It can also be a sign of comfort for someone who is upset, but that usually involves a gentle rubbing of the head or arm. When this caress is made on the lower back or chest, it is likely romantic in nature.

Friendly Hug. With a friendly hug, it is common for your shoulders to be touching or even your faces. But, you keep your waists and hips apart. These do not touch in most friendly hugs.

These areas of the body are more intimate and personal. Therefore, someone hugging you and pressing the full of their body against you may be looking for a romantic hug.

Romantic Hug. A romantic hug can involve one’s arms around another’s. This means the person being hugged has less control and is grabbed in a way. The person doing the hugging squeezes the other and often times the smaller person is beneath the other’s arms.

This shows a difference in power which can be not just romantic but also intimidating or seductive.

Friendly Hug. A friendly hug is always consensual. If one person initiates the hug the other person agrees to it. A friendly hug has a respect that romantic hugs can lack in the event of abuse of power in a relationship.

Romantic Hug. Romantic hugs avoid the upper back, shoulders, and arms. These are places we hug friends. In a romantic embrace, we reach around the face and neck if we are shorter and the waist and lower back if we are taller or the same height.

Now you know…

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Some hugs on the shoulder are some romance stuff.
1. when a boy drapes a hand over girl’s shoulders and the drapes girl hand on the stomach of the boy that is a matter of couples and husbands means romance.
2. the boy drapes a hand over girl’s shoulder and the girl places her head on the boy’s shoulder depending how you distinguish him.
3. the boy drapes a hand over girl’s shoulder and the girl touches the boy’s hand.
for example;
I once was a student on the UTT university at 2015 on mexicali, I was leaving and returning home asking for a taxi with my two friends, Jose and Fernanda.
When we were sitting in the taxi, in about 2 seconds Fernanda is sleeping and laid her head on my shoulder. it depends if it’s romance or friendship.
6. The Deadlock:
Embracing yourself in this strong way almost expresses the fear of letting the other person go. In this embrace both people intertwine with as much force as possible, eliminating even the slightest drop of air that separates them.
It reflects deep commitment and not wanting to be separated. Author Caroll Bryant writes: “Love should feel like a quilt sewn by hand by the grandmother, wrapping us completely on a cold winter morning.”
Embracing in this way means that one of you has to go. Although you would prefer that it was not so and you stay there, right where you are.
7. The Flyiong Hug:
The hug in the air or in suspension is closely related to passion and lust. One of the two is surrounded by the legs of the other, either while sitting or in the air.
Regardless of whether there is any stronger connection at the sentimental level, in this embrace a very high physical and sexual connection is revealed. Gabriel García Márquez said: “Sex is the comfort that one has left when love no longer reaches him.”
In this relationship, passion prevails. They are usually hugs that occur in sporadic relationships and that only imply connection at a physical level.
8. The hug of Playmobil or London Bridge:
Probably one of the most orthopedic hugs on the list. In this hug we try to keep as much distance as possible between the 2 people, getting to adopt quite funny positions.
With this strange gesture shows discomfort and little or no relationship with that person, apart from not being much sympathy between them. Luis Miguel defines it as “I keep my sanity by keeping my distance.”
With this type of hugs it is clear that you are not looking for anything in that person, you do not need to have it close or you are looking for your friendship. Some people are simply known and we do not have to go further in that relationship.
9. The Eye-to-Eye:
A romantic way of hugging has to do with the special connection you have with that person. Maintaining eye contact is what makes it special.
This way of embracing is about the other person’s love and knowledge. Shanober Khan refers to the feelings surrounding this embrace as “You are the ocean of my eyes.”
With this look that connects the two people it is understood that their connection is very strong, it could even become unbreakable.
10. The rag doll:
This hug is in which one person embraces the other as closely as he can. The one who receives the hug barely makes an answer and remains impassive, as if without strength, like a rag doll.
Here is an imbalance between what they feel for each other. There is an old saying that says “Friendship is a two-way street”. Well, in this case, there probably is no real friendship.
No matter how hard one of you strives to make this relationship prosper, if there is no reciprocity, there is nothing to do.
11. Pickpocket Hug:

There is nothing quite as comforting as a hug from the right person. Whether between parents and children, friends or lovers, hugs strengthen our bonds while making us healthier and happier.

You may not have thought about it, but there are different types of hugs that convey different messages between people.

This is also true of hugs between potential life partners.

Hugs can say a lot about your relationship. Let’s see what these fifteen different types of hugs reveal as shared by Bright Side.

1. The hug from behind


You are busy in the kitchen cooking or cleaning up, and your guy comes from behind and puts his arms around you. In this hug he is covering your body from behind, protecting you while pulling you close to him, making you feel wanted.

This man is ready to protect you and is not afraid of responsibility. Even if he hasn’t said the words yet, a guy who holds you like this is in love.

The one exception is if your man almost always hugs you from the back. “That might mean he craves a closer connection but thinks you’re unavailable,” says Dr. Christopher Blazina, author of The Secret Lives of Men. “He avoids hugging face-to-face because he’s worried you’re not into him.”

2. The hug at the waist


Even if the man hasn’t confessed his feelings to you yet, this embrace speaks for itself. This kind of hug is an intimate gesture, and it shows that he wants to spend as much time together as possible. He trusts you and is happy to see you.

But be careful, these men are often quick to fall in and out of love in a relationship.

3. The hug with a pat on the back


We all know this hug, and it’s not a romantic one. If he is your friend, the hug is just that, a hug from a friend and the friendship is unlikely to go any further.

If you are already in a relationship and this is the kind of hug you mostly get from him, you might consider that he’s not really than into you. You are more like a preferred buddy. Maybe time to move on and find the one that will really be into you?

4. The hug while looking into the eyes


A tender hug from him while looking into your eyes spells a deep connection between you. He cares for you deeply. Hold onto this one!

5. The “London Bridge” hug


In this hug, there’s an actual distance between you and the whole affair looks awkward. If a guy hugs you like this, he’s not into you and most likely doesn’t want to hug you in the first place. If the distance between you is spontaneous, then obviously you feel the same and are only doing the polite thing.

6. The one-handed hug


When he embraces you by pulling you close with one arm around your shoulder, it is a vivid image of him taking you under his wing. This guy will protect you and be ready to offer help and support when needed.

If you are only friends, then the man offers his help and support. Likewise, a girl who hugs a guy like this is signal that the guy is just a friend and things will probably not go any further.

7. The naughty hug


This is the hug where the guy’s hand travels down your back and maybe rests on your buttock. He’s ready for some bedroom action. No patience here.

Even though you might not be in a relationship yet, he is quick to establish his “claim” on you as his.

If indeed you are not in a relationship, his behavior demonstrates lust, not love. If however, you are in a relationship, his clearly still has the hots for you.

8. The strong hug


If a man hugs you firmly and gently strokes your back, you have everything you need: someone that both protects and cherishes you. He is committed and wants a long-term relationship that includes the whole nine yards. If that’s what you want to, then you’re in luck.

If you’re a guy and you want to get a girl to like you, this is a hug.

9. The hug that lasts


This kind of hug keeps on without either person having to say anything. It is a silent expression of love and support that doesn’t require any words. It is not only expressed between couples but also between loved ones in general.

Whoever hugs you like this, will always stand by you through thick and thin.

All these hugs beg the question: what type of hugger are you?

10. The bear hug

This hug involves wrapping your arms completely around another person. It’s a sign that they want to protect them.

It’s easier to implement if one person is much bigger than the other. It’s common for men to do this to a woman they want to look after.

It’s not sexy or romantic but is rather a sign that the hugger truly cares for them.

It’s also one that parents use on their children to show that they’re there to protect them.

It can either be done from the front or back.

11. The straddle hug

This is where the woman opens her body and jumps into the man. This hug signifies that the woman is truly in love with their man as it shows that the woman fully trusts the man.

After all, this hug leaves the woman totally exposed.

If you’re doing this hug naturally, it shows that there is a great physical connection and the trust between the two of you is healthy.

12. The pickpocket hug

Only those in a trustworthy and intimate relationship can do this. This hug occurs where you hug each other in a way that you can put your hands in each other’s back pocket.

Perhaps you’ve seen this when people have been walking together before. It’s a great sign that you’re comfortable with each other and the physical connection is strong.

13. The quick hug

This hug is what the title suggests – a hug that doesn’t last long at all. It has no romantic connotations to it, and may even appear a bit rude. But don’t be fooled, it’s not exactly rude.

Generally, it means that there is affection there, but it’s kind of weird to hug each other, so it’s best to keep it quick.

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Guys who are awkward and don’t know the girl well might do this hug.

It doesn’t mean that they don’t want to develop a deep connection with you (otherwise they wouldn’t hug you at all!) but they’re just being a bit awkward about having a real hug.

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This is where the man or woman lays their head gently down on their partner’s shoulder. If this hug occurs, there is strong affection and you’re both willing to look after each other.

You most likely love each other and the relationship is going strong. It also means you’re extremely comfortable together.

15) The one-sided hug

This hug happens when one person is keener than the other.

It means that one person is trying hard to hug a person who doesn’t really want to be hugged. They don’t even lift their arms to hug back.

This is a bad sign of a one-sided relationship. This is also the same for friendship. A relationship works best when both are as committed as each other.

How to hug a guy

If you’re a girl, a great hug doesn’t have to be complex or difficult. All it takes is a genuine commitment to hold someone. Being half-hearted and hesitant won’t help you out.

Guys aren’t looking for the ultimate technique that makes them feel good. It doesn’t have to be sexual, or sensual. You just need to commit and be all in when you’re doing it.

Here are two methods, depending on whether it’s a romantic hug or a friendly hug.

Method 1: The romantic hug

1) Smile at your man and give him eye contact.
2) Wrap your arms around him, sliding both arms between his arms and torso, connecting them at his upper back.
3) Press your chest into his. This is a way to experience a “heart to heart” hug. You can even rest your cheek on his shoulder or chest.
4) Just relax and feel the warmth between the two of you. Let it happen naturally. You’ll both know when to stop.
5) If you want to lift the temperature, stroke your hand on his back and hug him even tighter.

Method 2: The friendly hug

1) Make eye contact and open your arms. Then proceed to move in.
2) You don’t have to be as close as you are in a romantic hug. You can keep your feet more apart.
3) Open your arms wide and place them on his back. Wrap your hands together.
4) Make sure your head is going the opposite way to him to make it more comfortable.
5) Squeeze but don’t hold for too long. You can just squeeze for a second or two.
6) Step away and smile at them.

How to tell if a hug is romantic

If you want to know whether a hug is romantic or not, there a few things you can look for.

1) First, you’ll want to get a baseline of how he usually hugs other people.

This will give you an indication of whether his hug with you is romantic.

2) Is he holding his hug longer than he usually does?

This means that he likes being close to you. He wants to develop rapport by prolonging the hug and showing you that’s he’s comfortable getting close to you.

3) Is he squeezing tighter than he does with other people?

If he is, this is an excellent indication that he wants to make you feel comfortable. He wants to be there for you.

4) Is he stroking your back?

This is a huge sign that it’s romantic and he is attracted to you. If he does it slowly and sensually, then he likes you. Usually, this will be on the lower/middle back. If it’s on the buttocks, then he’s a bit naughty, and he might be looking for something sexual.

5) Does he lift you up?

This is a definite romantic signal. He’s trying to show you his dominance and that he can take care of you.

What to do when a man hugs you from behind

1) If you don’t know him

If a man hugs you from behind and you don’t know who he is, it can be frightening. He might be coping a feel of your body, which is extremely rude.

So if you don’t know him, it can be a dangerous situation.

You can first push his arms away to signal that you don’t want to hug him. If that doesn’t work, then you might want to push your head back to headbutt him. That will certainly shock him and get him away.

2) If you like the guy

Now, I’m sure that a random guy doing this isn’t the majority of cases. Most of the time the guy will like you, or you’ve been previously flirting.

So if you’re enjoying it, you can put one arm on his arm, like your comfortable and you can lean your head on his upper shoulder.

If you like him, but you don’t really want to do this hug in public, you can turn your body around, give him a warm, proper hug and then proceed to move away.

What kind of hugs do guys like

This is a question that many women have on their mind, but the truth is, you don’t have to be so complex about it. There’s no specific technique.

The most important thing is that you’re genuinely invested in giving the hug. Don’t hesitate, or else it’s just awkward.

If you like the guy, your feet can be close to his, and you can move your body in and relax into his chest.

If he’s just a friend, then your feet can be further apart from his, and you can hold the hug for a shorter amount of time. Then you can smile at him and proceed to move away.

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