Ways to Keep
The Conversation Going
Less of You and More of Her
One problem with most guys is that they are generally
not very good listeners. By being attentive and listening,
she will feel that you are sensitive and mature The
tendency is that she will be more willing to share her
time with you in future.
Jenny was unhappy with her date. "I
was sharing with him about my Christmas experience one
evening while on our way home, but he just interrupted
me by talking about his nephew. Due to this, I find
it hard to share my experience with him and I also feel
unwilling to share it with him too", she recalls.
Don't ramble endlessly and monopolise
the conversation. Don't talk about yourself unless she
prompts you. People like to talk themselves. Focus on
her instead. She is the star of the moment. Talk about
her; listen attentively with your eye contact and occasional
nodding your head. Don't pass judgmental comments about
The Sweetest Name in the World
Get her name right. Pronounce it right. You don't want
to be in a situation when you have to introduce her
to someone else and not know her name. Pepper her name
often in your conversation. She loves the sound of her
You do not want the conversation to turn into an interview
session with "yes' or 'no' response. Ask open-ended
questions like "In what way…" or "Why
do you say…". Use why or how instead of who,
where or when. For example, instead of asking her, "Do
you like Japanese food?", ask "What is your
favourite food?". This keeps the conversation going.
It also shows your interest.
Keep all your conversations light-hearted and positive.
Never bring up negative subjects like death, problems
with your ex-girlfriends or problems in your work. She
is not your therapist, counselor or pastor. She is there
to have a good time. Avoid controversial subjects like
religion, politics, abortion and sex.
What can you talk about?
The following are safe topics that make
for exciting and interesting conversation:
* Hobbies - what do you like to do
in your spare time?
* Families - Do you have any sisters and brothers?
* Friends - Where do you usually go when you hang out
with your friends?
* Travel - Have you traveled much? Where have you been?
Which places would you most like to go to and why?
* Work - What sort of work do you do? Do you enjoy it?
* Education - What are you majoring in? Do you like
what you're studying?
* Pets - Have you any pets?
* What's on Her - Where did you get that ____?
* Activities - Have you ever _____?
* Sports - Do you like sports?
* Places - Have you ever been to ____ ?
If you still have trouble keeping the conversation going,
consider going out on a group date. This will take some
pressure off you to keep the conversation going.
~ Sam Choo